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To have not shown my boss any sympathy about her dying dog?

210 replies

BupcakesandCunting · 25/06/2012 23:05

I know. Sounds like a thread designed to cause a ruck, doesn't it? Hmm

Basically, it's this. My boss is a heartless, immature cow. She is , still lives with her parents and has no clue how the real world works. She is a massive hypochondriac, I mean seriously, she is ill EVERY time I go into work. She always has to leave early/go on extended lunch breaks for some reason. She is a frigging nightmare.

In January, I had to take time off to look after DS when he has chickenpox. Not much time, a few days, but she didn't like it. Then in February her dog died. She had three days off and I left her a card saying that I was thinking of her. Then in March I had to take another day off because I was ill. She was vile about it.

Now her other dog is dying. At work on friday, she kept saying that everytime she thought about her sick dog, she felt ill. Her entire family were taking the dog to the vets the next morning and she took the morning off to go with them. I think it's pathetic that she gets this upset over a dog yet has no empathy for sick children. I didn't show her any sympathy at all. I felt like chinning her tbh.

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SoleSource · 25/06/2012 23:19

Usually people are very different at work to how they are at home with family and friends. LOL @ her entire family going to the vets.

HoneyDragonWearingLederhosen · 25/06/2012 23:19

Blimy and I am saying this as someone who an hour ago was sobbing with Ds on the sofa as I miss my dog so fucking much it physically hurts at times Sad

ShellyBoobs · 25/06/2012 23:20

Do you know that she's taking paid time off for 'dog purposes'?

nothingoldcanstay · 25/06/2012 23:20

I was about to tell you YABU but in fact I had a boss like this and it really sucks.
Ours was in a school so time off was literally only for funerals. Even then you got a big interview to make sure it was a close friend or relative and how you needed to get back to school that day if possible. Fair enough apart from when her cat died and she had to a day off.....

Shullbit · 25/06/2012 23:21

It isn't easy for a boss when an employee has time off, no matter what the reason, or how long. It isn't her job to show sympathy, either. Yes, it would be nice if she did but she would of more than likely been stressed/worried about the work not being done.

I am no boss, just a SAHM but a few in mine and DP's family own businesses and although they do feel sympathy, it only really shows after they have stressed over sorting something out over the missed time and after they do appear to be short and pissed off upon hearing the news that one isn't coming into work. It doesn't mean they are arseholes, just needing the work to be done so that wages can get paid. So many businesses are going under lately, it is no wonder most are stressed to the max.

A bit of understanding on both parts is needed, I think.

BupcakesandCunting · 25/06/2012 23:22

I can only assume that the dog has lived to see another day as there have been no sad FB status updates from her.

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Aniseeda · 25/06/2012 23:22

This isn't really about what trumps what. It's about her reaping what she has sewn. If she can't have a bit of sympathy for others when they/their child are ill, she can't really expect to get it back when she has a problem.

If she were an all round nicer person, I am sure you would at least feign some sympathy about the dog!

WorraLiberty · 25/06/2012 23:23

I was going to say is there any need for hugs and sympathy and tea for anyone?

Surely the pair of you should just concentrate on your jobs.

People will always take time of and other people end up covering for them...it's just the way it goes.

MyDogShitsMoney · 25/06/2012 23:23

What ScummyMummy said.

No winner on this one I'm afraid.

BupcakesandCunting · 25/06/2012 23:23

OK, not even sympathy is required! Just expect not to be given a grilling if she is then going to have the day off to take Fido to the vets.

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LucieMay · 25/06/2012 23:26

"I can only assume that the dog has lived to see another day as there have been no sad FB status updates from her."

That made me lol for some reason! Not that I think dead dogs are remotely funny!

SoleSource · 25/06/2012 23:27

Dangerous thread, considering how OTT people are in this country about their mutts.

BupcakesandCunting · 25/06/2012 23:27

When the dog died before, we were treated to a hideous video montage of the dog to the soundtrack of "You Got a Friend"

Going to stop now before I get my head kicked in.

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NekoChan · 25/06/2012 23:28

I love dogs (I have one ) and I can't believe your boss took 3 days off for her dog dying Shock
What a slacker!!

hideschocolateinthesofa · 25/06/2012 23:28

Being ill and needing to take time off to care for a sick child is very different to 'I was a bit upset cos my dog is dying'. You can't leave a sick child in your house with a bowl of food and water and bed by the fire!

If they're taking sick leave for it, that's bloody awful, if they're using up their annual leave then fair enough.

I would ignore her in the same situation and completely avoid talking about it so I didn't have to dish out any sympathy! But I am of the pets aren't people type.

Sounds like your boss needs to empathise with humans bupcakes!

MamaMumra · 25/06/2012 23:28

I don't think a dog equals a child, but I've never had a dog.

Is this a bit like the thread the other day where people can only relate to their own situation and only like their own? I dont mean you bunting, obviously you did show some sympathy for what she was going through, but she did not return the sentiment.

GrahamTribe · 25/06/2012 23:28

"if she is going to take time off for a dog, she should suck it up when I take time off my child."

Agreed.

SoleSource · 25/06/2012 23:29

Bups..were you holding a hankerchief over your mouth? I would have pmsl.

LucieMay · 25/06/2012 23:30

bupcakes- that did make me lol!

ekidna · 25/06/2012 23:32
Grin
Shullbit · 25/06/2012 23:33

Thanks Bupcakes, I am currently lay in bed about to go to sleep and all that's going around in my head now is that bloody song.

YASOOOOBU, just for that.

MamaMumra · 25/06/2012 23:33

Oh dear @ video montage!
A cow and a bore!

ilovesooty · 25/06/2012 23:33

I can only assume that the dog has lived to see another day as there have been no sad FB status updates from her

If you can see her status updates presumably she's a FB friend. Why would you be "friends" with someone you don't even like?

MyDogShitsMoney · 25/06/2012 23:33

"When the dog died before, we were treated to a hideous video montage of the dog to the soundtrack of "You Got a Friend""

Wow, I obviously have a dog but that is something else!

Matesnotdates · 25/06/2012 23:33

When the dog died before, we were treated to a hideous video montage of the dog to the soundtrack of "You Got a Friend"

Words fail me. You are SO not being unreasonable. You are being v restrained.

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