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To be furious with the way I was treated at Zara?

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VeryAngry · 10/06/2012 00:06

Right, so how many times have you seen women at Zara (or any other store for that matter) trying on things like jackets or coats over their shirts in front of one of the store mirrors? I see it all the time.
Do you always take a coat/jacket into the fitting room especially if it's the only thing you want to try on and there is a long cue? I doubt it.

So today at a Zara store, I was trying on a jacket over my T-shirt in front of one of the store mirrors. I was not the only one doing this, there were at least 6 other women in the same store trying on things outside the fitting room.
An extremely rude zara employee came up to me and told me that I couldn't try anything on unless I took it into the fitting room. Despite her tone and rude manner of speaking, I politely assured her that I was not interested in trying on any dresses/blouses/jeans etc., I only wanted a new jacket which I could easily try over my T-shirt. She said it was against the rules to try anything outside the fitting room "for security reasons". This was completely odd to me as I have tried on jackets on the store floor several times in zara and I've never been stopped. Nevertheless, I let it go and carried on browsing.

Not even 5 minutes later I saw a woman trying on a skirt in front of the same mirror and the same Zara employee said nothing to her. Another woman came and tried on a top and wasn't stopped either.

I was upset. Firstly, I was unaware of any such rule at any store and secondly, if such a rule did exist why was she stopping only me? Why not the others? i have no issues with such a rule as long as it is enoforced on everyone and not selectively.

I approached the employee and asked her why she didn't stop the lady who had tired on the skirt and jacket on the shop floor instead of the fitting room, if it was indeed against the rules. She started addressing me very rudely and began a torrent of arguments saying it was for "security reasons". Now this befuddles me! Do the "security reasons" apply only to me? Did I look like a thief to her? I told her I didn't appreciate her tone and that she had no business speaking to me so rudely. She even snapped "Do you want the clothes or not?" I asked her to explain herself calmly and politely. Instead, she said that if I didn't "stop", she was going to call security Angry Angry. I was fuming by now. I told her to go right ahead and call security. While she did that, I asked another employee that I wanted to speak to the manager.
Throughout this time, people kept trying on various items of clothing on the shop floor and nobody stopped them. I thought this was blatant discrimination.

The manager was completely unhelpful and she wouldn't even give me the employee's name so that I could lodge a complaint. She kept saying she would have to see the CCTV footage herself before she could take any action. This was extremely insulting because it made me feel like I was some kind of liar- which I most certainly am not.
I told her I wanted an apology from the woman who spoke to me so rudely and insulted me in front of other customers. She said she couldn't arrange that unless she had heard the employee's side of the story. She told me that if I was that keen on taking action I could wait until the store closed. This was at 4pm. Zara closes at 9pm at westfields on a saturday. Interestingly, not once did she confirm that the employee was right and that zara did have any such rule regarding where jackets could be tried on.

What galls me is that all this time women kept trying on clothes in the store instead of the fitting room and and nobody said a word to them. I have been shopping at Zara for years now and never before have I been made aware of this rule.

OP posts:
LunaLunatic · 10/06/2012 06:23

First of all, why the bollocks can't she spend (presumably) her money on an expensive purse if she wants to? Or a 100 grand car? Or a sod off massive house? Who's bloody business is it to remark on how OP spends her money and whether it's right or wrong? Personally I don't have two pennies to rub together, but when I've worked hard saving up in the past I'd be pretty furious if anyone dared to tell me I wasn't allowed to buy something or judged me for it after working my arse off to pay for it.

Second, OP please complain to head office. I worked shop floors and would never have spoken to a customer that way, ever. Just because a customer might have challenged me, or I was having a shit day or whatever did not give me the right to ignore all training and basic etiquette and scream at the customer. She sounds like she needs to be retrained or find a career which is not customer facing. Or start acting with some grace.

gastrognome · 10/06/2012 06:23

I experienced the worst customer service ever in a branch of Zara in Paris so can sympathise to an extent. I went in to exchange an item (with the receipt) in which one seam had unravelled a couple of weeks after I bought it. The sales assistant accused me of ripping the seam myself on purpose and told me to go home and sew it up. It was glaringly obvious that the seam had been badly sewn/finished which is why it came undone in the first place. I stood my ground and eventually they exchanged the article after about ten minutes of argument. They were truly horrible and I was in tears afterwards.

I really can't stand being spoken to rudely for no reason so I understand why the OP felt indignant. On the other hand I can understand why they don't want people trying things on outside the changing rooms, though its out of order nobody else got singled out...

Pastabee · 10/06/2012 06:25

I have to say i'd have left the shop when she asked me to take the jacket off.

MrsCampbellBlack · 10/06/2012 06:26

By purse you mean handbag right?

Well I've never been told that in Zara either but in the nicest possible way you do seem rather an angry person - best to just move on surely?

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 10/06/2012 06:28

The words 'mountain' and 'molehill' apply here. It was mildly annoying, but no need for you to give it so much headspace and let it upset you. Yu have completely over-reacted and it is only you who is suffering by letting it upset you so much.

So, somebody behaved a bit unreasonably. 'Tis life, walk away and ...breathe.

comedycentral · 10/06/2012 06:44

Rude cow...please complain properly! Zara are actually going out of buisiness according to some employees at one of their north west branches.

my2centsis · 10/06/2012 06:57

I agree with sinister.

I think you sound like a nightmare of a customer and I have never tried anything on in the middle of the shop and if a sales person asked me to not do something I would stop doing it without question.

I too would of been a but miffed at the other women doing the exact thing but wouldn't approach the sales women, have a go and then tell her to talk calmly! How horrible

forehead · 10/06/2012 07:20

I think that yadnbu.
Some of the posters are missing the point. The OP, is not upset because she was told not to try the jacket outside the changing room, she was upset because she felt that she was discriminated against, as other customers were not approached for doing exactly the same thing.
It is almost as though many posters are condoning discrimination, by suggesting that she may have been stopped for looking 'dodgy'. If this was the case, she IS a victim of discrimination.
I would deffo make a formal complaint to head office. You can bet your bootom dollar that previous customers have complained about this member of staff previously .

BalloonSlayer · 10/06/2012 07:34

Oh come on, it's obvious.

Quite a few posters have said the same has happened to them at Zara.

It's clearly a policy that they do this.

The poor salesgirl is told by her boss "You must tell people they are not allowed to try on clothes on the shop floor."

Whenever she tries to do this she gets an earful from customers who think "How DARE you, I have been shopping here for years, who do you think you are? You only work in a shop!"

She is therefore cringing about having to do it.

So she only tells people off when her manager is around, so she can be seen to be doing her job.

The OP was the unlucky one who was around at that precise moment.

ripsishere · 10/06/2012 07:36

I think you sound a little unhinged TBH.
Saturdays are probably the worst day of the week to work in a shop.
If there were so many other people trying the jacket on, wouldn't you be better going somewhere a little less popular?

BalloonSlayer · 10/06/2012 07:36

"My purse alone cost me £800, and being in the fashion business I am sure she knew that. Did she really think I would steal a £30 jacket?"

If you would try on a £30 jacket then presumably you might buy a £30 jacket so it follows that you might steal a £30 jacket.

Winona Ryder is a frigging movie star, didn't stop her shoplifting.

Shakirasma · 10/06/2012 07:42

yabu

I agree with others who have siad that you probably matched the description of a known shoplifter.
With that in mind, do you not realise that the sales assistant could have simply asked you to leave the shop? But she didnt, she simply asked you to try on the jacket in the changing room which I think was very sensible, and although you say she was rude she was actually polite and tactful enough not to say 'i have good reason to believe you are going to nick it'.
Shoplifting is a massive problem costing stores and ultimately decent customers millions of pounds every year. Should shop staff just sit back and ingore the problem for fear of causing offence? IMO absolutely not. I think she handled what she thought was a risky situation very well, and you had a massive tantrum.

rookanga · 10/06/2012 07:53

Your posts here do seem very angry. If this is an indication of how you spoke to the shop assistant than I can understand why this didnt end well.

You asked "So imagine this scenario- everyone is allowed to buy a particular pair of jeans but the store refuses to sell it to you. They may be within their rights to that, but would you just accept it? Would it not be considered discrimination?"

I really wouldn't care - they are meant to want my money more than I want their clothes. If they don't seem to then I would go to a different shop.

whenyouseeitwaveorcheer · 10/06/2012 07:56

I always try stuff on outside the changing room as I can't bear to drag two children in with me.

The only time I've ever been told off was many, many years ago, pre DC when my met and I tried on a couple of dresses over our clothes in H and M on Oxford street and got told off by security. You know the way you sometimes get stuck in an unfamiliar dress when you try to take it off? Yeah, that happened to me while I was trying to wriggle out of it under the security guard's watchful glare Blush Blush

I think that YANBU because it's not like you did anything horribly wrong and if she didn't want you to try on the jacket she didn't need to take a 'tone' with you about it, she could have just been polite.

whenyouseeitwaveorcheer · 10/06/2012 07:57

my mate

exoticfruits · 10/06/2012 07:59

A formal letter to Head Office is the way to go. Keep it polite and reasonable and state the facts.

pickledpenny · 10/06/2012 08:00

Yanbu. I would have felt very insulted too.

I bought a coat from a store recently and used the mirror that was placed directly by the coats for that exact purpose. I would certainly of challenged any assistant that asked me to move to the changing rooms whilst ignoring other customers that did the same.

Don't let it go, make a formal complaint.

exoticfruits · 10/06/2012 08:05

I never go into a changing room for a coat or jacket - even if quiet. No one has ever said anything.

emsyj · 10/06/2012 08:07

Oh yes, how very dare the OP spend her own money on an £800 purse Hmm. Surely with this dreadful attitude to money she must be a moron, a snob and an arsehole Hmm Hmm Hmm.

I agree with Pastabee, I would have just left the shop as soon as the assistant told me off. Actually, scratch that - I wouldn't have gone into Zara in the first place as they sell third-rate tat. Seriously, I don't get the appeal of Zara at all - the tops and blouses always seem to have makeup marks on them and the quality is much nicer for less £ in Primark. But each to their own.

YANBU, if you work in a shop (and yes, I have worked in a shop myself in the past for several years) you are polite to customers. Even if they're rude to you. That's part of the deal when you work in a customer facing role. You don't get to be rude just because they are rude to you first.

Groovee · 10/06/2012 08:15

Complain to head office

ThatsEnoughHasHadEnough · 10/06/2012 08:56

"My purse alone cost me £800, and being in the fashion business I am sure she knew that. Did she really think I would steal a £30 jacket?"

I suppose that would depend on if she thought you would steal an £800 purse?

Is it really worth getting so upset about and risking the poor girls job?

catchafallingstar · 10/06/2012 09:04

Over the top reaction...
You should have left the shop after she reminded you to use the changing rooms (which is perfectly acceptable, you just wanted a short cut / lines might have been too long etc).

Your harassing the girl about 'discrimination' is slightly unhinged to be honest....

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep · 10/06/2012 09:08

I don't think you are being unreasonable if she was rude straight off the bat.

If she'd come up to you initially and said,'I'm terribly sorry madam but would you mind using the changing rooms to try things on?' you'd have been OK about that, right?

Proudnscary · 10/06/2012 09:09

Are you sure you were not the one being rude and snappy? I always feel a bit Hmm when OPs go on about how 'calm and polite' they were when berating shop assistants!

Proudnscary · 10/06/2012 09:10

Did you yell 'Do you know who I am?!' at any point?

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