aibu to be annoyed at school voulenteers comments in daughters reading book?

[jb198]

ive never used this before but.... my daughter is in reception class. they bring books home each week and theres a book to write comments in. usually the teacher does this and always fine, maybe says E struggled with certain words etc but never anything major. we do read at home and most of the time i do write a comment, however i have been known to be a terrible mother and not write a comment.

a helper who goes in to do reading always writes things such as .... E is NOT reading at home.... E has not read again this week.

last week teacher wrote that could we keep the book as she is mixing a few words up. today helper has written ...... E is STILL struggling with this book and is NOT reading at home.

now im really annoyed as if there is a problem i would like to be told and not have snide remarks written by a helper. i feel like writting one back saying how E is bloody reading at home would she like to come and watch!

aibu to think this is quite rude and unprofessional?

Do you write in every time she reads? Answer the comments, politely noting 'actually X read page 1-6' or whatever, repeatedly and wait for teacher to pick up on this.

Well if you are reading with her most days there isn't anything to worry about, just make sure you write it in the diary to shut the helper up!

I guess from the helper's point of view, if you haven't written a comment then she won't know that your DD has read at home.

fwiw at our school we are not allowed to write anything other than a positive comment along the lines of "Super reading" etc

Start writing in the diary and shut the officious volunteer up.

Write a comment every time.

We read pages 1-4 together and commented on the pictures etc/talked about the story.

If you don't write then expect there to be a comment. The helper may be a very experience TA or even teacher for all you know.

I just sign it everyday to show its been read. Those comments would make me though. I'd have to say or write something telling her to wind her neck in.

for all this volunteer knows
you could be illiterate
you could be reading other books at home or cereal cartons
you could be ill
you could be blind - or registered blind

YOu just need to initial the diary every week, no comment required.

I agree that the helper is being a bit over the top, but don't really understand what your issue is. Just write in the book. Problem solved!

It is quite rude. It would have been better if they had just asked the op to remember to sign the book when she had read at home.
I would be inclined to have a quiet word with the teacher.

thanks for all your replies, i wasnt sure if im just being hugely pregnant and hormornal.... we do read the book from school most days, and we do bedtime stories every night i read to her then she reads to me etc.

i dont mind the commenting that its not been written in its just that i find the teacher always writes encouraging comments and dosent feel the need to write E is NOT reading at home . i find the not in capital letters quite rude and having voulenteered in reception myself i know i would not have written anything like that.

It grates when a volunteer is officious, as she is being. Volunteers at our school don't communicate with parents, which is how it should be, IMO.

Write in the book.

I think the teacher should be told, as well, actually. Any teacher worth their salt would have a word about this.

I would have a word with the teacher - it is really rude and comes across unprofessional. I would be really pissed off in your shoes so I don't think you are being too unsensitive, who does she think she is to write comments like that how stuck up!

In our school, a CA or TA who wrote that would be reprimanded.

Oh dear, my son is in reception and I didn't know we were supposed to write comments in the book? I have only ever done so once, when DS said 'I don't like this one, it's too easy'. Granted it was stage 1, and he does memorise them, but seriously? Write every day?

The helper should be doing no more than writing the page number down.

However, you need to do the same if your child is reading at home.

There's no need to write a comment if you can't think of one but you must at least write what page your DC is up to, to prove he's read.

Today - just tick it. You can note any difficulties (eg if he doesn't know the "s" sound". Note if he can read it fluently and expressively. Note if he particularly likes the subject matter. Most of the time Fine, will do.

I'd be PA about it and ask the teacher, "Um, are we supposed to write something in the book every time we hear DD read? I thought we were only meant to write if there was an issue . . . < tail off in confused fashion > It's just that I keep getting these REALLY rude notes . . . Look!" < show book >

I'd be tempted to write something snotty like "it's lovely to see the volunteers are telepathic this year, if only they could be right too" and then put in a complaint to the teacher and/or the head about the volunteer. They have no idea whether you read at home or not, and even if they think you probably aren't, it is certainly not their place to pass comment.
If the teacher has concerns, she should address them with you directly, either at parent's evening or by making an appointment for you. It's not up to the volunteer, all she should have done was brought her opinion to the attention of the teacher. She has been rude and unprofessional, and I can't imagine the teacher will thank her for pissing off a parent either

We always had to write in it and now ds is at middle school and is a free reader we just write how long he has read for each day.

I'd be really petty and write "Oh YES she is" and then write so much info in the bloody reading diary the volunteer would RUE THE DAY! oh yes! :D

YANBU and because I am such a bad tempered so and so I would write a note in capitals saying you DO read to your child. I would also talk to the teacher.I hate volunteer comments in the reading book. In my eyes the book is for teachers or TAs to tell me how they think my daughter is doing with reading. I don't need another parent who knows nothing more about the subject than me suggesting I get DD to read through a book again or remarking on how well she read. Blardy pointless.