Women who pack suitcases for men.

[AnnaMosity]

I hear of this relatively often.
JUST DON'T DO IT.

I might pack it if he sorted out his clothes. I would not pick his clothes for him and my partner would not want me to do that as he would want to choose his own. He would probably be better at packing than me anyway

Totally depends on the situation - we're going away for our first family holiday in a couple of weeks - I'm on mat leave and we want to set off on the Fri afternoon (DH only works half day on Fri) so I'll pack for us all - he'll pick us up after work and off we go - easy peasy!

BUT he's happy to do his own and usually does - just diff situation this time.

However - we keep an eye on an elderly uncle - my aunt did literally everything for him and since she passed away 2 years ago he has become completely dependent on us. We're trying to get him to do stuff for himself but after 50+ years of marriage his dependency is completely ingrained - I definitely won't be 'babying' DH!

More Panda, more more more!!!!

Wait, now we've switched to the BDSM thread...

My dh packs not only for himself on his frequent trips away but packs for us all too.
He won't let me do it.
He even packs for me whan I go away without him.
It can get quite annoying tbh.

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With suitcases we have both packed each others before.Just bunged it all in on the way.Sometimes I text him with the things I want in there whilst at work.

I have 100% control of the cash.He was sayibg the other day if you wanted you could literally have taken out 100 bankloans and he would be none the wiser.I havent obviously we just trust each other.

Why does it bother you what other people do? Do you know how a relationship works? Where you support and help oneanother. It wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I only did things to benefit me and my partner did the same.

I would never let my husband pack his own case if we are going away together. I have to be seen out with him once we get there.

If DH was going for a lads weekend he is able to pack stuff himself. For a family holiday I usually pack everything but I ask his to get out x number of shirts etc etc then I sort it all out as its easier that way.

my mum has always packed everything for my dad, he just seems unable to do it himslef (he's really good on most domestic stuff just not packing or ironing!). He did pack for himself once as he went away with my brother, when he got there all he had was his toothbrush and a spare pair of pants - he was never allowed to pack on his own again!

I pack whether it's a family or individual trip. Reason being DH would try to include the kitchen sink "just in case" and inefficiency in packing irritates me. He also gets up with small child six days a week and puts them to bed, will cook when he's home etc.

Basically the above is;
a) a long-winded way of agreeing with Tee and;
b) trying to state that, if the packer and packee(?) aren't unhappy with who does what then it really shouldn't be a problem for anyone else

[Desperately hopes semi-colons in post have been used appropriately]

I pack for everyone here, otherwise nothing but stupid junk would make it into the suitcase. I left Dh to do his own years ago, he was joining us on holiday a day later. He arrived with hardly any socks and undies, one pair of jeans and some shirts, so I ended up doing laundry on holiday.
Ds was told what to pack at age 13 and left to it, only to get to my Dads funeral with no trousers to wear and needing a quick trip to the nearest Tesco. SO I just do it to save myself the bother to running about and extra work later.

DH does his own packing. He once asked me to pack his bag when doing a back to back trip. I went out and bought him a 2nd bag so he can pack for the 2nd trip before he leaves on his first. He travels quite a bit for work (up to five times a week) so he has up to five bags packed on a Sunday night.

After packing for DD on our first trip I make DH help. It has worked out well for the past few trips.

I wouldn't pack for DH, I'd be bound to get something wrong.

I will never forget a friend of mine telling her DH 'I've packed your play shorts' when they arrived at ours once for a BBQ.

I could easily pack for DH. All he ever takes is another tshirt and a pair of underpants.

I do most of DP's packing, he works really long hours and I have more free time, don't see it as a problem.

But, I wouldn't do it if he was watching tv while I did the packing.

OP, YABU to generalise.

Never ever packed for him. He is a hairy grown-up and more than capable. If he forgets something, his problem.

DC do their own too ^^ as above.

Agree, OP.

See it alot on Mumsnet. It doesn't bother me that other couples have this arrangement. But I just think "Why?". I mean, I really, really don't get it. At all. Never. Never in a Million Years. Even as the hardest working SAHM in the world (and FULL respect for that) why can a man not manage to throw a few shirts and pants in a suitcase? Feminism. Nah, it never happened.

I pack for both of us as my DH has mental health issues which cause confusion and memory loss, so he is almost certain to forget something vital. While I'm packing he usually does the hoovering and changes the bedding so we come back to a tidy house and clean sheets.

Is that allowed, OP?

It is no more logical to say a women should or should not pack a bag.

Either is fine so long as the decision is not made on the basis of gender or status.

How a couple divide their work load is no ones business but their own.

Janelikesjam - "But i just think "why?". I mean, I really, really don't get it. At all."

YOU dont need to "get it", the COUPLE get it! You need to mind your own business.

We're going away for the weekend tomorrow as soon as dh gets home from work. I will be doing the packing tomorrow for all of us.

I'm a sahm - it makes perfec sense for us that I pack and get everything ready while dh is in work.

I really don't understand the relationship some couples have where each has to do everything for themselves - my washing / his washing my ironing / his ironing etc Whatever happened to partnership.

OP - No one tells me what to do, if I want to pack for my husband and he is happy for me to so then that is what I will do!

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I would never pack his case for him, frankly I don't give a shit what he packs (and doesn't pack). However, I take control of the DCs (young) suitcases as I would give a shit if they only had 3 pairs of knickers for fortnight.

Well I don't know, laydeez. It's one thing to infantilise your grown-up husband. Quite another to brag about it!

If anybody went around telling people they decide what I'm taking on holiday because I'd "just pack a load of junk", haven't got a clue what I wear, etc, I'd go apeshit!

Horses for courses, I guess [rolleyes]

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Oh dear me. Infantilise. Sure. That's what's it all about [rolleyes]

Some of us are a team. We do things for each other. Unlike some woman with the mine is mine and yours is mine mindset that is prevalent amongst the fem bots.