To have not shown my boss any sympathy about her dying dog?

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I know. Sounds like a thread designed to cause a ruck, doesn't it?

Basically, it's this. My boss is a heartless, immature cow. She is , still lives with her parents and has no clue how the real world works. She is a massive hypochondriac, I mean seriously, she is ill EVERY time I go into work. She always has to leave early/go on extended lunch breaks for some reason. She is a frigging nightmare.

In January, I had to take time off to look after DS when he has chickenpox. Not much time, a few days, but she didn't like it. Then in February her dog died. She had three days off and I left her a card saying that I was thinking of her. Then in March I had to take another day off because I was ill. She was vile about it.

Now her other dog is dying. At work on friday, she kept saying that everytime she thought about her sick dog, she felt ill. Her entire family were taking the dog to the vets the next morning and she took the morning off to go with them. I think it's pathetic that she gets this upset over a dog yet has no empathy for sick children. I didn't show her any sympathy at all. I felt like chinning her tbh.

Sorry. Bupcakes!! Oops.

...parents and carers have the right to take leave to look after sick children/vulnerable adults, pet owners don't have any right to take time off for sick animals.

The right is to take a reasonable amount of unpaid time off to attend to the immediate needs - take a child to a doctor's appointment; arrange for someone to look after them, etc. There's no right to time off to look after a sick child on an ongoing basis - i.e. you're not entitled to say 'dc is sick so I'm taking 3 days off to look after them', without the agreement of the employer.

Well, actually Sooty... there's a story. I deleted her from my FB a while back. She sent me a message saying that I'd dropped off her FL and sent me a FR. I was too chickenshit to say "Look, I deleted you because you're an attention-seeking twat" and blamed it on a FB technical glitch.

Video montage? I'd rather shove office stationery up my bum!

is there a youtubelink?

Oh good lord. James Taylor crooning to photos of ex-dog.

It reminds me of the time I played 'Bright Eyes' on a loop for about a week when my guinea pig died. And I was 14. She has no excuse for such FB-based mawkishness.

Does the dog actually sing in the video clip?

Before I had DD my dog was my baby... (still very loved though :p just obviously in a different way!)

If he had died when I felt that way about him I don't think I could have worked for a month, let alone three days.

My DD had chickenpox last mont (around 19 months) it was awful, but itchy spots in no way compare to your dog dying.

Come to think of it, when my grandpa died in December all I got was a "Are you OK?" and when I said why I was puffy-eyed that day got a "awwwww. Anyway, here's the handover for today."

Dog is not dead (presumably) Georgie.

Thing is though, people are different and cope in different ways. I don't see anything wrong with the video. My Nan wanted one of her son being made after he died to the sone "Bridge over troubled water" which I did for her, and made copies for family members who wanted one. It helped them.

I never actually copied one for myself though, I found it too upsetting myself. And I most definitely did not upload it to Facebook. But I do think the idea in itself isn't all that bad. Dogs/Cats/Giraffes ( ;) ) do become part of peoples families and it can really hurt when they pass away.

FFS office politics. Glad I'm out.

I was too chickenshit to say "Look, I deleted you because you're an attention-seeking twat" and blamed it on a FB technical glitch

AH, the James Taylor one. That's not so bad, I love that song!

I was playing the song form Toy Story in my head!

Twasn't the James Taylor one aksherlly. It was by some crooning woman. M People or someshit.

Mydog, me too. I even have images of Woody and Buzz in my head.

Mydog, me too. I even have images of Woody and Buzz in my head.

Well, my dog died last summer, all devastated. But time off work? That would have gone down like a lead balloon.

Sick child needing care? Def trumps dead dog.

Ok, so still crap but not nearly so bizarre as the image I had in my head!

Usually I would feel terrible for anyone who's much loved pet died / was really ill. It's the fact your boss was uncharitable about your sickness and your child's chicken pox, but thinks nothing of inflicting her own pain on everyone else!!

If you don't send a card, she'll hold it against you.

Chicken pox wasn't just itchy spots in my DS's case. He had fever/vomiting with it too. The poor lamb.

3 days off for a dead dog is .........errrrrr........quite a lot. Two days of that would be coming off somebody's holiday entitlement or down as unpaid leave if I had anything to do with it. 1 day could be taken as paid domestic crisis type thing. Same would apply to you and your pox leave. YANBU

People really are allowed time off for dead pets? I'm an animal lover but don't think I could ever push it with my employers that much. Crikey.

Just saw your post about what your boss said when your grandad died - that's terrible.
Does she talk about the dog unsolicited or do people ask?

^^

Definitely do that, may put it to something from Aristocats!