Are these women unhappy in their situations because their DPs have become lazy, or because they have always been lazy?
I ask because I have friends who will moan til the cows come home about how their DH doesn not clean the bathroom/leaves wet washing in the machine for 2 days/doesn't seem to notice dust. Yet when I ask, they say, 'Yes, he has always been like this'. Well if he lived like that when he was single, what on earth made you think he would suddenly become a domestic god when you were living together?
I think lots of women expect an equal split, yet have much higher standards, and knew about the discrepancy in standards before they chose their partner, so in cases like this, I have no sympathy.
If a woman stays at home and cleans the house to how she wants it, then goes back to work, why should DP step in a clean it to how she wants it when she was aware of his standards in the first place?
I would happily live like a pig. I do the bare minimum for my house to be acceptable and DC to be clean and presentable. But if my DH was a clean freak and insisted I kept the house to a certain standard because that was what he wanted, you would all be telling me to leave the bastard 