to have put dd's dinner in the bin?

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Dinner tonight - scampi, potato wedges and salad. I put some chunks of beetroot in the salad. DD2(6) anounced she hates beetroot. I told her she could eat one piece only. We have always had the rule (dd is 3rd child) that you have to try everything on the plate.

My Mum and Dad are here for the evening. DD sat and cried, fake-coughed and kept shouting that she was going to be sick. We ignore her for a while, then I said if she couldn't be quiet and eat then she would have to leave the room. She continued so I told her to go. After 5 minutes she was quiet so I asked her to come back and join us. She immediately started the drama again. I told her she was spoiling the dinner for all of us and if she didn't stop that would be the end of her meal. She got a piece of beetroot on her fork and waved it around, crying and coughing. So I took her food away and sent her out. The food is now in the bin and dd is in bed.

My parents are now saying I am like an army general and that dd will be hungry. Was I being unreasonable and AIBU to feel very unsupported in trying to discipline a strong-willed child?

I think you sound perfectly reasonable OP. My DCs are older but were brought up as your children sound to be with firm expectations of good behaviour, I am often shocked by the apparent over-indulgence of some parents now.

Yeah the other kids who come to eat with us can be difficult - I am less strict obviously as they are not mine to discipline, but there is a limit! One of my friends had a girl to stay for a few days and she was really picky. My friend ended up asking the girl what she wanted to eat every meal time. I would never do that - my dcs would be horrified at the inequality!

Yes, I'm less strict with other children too. In fact, I have somewhat "given up", especially with the younger ones who come, and tend to do spag bol, sausages and chips etc as I don't feel it is worth the aggro of doing anything more "controversial". A sad indictment of the diet of a lot of kids today.....

I think this might be the smuggist thread I've ever read on MN.

i have had kids stay, and the only thing they will eat is chicken and rice, i found it really irritating, especially as i dont eat meat most days.

I tend to do the same although I always include some broccoli or carrots or similar and will tell them it needs to be eaten if they want pudding, and they usually do!

smuggest?

possibly

Most smug?

yeah , smuggest

Is smuggest a word?

And. How on earth can a child who is exposed to a multitude of foods with different foods served daily, and encouraged to eat new things never have tried beet root before? Surely that is usual salad food? Or at least, if not regular, not completely unusual? I am amazed in the environment she lives she has reached 6yrs old without ever having tried the stuff.

Yes - won't someone think of the poor beetroot deprived children ?

Bugger. This thread has just reminded me I meant to have beetroot with my salad tonight and completely forgot.

She had tried it before! No idea which of the 33 pages I clarified that on though.

YANBU. Totally agree with you. Can't believe people have written such errant nonsense on this thread.

Well mine all eat fish eyes and goats tongues , it's a disgrace that other children don't eat like mine

That Kind of smug.

I cannot stress strongly enough how beastly and damaging I find this idea of telling someone else what they must eat and how much of it.

bloody hell what is our role as a parent, shall we not tell our children to bathe, brush their teeth and go to school and a million other things we tell them to do for many years of their life.

I cannot believe this thread is still here , it is such a minor AIBU, im guessing from some of the posters the OP wouldnt get mother of the year Why are so many people so scared to parent their children. Oh yes we might traumatise them, everyone has got a scare monger story of parents who did ABC and their child then turned out to be............... fill in your own blanks. Also we are so quick to slate other people's parenting on here. Pathetic really.

Just put my cow foot stew on the stove, DD's favourite mmmmmmmmmmmm

I am guessing g that she liked bet root at that other time/times then. Otherwise you wouldn't have insisted she eat it.

But confused as you talk at the beginning about encouraging new foods, which this wasn't.

PavlovtheCat OP has answered this a million times

Well, then one more time won't hurt I have to be honest, not read every single post. As there are a lot of them.

PavlovtheCat cos it wont