Was I unreasonable here.

[Yummymummyyobe1]

I was going to name change for this but don't think it is necessery. Anyway here goes.

My DP, me and our DS1 live in quite a nice area. We are on first name terms with the three neighbours to the left of us and are quite friendly you know the sort of thing popping in for a cuppa, and neighbourhoog get togethers as well as lists of contact number and spare keys to one anothers homes.

Anyway to the right hand side there are how do I put this delicately?? a couple of properties where the famliy's/tenants are less then salubrious police visits are numerous and their genral behaviour is frightful for example their children seem to think it is more than acceptable to trespass on private property by climbing over the wrought iron work and playing chase across the four front gardens.

So today my DP and his father popped out for an hour whilst I stayed in with our DS1 whist he napped. Anway the door bell went and as bold as brass a member of the family to the right had the audacity to knock on the scrounge. We had just had a delivery of baby related items a new supply of nappies and formula you know the sort of thing. She stood on the doorstep and asked if I had some spare baby formula and nappies as they were sort this week. I politely said we didn't (a small white lie a know) anyway after this she stood there and asked if I was sure, as we have a small baby ourselves. At this my blood began to boil a little as no should mean no and not a chance to negotiate.

Anyway after storming down our front path and slamming the gate closed I overheard her say something about people like them. Ha what a nerve I think she has that very wrong and how we would help the people to the left (which I would as they put their famlies and children first).

The reason I said no are as follows:

1. They all have mobile phones
2. Most of them smoke
3. They always have a drink in their hand
4. Have Sky

under normal circumstances not an issue but if you can not afford to look after your child then some if not all the above are not needed, and surely any parent would put their child first before luxury items.

Was I unreasonable to turn her down based on the above grounds or should I have helped?

Thanks xx

OAM2009 I missed the winky one. xx

Here's yer checklist, then, based on the criteria given by Wikipedia:

1. Are you young?
2. Are you attractive?
3. Are you wealthy?
4. Are you a celebrity?
5. Did you quickly regain your pre-pregnancy figure after birth?
6. And did you continue to lead carefree and affluent lifestyle after birth?
7. Are you bankrolled by a husband working himself to death in the City?
8. Do you dress in designer outfits?
9. Do you carry the latest must-have bag?

10. Are you hair and nails perfectly groomed? 11. Do you have several children and yet remain a "girl about town"? 12. Do you dress fashionably? 13. Do you appear carefree?

(It was reported in 2008 that celebrity yummy mummys were contributing to levels of depression in young mothers, making new mothers feel "saggy, baggy and depressed" about their own bodies.[4])

No nappies here - and I am even out of wine!!!

That clears it up then, I'm not a yummymummy, nor by the sounds would I want to be. Portofino, my condolences.

Baby - nah! I work better on this checklist:

1. Are you peri-menopausal?
2. Do you have a moustache?
3. Was Adam Ant your first love or are you old enough to remember "proper" punk?
4. Do you give a shit?

Porto- Yes to no3 and no to no4...what do I win?

I score shit on both of those lists though :( DEFINE ME!

The condolences were for the wine by the way.

Babylann- is your name like 'babylann n ting'?!

I think that when you have to approach your neighbour about the behaviour of her kids in your front yard, she'll remember this. If you're lucky, she'll be more charitable than you.

I don't understand the question, kitty :(

Maybe I have defined myself!

Or perhaps I've defined MYSELF. I always read it as a variant of Babylon. The way you write your name is the way my Jamaican brother in law says Babylon. It always makes me giggle when I see your name.

I have questions about the TV thing...

1. OP, how do you know they pay for Sky and don't just have FreeSat?
2. Where do you stand on Virgin Media?

Oh! No, unfortunately not so exotic.

I like that though, I might have to use it as the real story as to how my name came to be.

I hate my username though. I was actually planning to change it half an hour ago or so, which is when I decided to capitalise the B as I couldn't actually think of a good name, thus made one tiny tweak to the current one. :(

Well I think its great. You could add 'an ting' to the end? Or 'shall fall'? Or 'by the rivers of' before it?

Ta da!

Lovely! So proud, you rrruuude girl!

OP - In your smug tone you mentioned that if you or your darling DP ever have the misfortune of losing your jobs, you have a nest egg put by.

That will not last long with a mortgage and bills to pay and a kid to feed. I rather suspect this is darling husbands nest egg. Fuck me, you may find you have to delve into the brats private school fund!

See?

Say what you really think [grib]

How nice.