To have not shown my boss any sympathy about her dying dog?

[BupcakesandCunting]

I know. Sounds like a thread designed to cause a ruck, doesn't it?

Basically, it's this. My boss is a heartless, immature cow. She is , still lives with her parents and has no clue how the real world works. She is a massive hypochondriac, I mean seriously, she is ill EVERY time I go into work. She always has to leave early/go on extended lunch breaks for some reason. She is a frigging nightmare.

In January, I had to take time off to look after DS when he has chickenpox. Not much time, a few days, but she didn't like it. Then in February her dog died. She had three days off and I left her a card saying that I was thinking of her. Then in March I had to take another day off because I was ill. She was vile about it.

Now her other dog is dying. At work on friday, she kept saying that everytime she thought about her sick dog, she felt ill. Her entire family were taking the dog to the vets the next morning and she took the morning off to go with them. I think it's pathetic that she gets this upset over a dog yet has no empathy for sick children. I didn't show her any sympathy at all. I felt like chinning her tbh.

I think chicken pox trumps dead dog in the reasons to be off work stakes.
But dead dog definitely trumps chicken pox in the heartbreak stakes.

Unsolicited talk about the dog. I had my head down trying to do stuff on friday and she kept clutching at her forehead saying "I've got such a headache. It's all this worry about Bonio" and stuff like that. She did it about 50 times and I didn't answer her once, apart from the ocasional, disinterested "awwww".

Bupcakes threads always make me rofl. "Facebook technical glitch" really tickled my funny bone. I have people like this on my Facebook whose statuses I'm tempted to hide, but in the end I'm dragged into watching the car crash that is spending £1700 on a monkey. For example.

I digress- this is a typical "reap what you sow" moment. Had she been more concerned about the condition of poorly DS then you may be more inclined to give sympathy when she needs it.

I would love to see the chicken pox video montage.

There was a period a few years ago when everyone was doing video montages. I wept at every one of them. I cry quite easily.

My goldfish died I need 5 weeks off, just to make the video montage. Poor Splash.

I want to see it! Esp. with aristocats song!

She does sound truly dreadful but do suspect she resents you because your life is better than hers. I always feel a bit sorery for people like that whilst resenting them fiercely for behaving like such tossers

Our local special leave policy is very clear that it's not the managers job to assess how 'crtical' the scenario is that necessitates emergency paid leave. It must just have been unforseeable. I've had one person take a day off for a dog. No skin off my nose. You get up to 5 days a year. Dog or flooding washing machine or sick child - I'm not bothered because you can have the time and when your allowance is gone, it's gone.

lol @ Poor Splash!

She DOES resent me. I'm not being a big head but she said "I use you as a guide for my life" as in she wanted to be married/have a house at the same age as me/have children at the same age as me. Well, that's not happened has it, love?

The dying dog's name is Bonio??

Oh no, poor you bupcakes.
She'll get as much mileage as possible from this.
You are stuck between a rock and a hard place.
What about just 'hmmmm' instead of the effort of verbalising a vowel?

The forehead clutching and insistence on talking about it would grate on me.
You know...there is a certain type of person who practically forces you into paying attention to their shit, by way of employing social convention and good manners. It's really sneaky and unpleasant.

Nah, it's a nom de plume for the purposes of slagging her off anonymously on this here thread.

Slagging boss off, not Mark Fowler Dog.

Sick child trumps not-so-dead dog. But then I am an evil dog hater

Pictish you are so right. It took me EFFORT not to be sympathetic/offer kind words because it felt wrong not to, IYSWIM? I felt like an arse not offering kindnesses but onl because manners tells me thus, not because I give a shit.

lets have a video montage competition

Thought it was too good to be true. If it had been true she could have had dem bones as his montage song.

So true pictish
They rely on others good manners and discomfort. What to do though?

Scummymummy - dem bones.

Admittedly she is a cow - however I would hold the moral high ground....

When the dog died before, we were treated to a hideous video montage of the dog to the soundtrack of "You Got a Friend"....... Bloody hell. [Sorry .. - had to succumb to a bit of a roffle, even though I've also lost a dog..and, er, human family members]. I'm with you, OP. Your boss is uneducated about the concept of 'give and take', and needs to develop a sense of proportion/balance about pets - vs- people.

Sorry .. - had to succumb to a bit of a roffle,

or a wuffle even

I've had this at work too. When DS2 (2) was hospitalised for a week with a kidney infection, my boss was emailing me spreadsheets to fill in. She refused to let another colleague have a day off to move house and we were told that college and put students should be our priority

When she found out her husband was shagging someone else - she took 2 weeks sick leave.

*out not put