Was I unreasonable here.

[Yummymummyyobe1]

I was going to name change for this but don't think it is necessery. Anyway here goes.

My DP, me and our DS1 live in quite a nice area. We are on first name terms with the three neighbours to the left of us and are quite friendly you know the sort of thing popping in for a cuppa, and neighbourhoog get togethers as well as lists of contact number and spare keys to one anothers homes.

Anyway to the right hand side there are how do I put this delicately?? a couple of properties where the famliy's/tenants are less then salubrious police visits are numerous and their genral behaviour is frightful for example their children seem to think it is more than acceptable to trespass on private property by climbing over the wrought iron work and playing chase across the four front gardens.

So today my DP and his father popped out for an hour whilst I stayed in with our DS1 whist he napped. Anway the door bell went and as bold as brass a member of the family to the right had the audacity to knock on the scrounge. We had just had a delivery of baby related items a new supply of nappies and formula you know the sort of thing. She stood on the doorstep and asked if I had some spare baby formula and nappies as they were sort this week. I politely said we didn't (a small white lie a know) anyway after this she stood there and asked if I was sure, as we have a small baby ourselves. At this my blood began to boil a little as no should mean no and not a chance to negotiate.

Anyway after storming down our front path and slamming the gate closed I overheard her say something about people like them. Ha what a nerve I think she has that very wrong and how we would help the people to the left (which I would as they put their famlies and children first).

The reason I said no are as follows:

1. They all have mobile phones
2. Most of them smoke
3. They always have a drink in their hand
4. Have Sky

under normal circumstances not an issue but if you can not afford to look after your child then some if not all the above are not needed, and surely any parent would put their child first before luxury items.

Was I unreasonable to turn her down based on the above grounds or should I have helped?

Thanks xx

Oppsididitagain perhaps we do need to build bridges somewhat here.

Thanks thundercat04

babylann I too hate conflict thus have very little to do with said family.

Thank you again angelicstar

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I was going to say what the OP's tone reminds me of but I fear it would be against the talk guidelines.

realhousewifeofdevoncounty no neither my DP or I work for the police.

Work what out everlong

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OP, now you've made me feel guilty for being silly and sarcastic. I do genuinely hope that posting your thread has helped you understand your own actions and motivations and helps you with any future encounters with your neighbours

ilovesooty you have me intrigued as to what you want to say, could you not phrase it another way?

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Oh go on sooty! Say it!

Well we are none of us perfect Yummy. Maybe another not borrowing opportunity to break the ice with the neighbours will come along.

I'm not saying you should invite them over for canapes tea, but odds are they're perfectly nice and normal people. Sometimes it's good to mix it up a bit..

babylann, I do indeed have Sky but I'm completely middle-class and therefore good as I do not have Sky Movies. I watch Sky Atlantic so I can watch wholesome, historical and definitely not pornographic entertainment like Spartacus, Rome and Game of Thrones

OAM2009 it has made me think a little more about things certianly. no need to feel guilty

everlong I wanted to vent and get another perspective on the situation. I'm not going anywhere with it outside responding to posts, as I asked for advice and do not want to be rude by not responding. It has made me think long and hard about how I interact with people.

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Not likely. I'm not keen on getting deleted.

"I wouldn't consider myself a Yummy Mummy although the ladies at clinic and NCT have mentioned I fit the criteria"

Surely a wind up? I hope so, otherwise you are pretty rude and insulting,OP.

Thanks ThePathanKhansWitch I believe that it may have been a missed opportunity to get to know them. I am a little reluctant to say the least due to the police presence at the property.

OAM2009 who doesn't like a nice gladiator .

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Portofino no offence meant by the post you asked and I said. i consider myself a normal everyday mummy. xx

What is "the criteria"? Is there a tick list? Maybe I'm a yummy mummy and I don't know. Is there an exam to take? Do I have to be rude to neighbours?

Yummy Knowing you from the April threads, can I lovingly suggest you just move on and leave this thread behind?

Some people just want to argue, whatever you say now, it won't be acceptable, or enough.

I want to be a YummyMummy too - but I am pretty sure I would fail the test.

Everyone, the OP likes gladiators so she can't be all bad. I think we should all agree to disagree and go watch Spartacus again especially the one where they all get their winkies out

It's okay to have Sky as long as you don't have the sports channels or any channel which shows Jeremy Kyle.

What is a yummy mummy?

everlong - me too!

Everlong- you schmooze! Are you after some nappies and formula from Porto?