Was I unreasonable here.

[Yummymummyyobe1]

I was going to name change for this but don't think it is necessery. Anyway here goes.

My DP, me and our DS1 live in quite a nice area. We are on first name terms with the three neighbours to the left of us and are quite friendly you know the sort of thing popping in for a cuppa, and neighbourhoog get togethers as well as lists of contact number and spare keys to one anothers homes.

Anyway to the right hand side there are how do I put this delicately?? a couple of properties where the famliy's/tenants are less then salubrious police visits are numerous and their genral behaviour is frightful for example their children seem to think it is more than acceptable to trespass on private property by climbing over the wrought iron work and playing chase across the four front gardens.

So today my DP and his father popped out for an hour whilst I stayed in with our DS1 whist he napped. Anway the door bell went and as bold as brass a member of the family to the right had the audacity to knock on the scrounge. We had just had a delivery of baby related items a new supply of nappies and formula you know the sort of thing. She stood on the doorstep and asked if I had some spare baby formula and nappies as they were sort this week. I politely said we didn't (a small white lie a know) anyway after this she stood there and asked if I was sure, as we have a small baby ourselves. At this my blood began to boil a little as no should mean no and not a chance to negotiate.

Anyway after storming down our front path and slamming the gate closed I overheard her say something about people like them. Ha what a nerve I think she has that very wrong and how we would help the people to the left (which I would as they put their famlies and children first).

The reason I said no are as follows:

1. They all have mobile phones
2. Most of them smoke
3. They always have a drink in their hand
4. Have Sky

under normal circumstances not an issue but if you can not afford to look after your child then some if not all the above are not needed, and surely any parent would put their child first before luxury items.

Was I unreasonable to turn her down based on the above grounds or should I have helped?

Thanks xx

4/10

Do they have a goat?

You can say what you think picnicbasketcase I shan't be offended. xx

Next.....

A Goat LaurieFairyCake?? I assume 4/10 is the level which you see my behaviour as unreasonable. xx

It's half term isn't it?

IMO once you say yes once they will be back time and time again

Do they have a flat screen tv?

Actually, under the same circumstances, it'd probably cross my mind, but this is going to be carnage!

Was it the first time they asked?
Are you in dire financial straights?

If yes then no YABU

YABU you should have offered to call social services for her.

Did you think they were going to sell the nappies to buy cigarettes?

YABU. It's a bank holiday and most shops are shut. If she'd run put of milk and nappies maybe the baby is now hungry and with a sore bum. However scroungey/disorganized they may be I would have offered enough to see the baby through the night.

i understand what you mean, she has obviously seen the delivery and thought that you dont need them for a few weeks and she could replace them by then.

She is a bit off if you dont have that sort of relationship.
my retort to her would have been , they are my friends you are merely a neighbour

No I'm sorry, biscuts and 4/10? OP has a point! OP paid for a delivery of items for the care of her baby and someone just saunters across and thinks she's entitled to ask for expensive items such as formula and nappies which the OP needs just as much as her.

If you spend all your money on beer and crap like that when you've got kids and need to provide things for them, well I'm sorry but they shouldn't have had the child.

You should have just taken the baby off her there and then really.

Although perhaps your DCs would have caught something from it so perhaps you did the right thing

The less than salubrious bastards!

Bloody hell theres loads of them

Quick, lock them all on this thread.

I can't really imagine a scenario where I would refuse to give anyone a couple of nappies and some formula if they were desperate enough to ask, TBH. Are the rest of your neighbours on "the left" all as judgmental as you?

You're not serious? Are you....

God, what utter chavs, I hope you reported them to the job centre, cos they're almost certainly on the scrounge.

Or whatever shit it is that you want people to say.

It is indeed HRHcatgirl1976

They do indeed AllYouNeedIsAClickyBallpoint but that didn't factor in my decision to decline. Why will this be carnage?

That was my thinking McHappyPants2012

McHappyPants2012 it was the first time they had asked. We are under no Financial problems due to the fact we both work very hard to have what we do as a family. xx

All the shops round here open major supermarkets and small local independents so no excuse for not being able to buy supplies because shops aren't closed.
I would probably have given a couple of nappies but not formula although have never used formula. And made it clear that I wouldn't be giving then out again.