Women who pack suitcases for men.

[AnnaMosity]

I hear of this relatively often.
JUST DON'T DO IT.

Bonsoir I love it all .

I spend far too much time on the internet looking at holiday destinations etc. I have guidebooks on the shelves for countries we didn't actually get to .

Love it, love it, love it.

DH has got a big thing at the moment that there are only five more years before DC go to university. Which means relatively few holidays to take with them. Cue frantic discussion sabout where we must take them.

Came on to boast.

We are going away at th weekend. Not only has DH bought himself the required new socks etc, he already has his bags packed and ready to go andi helping with the DDs.

While my case looks like a jumble sale and I'm still trying schedule nail appointments etc.

I will check about twenty times he has all the paperwork before we leave though( and the only reason he has it, before anyone says, is that I don't want the responsibility of it!)

we went to florida for that last holiday wordfactory dd1 was 17 and we knew she wouldnt come with is again,

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Also DP packs the car. That's his "thing". He's pretty good at it too. Never knew it was possible to get 4 people, a weeks worth of luggage for them all, a baby buggy and about 50 christmas presents into a Ford Fiesta RS. But it is even though it was a bit of a squish

I pack for DH because I am normally packing while he is at work. His things and mine generally go in the same case so it makes no sense to leave his things out for him to put in, better for me to do it otherwise my dresses and tops get squashed when he puts his jeans in on top.

He decides what he is taking though, I don't just pack without his involvement.

I find it bizarre that people care about this stuff tbh, don't we just all do what works for us as couples/families?

wordfactory - if the destination is good and you are paying then they will still come with you!

YABU and what has it got to do with you anyway?

I pack for DH because I like making lists and being organised and packing, not because he can't be bothered or wouldn't do it otherwise. He lets me get on with it and has even forgiven me for the one year where he only had 4 pairs of underwear for a week because I mixed up the lb and kg measures on our home scales :o

Yes I am the anti-feminist incarnate

I don't care what other people do or don't do, but it really annoyed me when someone was shocked that I don't pack DH's bags when he goes away. He goes abroad on work quite a lot, and she was all wide-eyed with that "deeply shocked and saddened" look that I don't play the good little housewife and pack his bags for him.

We went on holiday with another couple.

My friend packed for her dh & unpacked for him when we arrived. Then she did it all in reverse at the end. He spent first few days saying, 'did you pack my..... mummy ?' They do have a lazy bastard/enabler type of relationship.

My dh would think I'd gone mad if I started mothering him to this extent, or at all.

Oh mresjay .

But how great you had a lovely holiday.

I keep hearing other Mums saying 'oh if you go somehwere great they want to come with you.' But I dunno. When I was in university I went interailing and backpacking in India and what have you. I would be a bit disappointed if DC didn't do likewise.

Oh it would irritate my DH if I packed for him on work trips, he knows what he needs I don't. Eg. Does he need a suit, it depends on who he's seeing.

well that one person who was shocked and sad you don't pack for DH has issues blister but it doesn't mean all people who pack for their DH have the same issues.

alibaba do you think so?

I was just so very independent at that age...

yeah we did have a great time we pushed the boat out and got a fancy hotel and it was lovely we didnt do disney but universal it was lovely , she still lives at home her college is drivable . but she is in spain at the moment with her boyfriend oh how fast they grow

Militant feminists should be packed up and sent to Al Q training camp, one is curious which side will start whimpering and begging for mercy first.
My money is on Al Q.
OP, live and let live, most adults are capable of deciding their own packing, ahem, order.

In Spain with her boyfriend!!!!

Swoons at how close this is!!!!

DC are almost 13.

What on earth is a "surrendered woman"?

I generally pack for my DH. I also do most of the cooking and the washing. However if you suggested to anyone who knows me that I am the "little woman" or that I act like the much maligned "50s housewife" they'd laugh their socks off.

porky i pack and unpack when we go away too. Otherwise DP gets dressed from the bag. He wont use a suitcase and yanks everything out of the holdall onto the floor then just walks over it and our room looks like an explosion in clothes shop. So as i don't want to spend my hol in a room like that i put it all way.

Therefore mind your own sodding buisness on how our packing should work

Totally agree with iknowwho, although tbh my DH would hit the roof if I went anywhere near his packing - he even does all his own washing and ironing beforehand shame I can't get the bugger anywhere near the kitchen!

Time flies wordfactory

Mrsjay. You might be surprised. DD2 came with us last year and she was 21. We were going to my nephews wedding in USA and traveling round Canada though.

Thanks Hope.

I'm so tired of being judged by people who don't know me just because I make different choices from them.

Feminism is about choices. Not about who packs the fucking suitcase.

see I don't think a week in the caravan will appeal to her now mumee