Was I unreasonable here.

[Yummymummyyobe1]

I was going to name change for this but don't think it is necessery. Anyway here goes.

My DP, me and our DS1 live in quite a nice area. We are on first name terms with the three neighbours to the left of us and are quite friendly you know the sort of thing popping in for a cuppa, and neighbourhoog get togethers as well as lists of contact number and spare keys to one anothers homes.

Anyway to the right hand side there are how do I put this delicately?? a couple of properties where the famliy's/tenants are less then salubrious police visits are numerous and their genral behaviour is frightful for example their children seem to think it is more than acceptable to trespass on private property by climbing over the wrought iron work and playing chase across the four front gardens.

So today my DP and his father popped out for an hour whilst I stayed in with our DS1 whist he napped. Anway the door bell went and as bold as brass a member of the family to the right had the audacity to knock on the scrounge. We had just had a delivery of baby related items a new supply of nappies and formula you know the sort of thing. She stood on the doorstep and asked if I had some spare baby formula and nappies as they were sort this week. I politely said we didn't (a small white lie a know) anyway after this she stood there and asked if I was sure, as we have a small baby ourselves. At this my blood began to boil a little as no should mean no and not a chance to negotiate.

Anyway after storming down our front path and slamming the gate closed I overheard her say something about people like them. Ha what a nerve I think she has that very wrong and how we would help the people to the left (which I would as they put their famlies and children first).

The reason I said no are as follows:

1. They all have mobile phones
2. Most of them smoke
3. They always have a drink in their hand
4. Have Sky

under normal circumstances not an issue but if you can not afford to look after your child then some if not all the above are not needed, and surely any parent would put their child first before luxury items.

Was I unreasonable to turn her down based on the above grounds or should I have helped?

Thanks xx

Why would anyone not give a baby a couple of nappies and some formula?

Because they don't meet with the OP's approval, evidently.

Why would anyone not give a baby a couple of nappies and some formula?

Because they would let a baby go hungry to score a couple of points

If that sort of thing makes them feel better about themselves I feel dreadfully sorry for them

Very sad :((

PeahenTailFeathers I too keep things in bulk just in case, we have a months supply of nappies in the first and second size a few tins of SMA extra hungry feed as I hate the idea that our LO doesn't have something he needs (my whole arguement for a large rocking horse, he has a baby size one) xx

Come come, OP.

You made the very clear distinction between your naice neighbours and the chavvy neighbours who of course are up to no good asking for a nappy and some milk - and should on no account be helped because they are common.

I have no idea what responses you wanted or thought you'd get.

MN is really not the place to look for affirmation of rather stupid, snooty views - have you tried NetHuns?

Ps are your double kisses continental style, one on each cheek, or an air kissy mwah mwah type affair? I think you need to think carefully about this so as to maintain your standing in the neighbourhood.

I thought OP was longtime poster ?

Proudnscary the double kisses depend on whom they are aimed at. We have friends who use hem mwah mwah and then we have a few continental friends who we great with the the one on each cheek formation. So I gues it depends on the context. Why would I help people who do not have a civil bone in their body and seem to think that our front garden (for want of a better description) is an area for their children to play in and then tut and roll their eyes when we ask them to stop their children tresspassing. xx

You're area can't be that nice if you have police raids and dole waller scum living next door to you. Go on, admit it, you live on a council estate don't you!

Just saying.

*I live in a nice area, on a council estate, in a council house.

JubileeSchmoobilee we don't live on a council estate and own our recently renovated Victorian property. The police admit that if it wan't for said house they would never be on the road. The only reason said family live next door is that they were evicted from their previous property on a very rough estate in the next town over and they needed a large house for their family and the landlord agreed to rent it out to them. xx

Have you considered changing your fencing/planting around it to discourage trespassing?

everlong thanks I can see in the cold light of day how my original post sounded. As stated usually we don't have anything to do with one another and there is nothing worse than being taken advantage of. Obviously a one off does not fit this criteria, but it does set the precedent.

I think what I was trying to say about their smoking, drinking etc was that these are luxuries and as a parent myself I would give these up for my child. xx

Or putting an electric fence up and zapping the undesireables?

Just have them shot and be done with it

You should get an electric fence.

I can see in the cold light of day how my original post sounded

In the cold light of day you still sound snobbish and self centred.

NarkedRaspberry the problem is that the front garden has a stone wall and wrought iron railing with a small lawned area and a stone path so would need to be dug out. Although we are thinking of planting a small box hedge.

LOL ilovesooty it would also zap the postman and wouldn't look in keeping to the period of the property and the other four properties to the left.

xx

really?

I think I get it, as OP would give up luxuries for her child she is jel of their Sky TV, mobile phones, flat screen, PC, laptops etc etc

Therefore lets give OP a bit of a break eh? She mustn't have anything nice to herself because she give it all up for her LO, christ she must even be posting off a borrowed laptop

No, nothing is borrowed. Ever. Borrowing is evil.

I was thinking of something like this.

LoopyLoopsCorgiPoops really what??

xx

Shes nicked it? But she sounds so..... naice ...