To not regret my decision for not 'telling off' other adults and letting my child still stay at the party

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My 4 year old DD1 was invited to a party yesterday along with other 4 year olds and the little boy who had turned 4.
There was a bouncy castle, face painting, loads for the kids to be doing and they were having a great time outside enjoying the 'ahem' great British weather.....................so were the adults who were all smoking weed.I was the only one that wasn't smoking weed. I'm a non smoker and my days of recreational drug taking finished the moment I decided to settle down and have a family.
DH has just popped a ballsack after finding out his daughter had 'breathed it in' and 'didn't I say anything' no I didn't there were about 15 ADULTS there all smoking weed, Who am I to dictate what they do. It was outside and apart from the obvious smell I doubt my daughter even noticed along with the other child whom are either oblivious to the smell or used to it. My DD when she had to use the loo was taken by me and escorted back outside as they were smoking it inside too and in such a confined space I didn't want he in there too long.

WIBU, SHould I have left in protest like my DH says? it's not like they were blowing it in the childrens faces. It was outdoors in a communial area

Oh so now they're drunk junkies too? Wow. And 4 hours at a kid's party? 4 hours? Are you sure?

Lentilly and usualsuspect, you both made me lol and spit coffee over my phone!

Judgey pants for not thinking mass joint smoking at a 4 year olds party is ok? Right then. Of course I should be in awe of your awesome liberal ways right?

Ah - you really can't beat the sound of mass pant hoiking across the land on a Sunday morning!

Lentilly i am hoiking but that did make me laugh

Booze and drugs sounds like fun how awful

A random selection of 15 parents all smoke weed and all smoke it together at a children's party . And they all thought no other guest would find it shocking or odd and it was OK to take responsibility for under fives .

tick tock, tick tock, wind up the clock, tick tock

I don't do illegal drugs. I don't want my children to do illegal drugs or be around people who are doing them. So, yes, my judgy pants are well and truly hoiked up and we would have left as soon as I realized I was the only sober person there.

I would do the same if all 15 grown ups were off their heads on booze, as I would be the only one responsible for all those kids.

No thanks. Not my idea of fun.

Be whatever you like taking - you've mistaken me for someone who gives a shiney shite what you do or do not do! Loosen them pants though man - they'll be cutting off your blood supply any time now!

There were a few older ones there siblings of the younger children, these were being a little boistrous on the bouncy castle but were promptly told off by other adults to get off so the little ones could play on there. I was supervising my child but there were other adults supervising their own children.
They weren't out of it as far as I could tell, but like I said once the brandy and wine came out. I decided that there was potential for the children who couldn't tell the difference between brandy and coke in a kids cu and coke in a kids cup and decided that they childrens party was nearing and end and the adults were getting in the party mood so I left

Drugs and booze, all very well. I don't give a fuck what people get up to. I'm so far from judgey about drugs, I've had more than my fair share of dalliance but at a 4 year olds party? Nah. No need.

Agree,it's either a child's party with pop and crisps or it's an adult party with alcohol.

I'd have taken mine home. Or probably somewhere else that's fun to make up missing the party.

I hate weed and I don't care what anyone says- I'm convinced passive smoking weed is just as bad as cigarette smoke. Infact weed smells worse than cigarettes imo.

Bloody hellfire you lot have started early. Baker must have been up early on a Sunday to bake all these buns.

I don't have a huge issue with recreational drug use I've done enough of it myself in years gone by but there's a time and a place for it.

My concern here is that they thought a 4yo's party was an acceptable social situation for drug taking.

I'd have left for the reason that I would be seriously questioning whether I wanted to be around those people, not because I thought DC would be harmed by a little secondhand smoke outside.

Ye gads. There are a million opportunities for smoking weed, I don't really give a shit. Smoking it at a kids party is pretty pathetic but some parents do like to do the whole 'oh parenting is so hard, it's the only way I manage' thing. Kids parties and adults parties are two different things and never the twain shall meet as far as I'm concerned. I want to get pissed etc with other adults, not a bunch of 4 year olds.

Oh and I don't think this is real anyway.

What shelleyboobs said.

I would have left as soon as possible without it being really obvious. It is a tough one though. Must have been stressful for you knowing it was going on and ensuring dd was kept away from it.

Easy for your dh to rant about it though when he wasn't actually there.

The vast majority of kids parties I went to when living in shoreditch involved bunting, cupcakes, often with a party planner on hand, designer vintage wear all round and lots of weed.

good times

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Not commenting on rights or wrongs but the idea that this is made up...

Im pretty laid back, if you want to do drugs fine IMO, but at a kids party? I
Wouldn't have stayed.

That is so far from the realms of possibilities for parties we go; I just couldn't relate to it at all.
So for me - we just wouldn't have stayed. I;d have faked a text message or phone call and made an excuse to leave straight away after dropping the gift off.
Bad enough if it had just been loads of people smoking cigarettes, but I don't condone drugs so would have been hypocrticial of me to remian.

Wouldn't have bothered me personally. It was outside and as you said unlikely to affect DD. Were they really stoned? Are you sure? Because smoking weed does not automatically make you so stoned your incapable. I know plenty people who smoke it, and if they smoke a lot then yeah they will get stoned, but a few puffs does not stoned make. As for the brandy and wine, i assume it was getting later since you said youd been there four hours.

Hmm when my dc were younger lots of our friends would have smoked weed at outside parties. I wouldn't have told them not to. If someone was doing it now, I would hope I'd say something but in truth I doubt I wouild. I agree, it's a tough one really.

My only concern would have been adequate supervision of the bouncy castle if all the adults (other than me) were drunk or stoned.

In fact, that would have made me feel like I had to take responsibility for keeping children safe. I might have left to avoid having that thrust upon me.