Women who pack suitcases for men.

[AnnaMosity]

I hear of this relatively often.
JUST DON'T DO IT.

If a couple dont do anything for each other what is the point of being together?

You might as well just be flatmates with a bit of sex thrown in.

Would you really let your MIL go through your bedroom and pick out your DH's clothes? Because I guarantee you that's what would happen if I didn't pack.

There's a pretty obvious difference between putting the heating on and not packing your own pants, IMO. But then I'm not really into Partnerships, I suspect.

Do you do nothing for your partner miss?

If I stopped doing for him then he'd stop doing for me right? You realise it usually is a 2 way lot of doing don't you?

LeQueen, lighten up or I feel you may combust

If putting some clothes, in a suitcase, for your partner is enough to trigger an identity crisis and self-esteem angst...then I think your problems run a lot deeper than just packing

See you started it you vixen you

Oh, I'm sure we do do things for each other. He frequently does stuff for me, anyway . But then I refuse to marry him, so I clearly don't want that idea of a Greater Entity Than One Person Alone.

And I would rather chew my arm off than do his packing. Fortunately he would hate that too.

Because you are essentially choosing what he wears LeQueen

I would personally find that infantilising.

Do lot's of things just not "mothering".

Don't say "Bless Him, he's only a man" either.

Or

"If I didn't do it, it wouldn't get done"

But yellow I've stated my dh wears the same shit all the time give or take a layer. There is nothing to choose, it's a purely practical exercise of putting his stuff from the drawer into the suitcase. I'm choosing nothing!

Oh dear god, so because I'm better at packing than he is, I'm a downtrodden wife?

I also happen to be better at diy which involves concrete, plaster or anything semi liquid. I lay the bricks in our marriage if they need doing (I built our fireplace for instance). He also loads the dishwasher and puts clothes away. Does that make him a girly man or is it us sticking to our strengths and doing what we are good at? Oh and by the way, I'm about to start looking after the pool again, DH sucks at it, he failed chemistry and it shows. He will probably cook dinner more often as a result.

But miss what's the difference between me doing something or mothering? Where are you differentiating between the two?

I don't say any of those things either MissF but sorting four people's clothes into two cases is not a committee job.

He chooses what he wants to take then cleans the house and mows the lawn while I fold a few things into a couple of cases. I think I'm doing better in the arrangement personally

I pack his because I'm packing everyone else's and normally his at work. I have lists of things and check everything off, if he wants something he adds it to the list. I prefer to pack for him, it saves loads of hassle. He does so much for us, why wouldn't I?
Then again I cook dinner for him, tidy the house, take his suits to dry cleaners, bike to repair shop and pay the bills.

Mowing the lawn! See something like that doesn't even register on my things to do before we go list but it does on dh's so he mows the lawn.

Perhaps in the name of equality I should cut the grass whilst he packs his ten things yeah?

yellowraincoat I guess my DH is actually no more interested in what he wears as he was the day he was born.
I'm not sure if that's infantile, or very good delegation of something that bores him witless.

Or should we both do everything that needs done together like the bloody chuckle bothers?

I pack for dp, but this is because I cross pack - i.e. two bags with our clothes (and ds's) split between them. This is in the hope that in the horrible event of one bag going adrift you have another bag which contains clothes for both of you. Thus I pack because I don't want my clothes looking like they have been screwed up and shoved in. I can also get far more in a bag than he can.

My dad packs for himself and my mum (he is far better at it than she is....)

Our lawn is huge, our hedges are long and I delegate every leaf of them to DH

You non packers for each others must just iwn shit loads of clothes.Dh isnt choosing what I wear when he packs or vice versa as if we pack everything we have only got a case each someyhings obviously eliminated whethere going hot ir cold.

If any of you non packers came round mine even without knowing me or having met me you could easily pack for me!

LeQueen - you BUY his clothes

Now I've heard everything.

I dont usually pack for DH or for my older DDs (12 and 10), however I don't have strong feelings against doing so.

On another matter Hopandaskip - wow you have a pool can we come over in the holidays?

Oh my god, buy his clothes, this is hilarious, do you wipe his arse an all