To ask our wedding guest not to post any pics on Facebook?

[maxbradbury]

we are getting married in a few week and I want to ask our guest not to post any pictures of our wedding on Facebook until I've seen them.
I want to have total control over what people see and also I don't want any of the evening guest seeing any pics before they arrive.
Is there a polite way to say without sounding bridezilla?

If Facebook didn't exist, would you demand to see people's 'paper copy' photos as soon as they were developed, before they could show them to people?

Good luck with that! You can ask, but there is always someone who will do it anyway. You can't police it. Just one more thing to worry about really isn't it?

Not really

Is it just the one guest? And will they have other guests on their FB account?

You can always click the option to not allow photos or tags on your wall, but you can't really tell other people what to post on theirs.

The only way to do it would be to ban cameras completely.

But with phones all having cameras that's not going to work either....

Are children coming?

YABU if you are on facebook. I asked my friends to keep wedding pics to a minimum, but that is because of a distrust of facebook and they know that is why I don't have an account.

And no, there is no way to avoid being bridezilla.

But why do you want to see all photos first?

I think it is ) impractical b) very bridezilla c) you will be ignored.

My friend went mental at me for putting up a wedding photo that made her (the bride) look like she had a fat arm. Nuts.

Oh god I wish I'd done this. One of my lovely lovely friends put up some shockingly crap pics from my wedding a few years ago, and I just couldn't ask her to remove them. Ended up removing them from my profile, but the fact that they're still on FB haunts me :o
Ask them not to politely, but if they do, ask them to set the pic to private, i.e. people featured in the pics only.
Hate to say it, but if a lot of your friends are on FB some will probably leak out unless you're very clear about your wishes.

I don't think it's particularly feasible tbh. And I don't think there's any way of asking without sounding like a bridezilla. That said, I understand your issue - there were photos of our wedding up on facebook before we'd even left church!

It was actually nice to see the pictures up when we were away on honeymoon. It all felt a bit surreal, and having a few digital images on FB made us feel like it had actually happened. So there can be a positive to them being up.

"Is there a polite way to say without sounding bridezilla?"

erm...is there a polite way to say this without offending you.... I'm sorry, IMO it is a bit bridezilla.

I think you will be too busy on the day to give this a second thought! The people attending are people who care about you and are unlikely to post any dodgy snaps!

If you do say anything, I am sorry but as a guest I would think you were being precious and bridezilla! I hope you have a fab wedding, good luck Mrs!!

Is Katie Price getting married again?

YABU.

You will sound like Bridezilla.

The problem is people will be taking pictures for their own memories, so you won't feature in a lot of the pics (ie Sally and Fred at the wedding breakfast, Fred shaking his booty on the dancefloor)

I understand you wanting to keep the official pics sacred (for want of a better word) but you can't control your entire guest list.

Just re-read your post and you say about people seeing pics before they arrive - would daytime guests really be that bothered to take time out of the wedding to upload pics? In that case, YANBU and you could ask the guests to refrain from uploading pics until the day after the wedding?

As a bride you are therefore beautiful all day and all photos taken will reflect this, it's the law.

Nobody will really care that much about it and I mean this in the kindest possible way but people will come because they care about you and DH, not the wedding, not the exterior impression. You shouldn't care so much about what other people think, just relax and enjoy your day.

It wouldn't be a biggie to me unless I'm missing something.

If you are trying to protect young children, then YANBU. If you just want to make sure that every picture had your best side, then YABU. Unless your OK magazine deal will be in jeopardy?

For what its worth I don't think it is bridezilla'y but what can you do? I wouldn't want to veto the pictures before them going up I'd just like them not to be up whilst I'm still saying 'I do'.

I take photos at weddings but wouldn't put someone else's wedding pictures up on facebook that day. I just think its a bit rude.

I don't think YABU. I went to a wedding recently and I just thought it was polite / respectful to the bride and groom to wait and put pictures on FB after they did. I may be odd though - lots of people asked me to put my pics on facebook so they could see them, and when I told them why I hadn't yet, lots of them did and faces.

Briancox people do! With camera's on phones and internet on phones it takes about 3 presses of a button to get them on Facebook.

An old school friend got married. She was tagged in pictures throughout the day constantly. I wasn't at the wedding but seen it in real time! Walking down the ailse. The vows, the kiss, signing the register, first dance.

I wouldn't put pictures featuring the bride and groom on fb until after they themselves had put some up - I think that's good manners. It's their day, after all. I think other people see it differently though and i doubt you can control this.

"I want to have total control over what people see"

Thats a very bridezilla thing to say

YABU

I would cooperate with this if asked, but I do think you sound a bit bridezilla and precious.

You'd better take all phones and cameras off them as they arrive. I presume this is due to your deal with hello/ok mag?

You will sound like a bridezilla because you are being a bridezilla.

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Maybe Grant Mitchell could stand at the door and confiscate all cameras and phones!

Really, who DO you think you are??