Why is mumsnet so anti men?

[LolaKicks]

I joined mumsnet because I am currently seven months pregnant, but I didn't expect it to be so negative towards men. Husbands always seem to be in the wrong and for most posts there seems to be a reply of "leave the bastard" or "he seems abusive to me" even when it is not warranted.

I am not saying that the relationships being posted about are all sweetness and light, but surely females are in the wrong sometimes. In some cases it is okay for a woman to something i.e. tell a lie or buy something secretly, however a shooting offence for the man in the relationship to do the same thing.

Maybe I am naive but I thought this was a parenting website and I and really questioning whether it is worth sticking around. So am I being unreasonable and unrealistic?

You get to spot the posters that push their own subjective view or their own agenda.

That is why most people lurk for quite a while.

Stick around, you will get all types of views and they are useful for bringing up different points of view.

A lot of it is tongue in cheek

a lot of the men posted about on relationships are bastards, and they should leave him.

they probably won't straight away.

most women don't post about relationships that are chuntering along with the normal run of minor disharmony.

"mumsnet" isn't anti-men. It isn't anything.

We're all individuals with our own opinions, not some homogenous mass. I'm not anti-men. Are you?

There's a lot of useful stuff and help, but many people post to share their unhappiness about their relationships and there are others who have had bad experiences and that has given them a very specific perspective on men.
So stay away from sections that you feel have a very anti-men attitude, play 'Leave the bastard' bingo and find the sections and threads on this huge site that you enjoy.

Hi Lola. There are a few very bitter regular posters, please don't let them put you off. Birds is right, you are best off lurking for a while - and whatever you do, don't post in AIBU until you feel REALLY secure!
And some of the joking is pretty near the knuckle.
'Leave the Bastard' is usually but not invariably used ironically btw, rather like

I don't think it is.

Agree with the Birds and planetpotty. Plus you're not going to get an AIBU that starts, my DH is currently reading to my DS while I am posting on MN, the bastard why can't he go to the pub and give me something to post about.

Mumsnet isn't just a parenting website but a website for women with children. Most are married or in a relationship. I disagree that Mumsnet is anti men, I've read just as many posts about good relationships as I have bad. You have to remember that many women come on here looking for advice or seeking opinions from,otherbwomen and so relationships are a big part of that. Net mums I think is maybe what you are looking for. :)

Why do people who start threads like this talk about 'females'. I've never heard it said in RL. I've rarely seen it on here. And when I have, it's on a thread like this.

How long have you been on mumsnet? Because you must have been very unlucky to come across all those threads and to form the view that the site is anti men very quickly. Try not to form fixed views and hang around for a while you may change your mind.

And Relationships, the board not the real thing.

I think you'll find that Mumsnet is simply anti-wankers. Not men in general.

why would anyone need to post in Relationships if they were settled and happy, though?

and MN isn't anti men - i find it very anti arsehole - so if someone's male DP is an arsehole, they'll be told

Exactly Unchartered, the OP should stay clear of the Relationships board if she doesn't want to read about women with very negative feelings about the men in their lives.

Oh I think there are a certain hardcore set of posters who are very anti-men.

"my husband came home late from the pub"

gets a response of

"check his bank accounts, and his phone.. he has checked out of the marriage and has another woman"

...

but there are a lot more posters who are capable of seeing both sides of an argument, and who are not anti-men

Not anti-men,but pro-women,in things that count.

I don't think MN is anti-men, it's pro-women.

If a woman posts and a man posts about similar issues the responses are very different.

Anyway I think you should leave him.

One thing I have noticed is that if women have sexual problems they are often advised to try porn.
But if a man is found to be using porn it's a capital offence!

When??????????

Mumsnet is not anti men

YABU to refer to women as "females", which doesn't even denote which species we are from.