Women who pack suitcases for men.

[AnnaMosity]

I hear of this relatively often.
JUST DON'T DO IT.

1 b/d - if we are sharing a suitcase I pack it, if we have our own suitcases we pack our own

2 d (we are both rubbish at presents and cards, we forgot our own anniversary yesterday )

3 d DH does more housework probably but I do more house admin (bills etc)

4 d

BTW mostly Ds is way more feminist than mostly Cs

Panda I was actually making a serious point about how ridiculous it is to generalise about the decisions other people make in their relationships. I really hope no one is actually worried because they got A's or B's!

Or I was just having fun derailing a silly thread-

I know mini; that was a rather tongue-in-cheek scorecard :)

I know that - I'm just not sure everyone else does...

If I had all as I would have posted

All as.

Alternative scorecard for the more numerate would be:

Each A = 10 points.
Each B = 20 points.
Each C = 40 points.
Each D = 30 points.

Now total up your score.

40 points: You are downtrodden and you know it. Leave the?!
40 - 80 points: You are downtrodden but you just haven?t realised. Consider marriage counselling.
80 - 120 points: Aww, you and your DH are so cute. Together 4eva.
120 - 160 points: Way to go girl! You are the feminist queen!

Yay! I got 100 points! Togevver 4 eva! (Despite me being a SAHM who controls the finances and gives DH his spends.)

Is AnnaMosity Cod?

Seems very fishy?

I usually pack the cases. For holidays, its not 'his' and 'hers' - its ours. Logistically it works better if one person is responsible for knowing that all the miscellaneous stuff is in there and then divvying it up. He has to specify what clothes he wants, of course and then I reduce the too-great quantity of shirts. He does all the hassle of booking, insurance, airport parking, making sure the tyres are pumped etc etc - he does his fair share of holiday preps.

For work - when he used to do lots of business trips - he had a more stressful job than me, he didn't like having to do it, so I was happy to help make it that little bit easier. Its one of the trivial things you may do to help someone you love. Packing a business trip case is just not enough of a task to make an issue of it, especially if you've got the suit carrier type thing.

I am not upset by the quiz honest

Hecate, I am shocked by the slatternly way in which you organise your books

By genre - tick
By size within genre - WRONG WRONG WRONG - it has to be alphabetically within genre

Phew! Just scraped through with an 80

honestly my dh gets really arsey if I iron his shirts or pack his case or anything like that as he is capable of doing it himself.

His parents worked split shifts when he was growing up though and they obviously both did their fair share and I think that's why.

I only scored 100 on that quiz and I am wondering where/how it all went wrong.

Part of the issue is that I cannot bear the thought of DH buying presents for anyone. They would all receive screwdrivers or handkerchiefs. Year after year.

oh god, HR, don't set me off! It hurts that I can't do both! But size looks neater on the shelf.

I can't buy any more sci fi books unless I buy another book shelf because my sci fi shelf is full. Even though my comedy shelf has space on it.

Dear god, I need help!

and 110 on the quiz. I am going to have to go back and change one to give me the extra 10 points!

Yippeee, I'm officially downtrodden!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I had a feeling I was. I enjoy it, though.

Which is more downtrodden, running your life the way that suits you or bowing to the dictats of people who prefer to do things differently?

Ah Grimma, don't make it all serious again.

Sorry, I meant to after it. Better?

Really, Grimma, it's all downtrodden. We're women. We're downtrodden by definition. Really. I believe this.

I don't really believe this. In case the sarcasm isn't coming across...

Agree with sootica, what a can of shit the op has opened, and then left!
Fwiw, dh leaves out on the bed what he wants to take, I pack it. That way, it gets packed so that it doesn't need ironing at the other end, and I'm also responsible for making sure we have all the toiletries, sun stuff, gadgets etc etc. Dh carries it. It works for us. Who gives a fuck what anyone else does, and like a previous poster I'm really fed up of other people implying that because someone does things in a different way to them that it's wrong/submissive/downtrodden.....ffs, if it works and everyone's happy so what?

Oh grimma we are just being silly

Well of course we are because we like being silly not because we are airheaded females and the OP was being very silly thinking she could tell MNers what to do

I agree grimma - or think I do

If it works for the two of you because it's a practical arrangement or the person being 'done for' genuinely doesn't care then it's nobody else's business.

But if you're the 'doer' you should ask yourself whether it's because you just like being in control and question what that's doing to your relationship and your view of your partner.