Why is mumsnet so anti men?

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I joined mumsnet because I am currently seven months pregnant, but I didn't expect it to be so negative towards men. Husbands always seem to be in the wrong and for most posts there seems to be a reply of "leave the bastard" or "he seems abusive to me" even when it is not warranted.

I am not saying that the relationships being posted about are all sweetness and light, but surely females are in the wrong sometimes. In some cases it is okay for a woman to something i.e. tell a lie or buy something secretly, however a shooting offence for the man in the relationship to do the same thing.

Maybe I am naive but I thought this was a parenting website and I and really questioning whether it is worth sticking around. So am I being unreasonable and unrealistic?

Well, given all the posters here seem to come from dysfunctional families "mum was narc, dad was toxic" its no surprise they can't hold down relationships of their own; parenting is learned and if they have never grown up in a normal family environment, its no surprise they drive their menfolk away. Then call them all the feckers under the sun. Mind you like draws like, so its quite probably the bloke also had the same dysfunctional upbringing. t
Then of course there is a next generation growing up in the same environment.

And I'm well sitting back waiting to be flamed on that. But you know it's true

All the posters here? So that would be you then JumpingThroughHoops. Sorry to hear you've had such a shit time.

yanbu BUT
mainly people post about men when there is a problem.
they don't post oh my dh is wonderful as
a) that is bragging
b) it is human nature to forget the good times

Mumsnet isn't anything. It's a website, not a sentient being Nor do the users of mumsnet have a collective opinion or collective consciousness.

It's lots of different people, with lots of different opinions. There isn't a Mumsnet View on anything, honestly.

If you're questioning whether it's worth sticking around - it's not. If you felt it was, you wouldn't be questioning it. The fact that you're debating it means it's probably not the space best suited for you. That is in no way a 'piss off' I promise. Just that it's only a chatroom there are loads out there and I happen to think that if you've found the one that's right for you, then you just use it and have fun. If you're not having fun - then it's not worth it, when there are a million places to try and see if they're more fun for you.

There was a thread earlier where a woman was clearly in the wrong and was told so.

MN is not anti-men.

relationships board is hilarious in its sexism. two true threads:

a) woman: ive been caught by my husband snogging with my neighbour in the kitchen, my husband is devastated. Answer: oh tell him to get over it, you didnt mean to do it - if he cant get past it, he isnt worth anything. you were probably egged on by the neighbour anyway.

b) my husband has been emailing a woman. Nothing incriminating but I why would he be doing that if it was all innocent Answer: you dont need a bastard like that, he will definately have shagged her and I bet they are laughing at you.

Absolutely hilarious.

Is it?

I bloody love men.

Am I on the wrong forum?

It would be if the same poster posted both of those replies. I'd be pissing myself laughing.

But you have described nothing more than two people with different views. One who thinks a kiss is no big deal and one who thinks that a married person shouldn't email people of the opposite sex.

That's like saying oh my god, it's bloody ridiculous. Hecate just posted that she hates marmite and right there, on the next thread, Bella is saying how nice it is.

Two different posters replying on two different threads with two different views means nothing.

There was a thread earlier where a woman was clearly in the wrong and was told so.

Don't you mean "the" thread :o

MN is not anti-men.

I agree - the Relationships and FWR boards largely are (at least he sam small cadre of vehemently anti-memn posters inhabit both mainly), the rest of MN is more neutral

I'm part of MN.

1. DF is nice
2. DH is nice
3. DB is nice.

Um, shall I get my coat?

If somebody posts that they are hitting themselves in the face with a hammer and they don't like it because it hurts, I would say "Stop hitting yourself in the face with a hammer".
If somebody posts that they are in a relationship with somebody they hate and they don't like it because they hate them, I would say "Stop being in a relationship with somebody you hate".
The important thing is to do something rather than carrying on and whining about it.

I think everyone's a cunt.

Do I win £5?

"eh???? FE-male... WO-man.... what bloody difference does it make, and why pick holes in something so bloody trivial and pointless?"

It makes a difference squeakytoy because "females" can be used for any type of animal. It's somewhat derogatory and dehumanising to purposely choose the word "females" instead of "woman". I don't think that is "trivial and pointless" at all.

women

Tethersend you might as well have £5. Everyone else seems to just take it, so you get points for asking :o

I don't know what you mean WhatmeWorry - what's THE thread?

My DH is currently making me steak and chips for tea whilst I'm sitting on the sofa drinking wine.

I like men! (well mine, anyway)

I really like men and I adore my DH. Have been told off a few times though. Evidently I should not iron his shirts, hankies or boxers .

Seriously I once started a thread asking if I was being U to say that after 20 odd years I still adored him and it was a lovely, lovely thread.

People post on here about their problems a lot. So you are likely to read negative posts about the people mothers have problems with - health care professionals, teachers and fathers.

You hear less about the positive experiences that most mothers are having with people from those groups because people tend to post less about their non-problems.

yes, you are.

saladcreamwitheverything-

If you'd posted I'm cooking my DH steak and chips, while he is sitting on the sofa, drinking wine and is on the laptop...

Leave the Bastard.

Agree wih whatmeworry.

Not if I use starch LemarchandsBox .

Ha ha.