I think I have just caught my dh lying to me...

[Corrie4Ever]

I've changed my bname for this one, it seems pretty serious
DH went to London today for a work meeting. Said in the morning he "wouldn't be home till late, 9 or 10 pm".
"Why?" I said. "Those meetings never go on much past 5pm do they?" (is a 3 hour journey back to us, max)
"Oh, uh, no," says he, a bit flummoxed. "I suppose I'll be back more like 8ish then."
Thought no more of it. then got text at 7.50pm saying "some poor soul has jumped in front of the train, gonna be late"
Followed by "god I hate London!"
Then I rang him at 9pm and he said he was back out of London and had picked his car up at Basingstoke, and was driving home. I asked about the suicide, he said the train was sat on the rails for AGES while police investigated someone jumping under the train in front of him all this on the railway just between Waterloo and Clapham.
I begin to remember that earlier conversation this morning.
Look on the internet. No record of any such incident, delays, nothing.
Ring South West TRains, nothing happend at all...
He is still not back- what do you guys reckon??
WE have been together 8 years, 2dcs, never ever had any cause to suspect anything before...happily married...I think...

On his table is hardly hidden is it?-unless his table is locked away in a room which requires a key or fingerprint or iris laser recognition to gain access

I suggest you never go to Soho if you're feeling a little stressed

It still don't bloody mean it was dodgy.

If I was trying to explain something as dodgy, I would say dodgy.

Not me who needs to get real. Everyone is basing everything on assumptions.

I see that instead of this thread going to the Relationship board, the Relationships board has come to this thread!

IMO the best advice the OP has got on thus tread is to not assume its a slamdunk case of hooker bonking and VD, but to instead see that some far more benign and probable outcomes are possible.

And that he may not even be lying!

(I know that is a bit hard for some here to compute, as their mindset seems to be that all men are guilty, even if proven innocent :)

OP I hope it is all much clearer today, one way or the other.

FFS...with 2 jobs, a home to run and 2 DDs with a busier social life than me, DH having an unscheduled, unaccounted for hour in his diary, is about 37th on my Things That Matter To LeQueen list
if he rocked up at 9.30pm, rather than 8.00pm...chances are, I wouldn't even notice...

Haha - I'm right there with you LeQ. DH gets gyp if he comes home earlier than anticipated, not later :D

I think vicar and tough make very good points.

OP, if you are still reading I'm sorry my earlier post sounded smug. I hope you get this sorted out. Even if you don't speak to your DH about this specific evening I say trust your instinct, generally.

don't be ridiculous wmw.

'all men are guilty' vs 'all women are insecure controlling ingrates who drive their men away'

I feel sorry for OP. I hope she doesn't come back. this is not helpful

Who on earth has said that men are guilty, Whatmeworry ? Stop throwing up strawmen, it's ridiculous.

Tangoed I seriously doubt the OP would have mentioned a card that said "Bob Jones, physiotherapist and sports massage, Big Gym Chain Ltd"

Aside from the train journey, the thing that I would find strange is that the OP's DH said he was driving home at 9 and still wasn't back at 10.40. I assume given that he gets the train in that they don't live nearly 2 hours drive from the station.

However, this does not mean that whatever was going on is cheating. Hope you get it all sorted OP.

But the card doesn't have to be a "Gym chain" one either. Could just be some shop, which she assumes has dodgy going ons. Don't mean she is right, does it?

I don't know how many times it can be said.

A prostitute's card looks as different to a normal massage card by about the same degree as a prostitute looks different to the person doing the normal massage.

whether you are or arent giving happy endings, you want your clients to know what to expect....so as yellowrc says, their business cards are very different.

if your business card could be mistaken for the other type of business, you would change it pretty quickly!

Tango, here's a challenge for you. I'm linking advertisement images from two different massage therapists near Waterloo.
One
Two
See if you can tell which one is the erotic massage service, and which the holistic therapist?

my local spa has a massage card with a flower on it.
my local sports therapist has a massage card with a 'muscle-man' on it
my local massage parlour has a massage card with a woman's lacey-pantied arse on it.

but they are probably highly unusual

That's exactly what I thought Alibaba!

x - posted!

again

Well, sounds like he was definitely lying, especially if he already said earlier he would be later than usual.

When people lie about where they are then they are definitely hiding something.

The massage card would worry me too...

FFS, but HOW do YOU know the card was one with a flower or what not on it?

You don't, as the OP ain't said. You are assuming it isn't, like I am assuming that she is just being a bit paranoid.

bangs head against brick wall

Er, because why the hell would she mention one that was clearly a sports massage/spa massage?

you are 'right' tango.

see what I did there? that's how op described the one she saw she put it in quote marks. So it's clear it wasn't ust a flower on it

Because maybe, just maybe, it wasn't clear? And maybe the OP don't feel comfortable thinking of another women with her hands on him?

At least I am saying "maybe". You all are just taking it as gospel.

argh that was bitchy. sorry

Lol
Ladies. You are fighting over a strangers h.