To have not shown my boss any sympathy about her dying dog?

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I know. Sounds like a thread designed to cause a ruck, doesn't it?

Basically, it's this. My boss is a heartless, immature cow. She is , still lives with her parents and has no clue how the real world works. She is a massive hypochondriac, I mean seriously, she is ill EVERY time I go into work. She always has to leave early/go on extended lunch breaks for some reason. She is a frigging nightmare.

In January, I had to take time off to look after DS when he has chickenpox. Not much time, a few days, but she didn't like it. Then in February her dog died. She had three days off and I left her a card saying that I was thinking of her. Then in March I had to take another day off because I was ill. She was vile about it.

Now her other dog is dying. At work on friday, she kept saying that everytime she thought about her sick dog, she felt ill. Her entire family were taking the dog to the vets the next morning and she took the morning off to go with them. I think it's pathetic that she gets this upset over a dog yet has no empathy for sick children. I didn't show her any sympathy at all. I felt like chinning her tbh.

If she's horrid she's horrid

The dog is kind of immaterial. So is the second one.

I mean, whatever her ishoo you'd not feel sympathy because she is a horrid.

You don't say how your boss "was vile" or "she didn't like it" about your concerns. If she was out of order professionally, call her on it. Don't confuse it with her daft antics about her pooches.

You've bought into her shite by sending her a card about her fricking dog. Smile and nod.

OP, if your boss is using annual leave to take time off following the dog's demise, fair enough. Surely it's not compassionate leave for a pet dying? That's just crazy talk. YANBU in the slightest, but then again, I am a meanie who doesn't like dogs at all. I ccan see why one would be upset at a pet dying, of course, and I can empathise, but an adult needing to take time off work? No way.

She sound like a bit of a twat.

However my sister has two dogs. She can't have kids so her dogs are like her children. I really get pissed off when people scoff at that. Those of us who HAVE kids know how that love feels, we know the difference but your boss doesn't and my sister never will .

So with that in mind I place a great deal of importance on my sisters dogs and what they mean to her and so understand what your bosses dogs must mean to her so I do think YABU.

akaemma, my boss was in a similar situation, loved her dogs but she was also really empathetic and lovely if my kids were ill. I asked about her dogs etc because they meant so much too her. But it was a two way street.

I'm loving the video montage, who shows that at work? Can she do her job?

She may have taken annual leave, but it still is at short notice and inconvenient, over a dog.

She sounds like she doesnt have very good management qualities.

My old boss came into work one morning looking a bit worse for wear. Over tea and cigarettes she informed me her dog had died the day before but she'll be alright, her next sentence was "right let's see about getting this delivery in shall we"

A good manager upon hearing of illness or family death will react with sympathy (I can't remember who it was that said managers shouldnt be sympathetic) If it effects the business the person who is ill or bereaved do not need to hear about it.

she doesnt sound very self aware and a bit of a nightmare and a pretty rubbish boss are managers not supposed to have people skills , I would have said sorry about your dog and let it go, yes she may have been a bitch about your time off but ignore her .

Just because she's has no sympathy/empathy doesn't mean you shouldn't. That's a bit tit for tat. Rise above it and be the better person.

Poor woman She may be a horrible human being at times but FFS try to be a nicer one.

"I think chicken pox trumps dead dog in the reasons to be off work stakes.
But dead dog definitely trumps chicken pox in the heartbreak stakes.
"
Yes.

what kellyelly said dont be like her

Poro woman my fucking cheeks.

I am on one this morning so can I list some more things she's done? Just to give you a clearer picture of the type of cunt she is? Thanks!

• When I was pregnant with DS (7 months) I got into work and suddenly realised I hadn't felt him move for 3 days. I don't know why I hadn't noticed before then probably a mixture of tiredness/agony from SPD but I had a major meltdown. Another colleague told me she wanted to drive me straight to the maternity unit to get checked over. Boss said I couldn't go as she had a bad chest and her mum was coming to fetch her. Other colleague told boss to swivel and marched me out. She rang me when I was waiting to go in to see if everything was OK and for me to go back. The midwife got told all about ti and she said "WEll I'm signing you off for the rest of the day so tell your manager to stick that in her pipe."

• When I was 8 months pregnant, she made me cry by shouting at me because I hadn't done something fast enough. I'd got half of something done that needed two people. She was out shopping with her BF for christmas presents. It was xmas eve, our busiest day.

• When I got signed off with depression in 2005, she saw me out with my mum in Boots and said "Oh well I expected you to have no make-up on and look all miserable. You look fine!" Cunt.

• When I told her I was pregnant (at 8 weeks, had to tell her as I was constantly running off to puke) I asked her to keep it quiet. Two days later, people from our other branch were ringing to congratulate me.

There is more. She is a twat.

*Poor

It is a culmination of things, not just the chickenpox saga. She has no empathy for anyone else. I sent a card for her first dog death. I think I've been pretty saintly up until now so don't tell me to be a nicer human being.

Give her some spoony lurrve, she is sad without doggy woof-woof.

You are a heartless beastie.

Two wrongs don't make a right, some people love their dogs like children ( if they don't have kids ) its really not very hard to mutter a few words of condolence and be the bigger person is it?

Ahhh fuck it. Being the bigger person doesn't pay off. Not when you're up against someone with the hide of fifty rhinos.

I suspect you should tell her she's an unsympathetic insensitive twat then. Followed by 'I'm sorry about your dog'. That would cover all bases

Being the bigger person doesn't pay off. It's true.

As my 13 yr old dd pointed out the other day, the moral high ground is very boring and it's no wonder nobody wants it.

Ah, see now I get it. She has made her twattishness Personal. So you want Revenge. Plot and plan, Buppers. Plot and plan.