Women who pack suitcases for men.

[AnnaMosity]

I hear of this relatively often.
JUST DON'T DO IT.

My DS packs for me and puts my clothes away. I am a sloven.
The one time I did it I forgot all his underwear. I know my limitations and packing is not in my remit............ he is also a domestic god :}

I cannot imagine packing Mr Inferior's case. And I cannot imagine him wanting me to pack it either.

He overpacks, IMO. Which is entirely his problem.

He packs his I pack mine - Why would I take the responsibility of maybe not packing something he wanted?

Do you "packers" also get the "darling (insert name) where's my socks, shirt, pants"

Blimey.

I'm laughing at suggestions of me dressing dh. His wardrobe consits of black Levi's (501's, about 4 pairs) and designer but plain polo shirts. He has 4 pairs of swim shorts for holidays and 2 pairs of linen trousers. He gives not a fuck about what he wears and doing his packing isn't exactly thought or labour intensive!

Miss his socks and pants are in his underwear drawer. He never has to ask, they're always there! On holiday they'll be in the suitcase. We don't do unpacking!

why would my husband need to ask where his socks and pants are? They are in the same place they have been kept for the last 20 years.

He did ring me at work last night though to ask where our hot water tank is as he needed to show the plumber.

So these things are where you always put them

I don't understand why women really think it's their job to look after a man. Or you just feel you should? Why do you feel you need to mother them?

If I didn't do DH's packing his mother would do it for him... Pick your battles and all that!

who said i put them there?

9 times out of 10 my husband puts the clean washing away. He even folds my bras into the matching pants for me.

Each to their own I guess but times are changing (thank god) and I'd hate to think I'd bring up a boy that thinks it's the woman's job to do these things unless it's fairly reciprocated. To me personally it's just YUCK.

Thanks LeQueen :(

Just realised I'm making the food decisions too which will inevitably turn my beloved into a man child

That's right miss, they are where I put them! I'm not mothering him by washing his socks, I'm just doing the washing. He doesn't really do the washing because I'm so shit hot at it there's rarely a load in the basket needing done. I do it without thinking. I put a load on first thing, hang it out and put it away. It takes less than 15 minutes of my time in all.

I didn't spend 2 hours on Monday building a wood shed in our back garden for logs for the burner. I didn't mop the floors yesterday or bath ds or make up bottles. I didn't clean the windows either.

I don't see washing his socks as a personal favour to dh, it's just shit in the house that needs done and gets done by whoever does it. Do you do nothing for your partner?

Really ladies you don't have to justify yourselves to me I just gave "my" opinion that all this mothering grown men "doing" for them really needs to stop.

Dp does all the food shopping, obviously he's an arse who controls what I eat.

'Do you do nothing for your partner?'...Er, probably not . Unless you count slinging some of the washing he's already done into his heap of Washing To Put Away?

Now now LeQueen let's not get so defensive here ay.

Boy you are getting a bit het up here aren't you

Yes, low self-esteem is definitely the issue, LeQueen

Some of us would just rather not treat our partners like infants. How the hell am I supposed to know what he wants to wear? And if he has time to tell me, he has time to do it himself. Because I'm certainly not going to stand in the wardrobe thinking "ah, he can wear his ickle stripy polo shirt and his grey chinos".

motherinferior do you really not do anything for him, or he for you?

To me that is such a bizarre set up, each living in isolation. One of the amazing things about marriage is that you can achieve more together than you can individually, or at least DH and I find that to be the case.