I think I have just caught my dh lying to me...

[Corrie4Ever]

I've changed my bname for this one, it seems pretty serious
DH went to London today for a work meeting. Said in the morning he "wouldn't be home till late, 9 or 10 pm".
"Why?" I said. "Those meetings never go on much past 5pm do they?" (is a 3 hour journey back to us, max)
"Oh, uh, no," says he, a bit flummoxed. "I suppose I'll be back more like 8ish then."
Thought no more of it. then got text at 7.50pm saying "some poor soul has jumped in front of the train, gonna be late"
Followed by "god I hate London!"
Then I rang him at 9pm and he said he was back out of London and had picked his car up at Basingstoke, and was driving home. I asked about the suicide, he said the train was sat on the rails for AGES while police investigated someone jumping under the train in front of him all this on the railway just between Waterloo and Clapham.
I begin to remember that earlier conversation this morning.
Look on the internet. No record of any such incident, delays, nothing.
Ring South West TRains, nothing happend at all...
He is still not back- what do you guys reckon??
WE have been together 8 years, 2dcs, never ever had any cause to suspect anything before...happily married...I think...

Who on earth has said that men are guilty, Whatmeworry ? Stop throwing up strawmen, it's ridiculous

Meh, I am clearly totally imagining umpteen numpty posts on here accusing said DH of everything up to VD infection, based on the most tenuous of "reasoning" , and in the face of corroboration of his train story.

Ignoring all the PP's. Have you actually had the conversation with your husband yet?

My husband and I have been through a very sticky patch of his making recently and we are slowly emerging stronger than ever. Before you get yourself in a tizz stressing about it why don't you actually talk to each other?

I am not fighting. I am just trying to point out that there are other possibilities rather just hanging him by his halls straight away.

There was fatalities last night, so he didn't lie. And it would be a coincidence that his made up story turned out to be true.

And, that card might not even be his, as he says.

You're reading it as accusing WhatMeWorry, meanwhile in the real world, the rest of us see it as theories, possibilities, things that you tend to get if you ask people their opinions.

There was a railway fatality at Maidenhead and one in Scotland. Trains to Maidenhead go from Paddington. You could do it in a roundabout way from Clapham Jct, but problems occurring on the western lines would be unlikely to hold up services from Waterloo. There was a fire on the Gravesend train from Charing Cross at half past eight.

I'm not privy to secret railway information, so maybe there was a 3 hour delay on England's busiest line, at rush hour, which absolutely nobody else noticed.

I can agree about farting

Nancy - I just roared at 'propped up against the breakfast table'

OP I hope you haven't been scared off. It is pretty obvious that you don't trust your DH for whatever reason, otherwise it wouldn't have occurred to you to check trains etc etc.
My DH is often home later than expected due to issues with the trains. It has never crossed my mind that he might be anywhere other than where he says he is.
Only you know whether he is lying because he is trying to avoid a row about him wanting to watch the football or go for a pint.

There were quite a few tweets about the great atmosphere at Waterloo, due to the footie. Maybe he did end up jollying in the crowds, but that would still mean he lied (and had planned to since the morning).

This thread's turned me into a train geek

strange but if he were lieing why make a stroy up at all? Why not just say train delayed see you as soon as. I will call you when i get to the car or when im close to home?

When people are lying they tend to go very OTT

In defence of the OP's DH, people trying and/or succeeding in throwing themselves under a train is normally the reason why the trains go totally screwy on that line. It is rarely anything else, so not totally implausible.

nancy - not if they dont want to get found out they dont - they come up with something perfectly plausible if they have a brain cell.

All of the liars I have come across don't go very OTT. Only my Mother, but she is melodramatic in every possible way anyway. If she has a headache, she tells people she is certain it is a brain tumour for example so no one believes her anyway.

can i ask those who think this is totally innocent - why would anyone keep in their wallet a masseuse card?

I thought OP said it was left on a table, not in his wallet...

And it wasnt a 3 hour delay.. he said there was a delay, he didnt say he had been sat there for 3 hours..

You're reading it as accusing WhatMeWorry, meanwhile in the real world, the rest of us see it as theories, possibilities, things that you tend to get if you ask people their opinions.

Erm - your "real world" view comprises of assuming hooker shagging and VD infections, based on the thinnest of evidence, and ignoring known facts and far more probable explanations?

As i said, typical MN Relationship mindset - the bloke is always guilty, even when proven innocent.

The masseuse card...DH was given one once in Dubai, although it claimed to be for a modelling agency.

Bless DH, he's lovely but he's never going to be asked to accompany Kate Moss along the catwalk and he doesn't look like someone who might be in need of a model for his latest design collection either.

So it was a card for a brothel or an escort agency. He said they were handing cards for all sorts out in the street, taxi companies, shops, day trips, boats etc and he took this one, with lots of others for different things, without even looking at it and left it in his pocket.

I found it (and the others), asked him about it, he was confused and then horrified and I believe him when he says he had no idea that he had it or what it was really for. If nothing else he is incapable of keeping a secret after he has had a drink and he would have cried and confessed long ago if he'd had the first inkling what the card was for, let alone if he'd used the services of the models advertised.

It is possible someone handed out the card to whoever it was who left it on his bedside table and he didn't even look at it at the time, then just emptied out his pockets later on without looking at it then either.

OP I hope everything is okay for you.

It's not an episode of EastEnders wheremommagone

I hope that the OP does come back.
I really want to know if it is only the masseur's card that has caused her suspicions. If it is, I truly believe that anyone who is planning on/is frequenting these places would go to greater lengths to hide the evidence, rather than simply leaving it on a (breakfast/coffee/bedside/study/Occasional/Dining delete as appropriate) table. I do.

FWIW OP, I remember the days of being home all day with 2 rowdy pre-schoolers and counting the minutes to DH coming home. I'd be rocking silently in the corner of the kitchen eyeing the gin bottle often. I also got very jealous of the women DH worked with, with their career suits and coiffed hair (not snot ridden tops and jeans exposing my muffin top like myself). I did. That used to be me and then I was stuck watching CBeebies on a loop and fancying the bloke off DoodleDoo whilst mainlining jaffa cakes. Not every day, but sometimes.

I hope that you have talked to your DH and your fears have been allayed. A load of MNers who have no knowledge of you and your marriage can't possibly second guess the innocence or otherwise of your DH.

possibilitiues wmw.

not ah sure he's grand, for a certainty.

if were the op id come back to say thanks for being no support what so fucking ever to all the smugs from smugsville, and that would be my only update, possibly coupled with the words 'off' and 'fuck' and to give a general direction of travel.

there are some threads where it is not really helpful to start making wild speculative assumptions about what type of person the op must be. This i would have said, was one of them.

It's probably not helpful to speculate that her husband has venereal disease either.

Isn't the European Cup on. When was England playing?

Not sure why there has been so much train detective work going on, when no-one knows whether her H went anywhere near London. Just cos he said he was going there...