Was I unreasonable here.

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I was going to name change for this but don't think it is necessery. Anyway here goes.

My DP, me and our DS1 live in quite a nice area. We are on first name terms with the three neighbours to the left of us and are quite friendly you know the sort of thing popping in for a cuppa, and neighbourhoog get togethers as well as lists of contact number and spare keys to one anothers homes.

Anyway to the right hand side there are how do I put this delicately?? a couple of properties where the famliy's/tenants are less then salubrious police visits are numerous and their genral behaviour is frightful for example their children seem to think it is more than acceptable to trespass on private property by climbing over the wrought iron work and playing chase across the four front gardens.

So today my DP and his father popped out for an hour whilst I stayed in with our DS1 whist he napped. Anway the door bell went and as bold as brass a member of the family to the right had the audacity to knock on the scrounge. We had just had a delivery of baby related items a new supply of nappies and formula you know the sort of thing. She stood on the doorstep and asked if I had some spare baby formula and nappies as they were sort this week. I politely said we didn't (a small white lie a know) anyway after this she stood there and asked if I was sure, as we have a small baby ourselves. At this my blood began to boil a little as no should mean no and not a chance to negotiate.

Anyway after storming down our front path and slamming the gate closed I overheard her say something about people like them. Ha what a nerve I think she has that very wrong and how we would help the people to the left (which I would as they put their famlies and children first).

The reason I said no are as follows:

1. They all have mobile phones
2. Most of them smoke
3. They always have a drink in their hand
4. Have Sky

under normal circumstances not an issue but if you can not afford to look after your child then some if not all the above are not needed, and surely any parent would put their child first before luxury items.

Was I unreasonable to turn her down based on the above grounds or should I have helped?

Thanks xx

If we take this at face value and ignore all the warning signs that scream wind up...

A. You have neighbours who you consider are not MC and have lower standards than you.

B. you don't know them very well.

C. Once, that is once, they ask you for nappys And formula because they don't have any and the shops are shut on a bank holiday weekend.

D. Because you perceive that they waste money you say no.

E. baby lies hungry in its own piss all night.

And you have the audacity to judge these people?? Get round there with the goods now.

How did she see what your delivery consisted of? It's delivered in bags or boxes in the real world.

Sarc it gets better than that

The neighbours don't even have a baby...their youngest is a toddler!

It is PissyDust but they usually disregard the request that their children do not play in the front of the house after all it is private property with a bout of foul language.

It is not a class thing yellowraincoat it is just that I do not help people I do not know as it can cause a great deal of problems.

Makeminealarge I can see what you are saying.

xx

You're really not very bright are you?

Oh ffs. Worra you're funnier and braver than me do something to shut the OP up...

Why on earth would they ask for formula if they have no baby?

Come on, what's the punch line?

If only Sarc!

I wonder if the penny will ever drop that the nappies and formula were for a visiting baby and therefore nothing to do with the neighbour's lifestyle?

I won't hold my breath....

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TheHouseOnTheCorner the nappies come in boxes with the nappy company on it and is bright purple and the formula was only a couple of tins the courier carried in by hand so easy to spot.

Sarcalogos I can assure you this is no wind up I have better things to do with my time mainly looking after DS.

Seriously even if your neighbours where the lowest of the low and you hated them. I would not have refused them a nappy or two and some formula. Its not the childrens fault if there parents morals are questionable. Its not like they asked you for money, its just a couple of nappies.

I wouldn't do it more than once as people do take advantage.

Yes the parents could be crap and putting themselves first instead of caring for their DC, but are you any better by doing the same ?

I understand op the people over the road from me often come asking for 20p. I made a point of telling them I never have cash in the house.

This thread is odder than odd.

I'm sorry people find this odd but it is the truth. Clargo55 I don't fully understand I am caring for my DS.

lalaland2008 thanks. xx

this place is mad. What lauriefairy said stop being weird.

I'm liking weird though, makes a change from all the Jubilee bollocks.

ThePathanKhansWitch I am a genuine mother and this was a genuine situation. Is it not a little werid that she waited until I was home with DS on my own?? xx

I also had a neighbour once come round and try to sell me her shoes.

Perhaps that was the moment her guests realised they'd left their baby's changing bag on the roof of their car and driven off....

What for 20p?

OP please stop putting xx after al your posts.

It's making me feel physically ill and I have enough to contend with, trying to grapple with the fact that you migh actually be for real

There's a love

No she wanted £2.50 for the used shoes or £5 for the shoes and a blind.

On your own, what the fuck did you think she was going to do to you? I take it she's a genuine mother too? unlike me who fakes it for appearances.

My neighbour once knocked and asked me for sugar

Sugar ffs when I have 3 children in the house??

I carefully poured it into some little foil wraps and we exchanged it in private like a drug deal.

Was it the neighbours to the right though, Worra?