Yeah, I noticed that damsel but surely that doesn't preclude me from calling you on an unfair, ignorant and frankly a quite juvenile and rude response to garlic.
There's no need for you to hang on my every post, but please, if you're going to pull me up on content, make sure you read everything I've said. Otherwise you'll just look silly claiming what I said wasn?t consistent with my reply to garlic.
Anyway, if you're interested in listening, I'll recap my posts.
There's nothing wrong with either partner in an equal relationship playing to their strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes.
There's everything wrong with belittling someone either deliberately or inadvertently. That damages relationships.
I happen to be married to a control freak. He doesn't beat me but amongst other things, he does insist on packing and taking charge of all travel arrangements including choosing, booking, and carrying all documents and money, including boarding passes, to the aircraft door. That's what attracted me to this thread.
He loves me and I love him and he does it because it hurts him more than I can imagine not to be in control of that aspect of our lives. It?s fear, basically. But I don?t know what he?s afraid of, and he probably doesn?t either.
But it is really fucking annoying, or infantilising, in fact, and I've decided it's got to stop because appeasing control freaks never ends and could ultimately wreck our relationship.
There have been no big rows, but I am dealing with this with humour, patience and firmness. We will both be better off at the end.
FWIW I am willing to lay money on the fact that DH knows more than anyone else on this thread about clothes - men's and women's. He should do, because that's his job.
He doesn't choose my clothes but I would be happy to defer to his advice because he knows what he's talking about, unlike most people, men and women, who think they know what looks good on others.
But it's advice only. He doesn't tell me I dress like an idiot and he wouldn't dare.