Why is mumsnet so anti men?

[LolaKicks]

I joined mumsnet because I am currently seven months pregnant, but I didn't expect it to be so negative towards men. Husbands always seem to be in the wrong and for most posts there seems to be a reply of "leave the bastard" or "he seems abusive to me" even when it is not warranted.

I am not saying that the relationships being posted about are all sweetness and light, but surely females are in the wrong sometimes. In some cases it is okay for a woman to something i.e. tell a lie or buy something secretly, however a shooting offence for the man in the relationship to do the same thing.

Maybe I am naive but I thought this was a parenting website and I and really questioning whether it is worth sticking around. So am I being unreasonable and unrealistic?

I think it's strange. I don't think there are forums where men slag women off and talk about how terrible their wives and GFs are. Maybe I'm wrong.

You iron his boxers?

Does he take them off first?

Course tethers they go in the linen basket first. He's trained you know, unlike DS who just leaves them on the bathroom floor. Tries to remember if it took a hot iron with them on to complete the training. Couldn't do it to DS though - his wife will blame the mother one day

There are also lots of threads where women complain about other women, the PTA secretary, women in the school playground, behaviour of some random woman at the swimming pool with her child, woman in Tescos with supposedly inappropriate trolley contents, woman who indulges her child, woman who does not indulge her child, woman who behaves as if her child is the infant messiah, woman who stole her husband, female nanny who feeds child store bought pasta, woman with fake tan and highlights, woman who breastfeeds in public, woman who works, woman who is at home all day with her kids, woman who flirts too much, woman who accommodates men too little, single mothers, woman in hijab, schoolgirl in miniskirt and on and on and on.

Are there poeple for whom it is some sort of community sentence to come on MN? Because they really don't seem to like it.

why is mumsnet so anti men?

because we know so many of them?

possibly you are directing that at me, LR. I am very fond of MN, and accept that we all like to vent and discuss our problems, which often involve complaining about other people! But I don't think MN as a whole complains more about men.

The 'leave the bastard' thing is a joke. It is a parenting website in the parenting sections but the other sections are for other topics so that's exactly what is talked about, other topics.
It's mainly women who post anyway, telling about their issues in a relationship do obviously they won't be talking a lot about things they have done wrong. A lot of the ways that men treat their partners on here I find shocking so deserve posters getting suitable advice to deal with it.
If you want to talk about parenting then go on the parenting sections not relationships.

Having read many of the threads on here, it is shocking how some men behave and believe they are entitled to behave. I have learnt so much and been exposed to so much honesty on here.

I do think it is a good place for people to let off steam and to discuss issues to get a different perspective. Somehow I don't think men talk about such issues as much.

Krumbum, it is a joke but I thought it became a joke because it's often so a serious over reaction to many posts :)

I actually think that MN is actually quite pro-men

The majority assume that the average man is kind, good, thoughtful, after all many posters here even if they have had crap Dads, boyfriends, husbands, they are often still the mothers of little boys. And are raising them to be good men.

What I'm trying to say is that most MNers assume that nice is normal and are rightly outraged by shity behaviour by the shitty minority.

The problem is that in the most part, when people post here chances are the man is a shit, the poster just hasn't realised it. Yet!

"I think it's strange. I don't think there are forums where men slag women off and talk about how terrible their wives and GFs are. Maybe I'm wrong."

You're wrong.

Link?

And you have to bear in mind that the people who run Mumsnet are short, hairy, troll looking ladies who have never been asked out by a man in their life and have grown extremely bitter towards the hunky sex...

OP - it's because they're all bastards. Leave the one you're with immediately.

Rubbish ... I posted a thread grumbling about DP's hair and was rightly roasted for being shallow and unappreciative.

MN isn't some sort of hive mind, anyway, it's a whole load of different opinions which no-one has to take any notice of if they don't want to.

Its projection innit.

I am sometimes accused of being 'angry' or 'upset' when I am patently neither. I think people see what they want to see, for what ever reason that may be...

It is some kind of hive mind because most of us have got bees in our bonnets.

What you said, Spero.

I think a lot of the time people just want to try to point score by saying something that makes you look a bit silly.

Never works though.

Arf

MN is so not anti manshape

I think Mumsnet was set up by a secret cabal of men.

This would then trap women into an endless cycle of postings about fruit-shoots, car-park spaces and Wohms etc.

Thus enabling men to carry on ruling the world.

Needless to say (my favourite phrase) this is working.