To say well done to my super nephew...

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My 10year old nephew had new splints fitted. The man who fit them was not his normal one, so when he came to fit them my nephew said to him"I think that they need to be cut more."
To which the fitter replied "Well I have had 24 years experience doing this so I do know what I am doing."
My nephew then turned to him and said " Well I have had 10 years experience at being disabled so I know what I am talking about.
I thought that was brilliant.

then the fitter is a dick and well done the DN.

well said MrsDeVere,

btw, how did you get on in the London 10,000 the other week?

My DD was the politest child you would ever of had the priviledge of meeting.
She was quiet and calm and dignified.

The day she told some snotty SHO to 'go away and leave me ALONE' I kissed her and told her what a star she was.

In my family we value good manners highly.
I expect my children to behave around adults.
However, children who are put in difficult and extraordinary circumstances should not be expected to always behave the same way as children who have ordinary lives.

whereare I swopped it to the London Run on the 8th July. The terrible weather got in the way of training. I have now joined a gym and am about to restart my punishing schedule tomorrow (after a few days off in honour of the Queen)

Thanks for asking!

I actually feel physically sick at some of the responses here.

Do you sun, annunziata have a disabled child. ???

Do you have the faintest idea what it's like for them or their parents.

Have you actually read mads post, or mine or the spot on mrs deveres??

I know who the pathetic and stupid arseholes are on mumsnet.

I hope everyone remembers your user names and treats your views with the contempt they deserve.

Yes professionals can be dismissive, but then again any adult can.

In comparison, and this is why I'm surprised at the responses here, a year+ or so I posted about my DS (then 5 or 6) shouting at a mum who squirted ketchup on his plate at a party despite him saying he didn't want it. (to see if I was BU not to make him apologise as she thought he should). Not the party mum but another child's helicopter mum. My DS asked for a new plate, she told him to stop making a fuss and eat the food and leave the ketchup. He got cross and shouted at her for not listening to him.

He is allergic, he has anaphylaxis, he deals with this daily and he shouldn't have to be polite to pig ignorant adults who think he is 'just a child' and therefore by some strange rule he should polite - even when his life is at risk.

Wasn't actually talking about you secondcoming but hi! Was talking about the person who started using "asshole" to refer to the child, and the person who concurred.

Feel free to mentally re-edit my rant with "you, my dears, are acting like arseholes" etc, it still stands.

I do not have a disabled child. I read those posts, and god I feel terrible for those children. But I wouldn't tolerate them being so rude and I certainly wouldn't congratulate for it.

Nice name calling by the way.

Should have said - I was told (mostly) I WNBU. This is why I don't get what is so different here.

I think the shoe analogy is a good one. I also agree in wondering if the fitter would've used the "I know what I'm doing" line on an adult.

I don't see a problem with a cutting remark when the recipient has earned it (and it really seems like he did) - sometimes you just have to or you will never get your point across.

Totally youarekidding.

I keep thinking about how many other children this arrogant twat has miss fitted.

Oh and apparently it was because this adult never knew you could be allergic to ketchup. So it was a case again of an adult thinking they knew better.

Thanks thebody I didn't want to hijack but did want to point out that sometimes it is necessary for children to respond to adults in a less than polite and/or appropriate manner. Just as adults, including me to DS sometimes respond children the same way.

Children are only human like adults are, difference is a child is still learning. Adults should know better.

MrsD I'm not running in that one but I'll wave to you as it goes past the end of my street.

You feel terrible for the children?

No really, thanks but no thanks.

We dont need pity. Understanding and respect yes, you feeling bad for our kids, not so much.

Listen to what the parents are telling you. Try and at least understand a tiny bit of what our children go through.

My friend took her little girl to hospital a few weeks ago. They kept her waiting, NIL by mouth for 5 hours. She had to sit in an empty room with no tv, no toys, no company for all that time.
Then she was given sedation that didnt work. Then she had to have a series of very, very painful injections that caused her to scream and writhe so much she had to be held down.
All the time being told 'come on now its not that bad'.

She has to go back and do that again in a few months. She is 7. That is her LIFE.

Her mother was trying to tell the doctors that the sedation hadnt worked, that it doesnt work for her DD, the child was telling them that it hadnt worked.

This is just one incident in one child's life. I wont go into some of the stuff that happened to my DD. Its too distressing.

Well what do you want me to say? I don't wish that on anyone.

Annunziata then you havnt the faintest idea of how shite l
Medical care can be and how terrible some health care workers are at their jobs.

My dd had a plaster jacket fitted in France after the crash, it was brilliant, despite having no English interpreter they listened to her and measured and fitted one spot On.Nothing was too much trouble.

In England at a world renowned childrens hospital.

New jacket did not fit ever, they would not listen and she developed a sore that needed packing and lancing.

Polite doesn't do it in our NHS I am afraid.

So as you have no experience of this I suggest you shut up.

Your OP implies this converstion took place before the fitter had a chance to look at the splints. If this was the case then yes the fitter was rude but your nephew was also very rude in return, . If the converstion took place towards the end of the consultation then perhaps your nephew can be excused for feeling some urgency to get his point across.

I work in a special school ad we would not tolerate any student speaking to an adult or peer that way. We

You just said it, we don't want you and other ignorant ops to say anything just shut up.

Why? The OP asked if she was being unreasonable- I thought she was.

Terrible for those children? What a silly remark.

Being a working in a special school is not the same thing.
My son would be expected to be polite in school at all times.

It is not the same as being dismissed in a hospital setting.
This is about a child's body, not his education.
Its not about letting disabled children be rude.
Its about children having to learn to be assertive and made themselves heard at a very early age.

How wonderful it would be if they didnt.
How wonderful if the parents didnt have to be labelled as lairy by HCPs because they are 'demanding'.

How much easier everyone's lives would be then.

Your nephew was rude. He is not a little star, more like a spoiled brat.

I know it's difficult not to hijack youarekidding.

But it's difficult to not do so when your experiences with your own children match the ops and ignorant posters beat her up or worse attack a disabled 10 year old for actually dating to challenge a thick twat of a health care worker.