Ode2Joy, thank you for your response.
God created the Garden of Eden, he created the serpent, and he deliberately put the Tree of Knowledge in the Garden. That's the set up. Second, god is omniscient. He knew that Eve would listen to the serpent, eat the forbidden fruit and persuade Adam to eat it as well. He could have intervened. He could have not created the serpent at all. He could have put the Tree somewhere else entirely.
So god set up the situation in the full knowledge that Adam and Eve would fail. Adam and Eve, these totally naive and inexperienced first humans, were held to impossibly high standards. God set them up to fall. If it was so critically important that Adam and Eve didn't eat that fruit, why put the tree there in the first place? That's like putting a fairy cake in front of a toddler, walking off and then acting surprised when all that's left are crumbs.
Not just that, the punishment for that single transgression was out of all proportion to the offence. For that one bad decision (that god ensured would happen), not only were Adam and Eve cursed to a life of pain, suffering and death but everyone ever since has been similarly cursed as well. So a single, finite transgression resulted in infinite punishment not just for those who transgressed but for everyone.
Sure, Jesus offers a Get Out Of Jail Free for this. But all that Jesus' suffering achieved was to exempt some humans from god's arbitrary and disproportionate punishment for a transgression committed by someone else and that god made sure would happen anyway.
How is this the actions of a loving, just father?