That's an excellent post Gyspy.
I paid for all those things in the UK too Bijou (although I did use the NHS GP, dentist and the NHS for childbirth) and where did I make any assumptions about you being a trailing spouse? What difference does it make whether you worked in Dubai or not, or followed you DH or not? You lived off a tax free income one way or another. Or did you save 40% of it all up and dutifully handed it back to Alistair Darling the day you arrived home?
Anyway, for the third time, what would you have done (given that you have a very poor opinion of healthcare Dubai) if your medical insurance had not covered private obstetrics in the UK? Pay for it yourself? Ok, so let's assume you couldn't afford to pay to go private. What then? Not all expats are rolling in money as well you know.
The thing is Bijou, if I rocked back up in the UK tomorrow, with not a penny to my name, school aged children in tow, and said my marriage had ended and I'd come home, I would be automatically entitled to housing, HB, income support, NHS healthcare, schooling, the whole lot. All I'd have to do is arrive. And ask. Because I am entitled to be there, and I'm entitled to be supported there, whether I intend paying any tax or not. Because I am British.
I know someone who lived in the UK as a 'single mother' and bought subsidised low-cow housing, had subsidised council tax etc, worked in a low paid job claiming tax credits etc, did a part time degree with financial help as she had to support a child, used state education for her child, while her long term DP and father of her child (they had been together for many years) earned good money working in the UAE, and contributed nothing to the UK household - the slack was picked up by the state. They spent the school holidays visiting him in their house in UAE, and having a lovely time, and he'd go home a couple of times a year to stay with them in the UK house. This went on for years.
Now that is having your cake and eating it.
And it's great for you that you could always afford to go private but perhaps others cannot. Some people are just doing what they can to hold their heads above water and avoid unemployment at home. It could be worse - they could be claiming benefits at home and clogging up the NHS by having babies.
Anyway, as I said, I do not disagree with you in theory, but I think if they want to crack down on British expats using the NHS (and I'll lump state boarding schools in with that as well - same principle) they need to look a bit more closely at ALL forms of opportunistic parasitic behaviour - especially from those who are not even British. It's just odd that you choose to pick on British expats when they can be argued to at least have some historic entitlement.