to move my child to another school because of PJ wearing parents and other things.....

[fiftieslover]

Hi there, your views would be appreciated.

My ds is currently in yr 3 (8 yrs old) he is in a mixed class of years 3 and 4. Since Christmas I have had really serious doubts about the school he is in.

He has asked to move schools a couple of times in the past 6 months and I am seriously considering it. BUT I know at 8 this is a massive change for him. He is a social little boy who makes friends easily and can articulate his thoughts really well. The issues I have with the school are as follows.

1. Parents dropping their children off still wearing their PJs. I not talking lounge wear here, I'm talking fullish sheep adorned pink things. I turn up at school dressed for work, smart and ready for the day.

1. Leading on from 1 is the reason for the PJ wearing. There is a very high number of unemployed parents in the school. I live in a nice part of not a very nice area IYKWIM. Unemployment has always been a problem. I have lived in this area for over 30 years and alot of the children in ds class are 4th and 5th generation unemployed. So I assume the pj wearing is because they have nothing to get ready for? I need to add that sometimes the children are picked up from school at 3pm with said parents still adorning the sheep attire.

I have never been unemployed so struggle to empathise really with the other parents. I work in recruitment and know there are always things you can do to improve your chances but I have never been there so know I dont fully understand the effect unemployment has on you.

1. There are ALOT of kids in the class that are morphing into absolute horrors. The behaviour is getting worse as each school year passes. Once lovely little 4 year olds are now 8 year old swearing, disrespectful kids. My ds went over to one of them the other day to show him his homework. The other kid looked at my ds as if he were stupid and said I dont do homework - I wouldnt dare!.

1. I'm aware this is getting long so going to cut it short. The teachers appear to spend alot of time on discipline - taking actual teaching time away from the good kids.

1. In the past out of 26 kids, there are approximately 8 that behave really well. If the other 18 are playing up, the whole class has been punished. This really annoyed me.

I could go on and I think I have answered my own question seeing it in black and white but would still appreciate your comments.

Thanks fifties x

usual I'm jealous! I have a park over the road

We have a park 2 minutes walk away and a co op that stays open until 10 to buy late night wine so I'm going no where

There's nothing wrong at all in wanting more, different or in your eyes better than you had, but that's not everyone's experience.

That's the thing.

Whilst it would be nice to win the lottery, it's it just marvellous to be able to look at your life and think do you know I'm happy just as I am. Money can't buy that feeling.

In my last place my local shop sold nothing but huge wheels of African sausage and nothing else and next door was a sex shop.

So that was great if you fancied a sausage or some handcuffs.

Wish I'd had a co op.

pickle I would like to know where this.area is.because I'm always in need of sausage and handcuffs

Sorry How but I was finding your posts confusing -genuinely.
I think you are misunderstanding what people are saying.

If you felt like getting away was what you wanted for your kids - better that is fine and your choice, your opinion.
But NOT thinking that it is necessary to get away from an estate doesnt mean others dont want to better their lives.

Personally I think its perfectly possible to 'better' yourself and stay on an estate.
Its not like people are suggesting we shouldnt strive for a good life.
But what people think is a good life doesnt always mean moving to the suburbs or living on a farm etc.

(Brings Chinese takeaway and joins MrsDevere and Usual on settee outside caravan).

Aspirations don't have to be about having more money and more things and I agree about being happy with your life, I'm happy with my life and have so much to be thankful For. I actually don't do the lottery as I don't think those kind of riches would make my life better, I already have enough. But, I hope my kids experience a better relationship with their parents than I had, hope they get a chance to dream and get encouraged to achieve the way we weren't (WC catholic guilt an all that), have a better education ( me and my siblings all left school at 16 straight into work). As I said your aspirations don't have to be materialistic and it's not about making yourself 'better' or MC.

I could, everlong

But many of the children from my estate do go to college and university in fact my neighbours son is off to university in America , obviously I can't talk for all estates only the one I live on now.

So I don't quite understand why you don't think that its possible for our children not to have those aspirations because of where they live.

to have these aspirations*

Those wishes are all lovely How, nothing wrong with any of them and I hope they all come true.

My point is that too often people are castigated for being happy with their lot if they live on an estate. I dont think they should be.
Mind you if they dare to complain - good lord above they get a pasting for being ungrateful.

If I was the President I could definately get my pony.

Oh blimey, the ungrateful council house tenants threads are grim .

I haven't seen one of those yet. Something to look forward too.

"So I don't quite understand why you don't think that its possible for our children not to have those aspirations because of where they live."

Usual, I never said they don't. - really don't understand why you think I have said that.

I have a headache I'm confusing myself now

Time for bed

I would LOVE a pony.
Not a horsey, but a little pony.
A welsh one with hairy feet.

A grey one.

Everyone is agreeing now. S'nice.

What would you do with the pony MrsD Would a child in your family ride it?

Well I feel sorry for the serf renting from the lord of the manor. Please set yourself better expectations, there's a dear.
Snobbiness is so .... tacky.