to hate the term 'full time mother'?

[MammaTJ]

Seriously, this really gets my goat. I work. I have worked most of my childrens lives. I like the work I do and choose to work nights so I don't miss out on things like sports days etc, just miss out on sleep.
This does not make me a part time mother!! I never stop being a mum and putting my kids first for a second!
Also, their dad 'babysitting' while I work. Does that mean I babysit while he is at work?

Yes IgglePiggle we may as well fess up that all we actually do all day as SAHMS is sit on a lovely comfy sofa watching Cash in the Attic whilst our poor DCs bring us coffee and cakes all day!

Why thank you

You might have given it a polish in all that spare time you have, tut.

I was too busy taking my kids to the park.

Rofl - I even managed to do the polishing as well then?

being a parent who is at work and doing the parenting all day are 2 different things

when I'm at work my kids are at school, I'm still their mum but I'm not actually parenting them (and thank god I say, its the only break I get...)

parenting all day with wee ones is harder than any job I can think of

How else do you put it? 'mum who does own childcare full time as opposed to going to paid work' bit wordy. It's just an easy way of saying what you do, don't take it offensively. It's more to combat the idea that looking after kids is piece of piss, sahm doesn't quite cover it.

krum, most folk just say "mum"

we all know who works all day, who spends all day with the kids and who does a bit of both

I'd say mum covers it. Do men even have this debate? or pimms all round!

put a bit I welly in tae my steps
I want them shining, don't want to be talk o the steamie

Not if your answering when someone asks the questipn what do you do.

why doesnt housewife suffice when asked what you do?

what do you do?

answers on a postcard:

I stay at home looking after the kids

I work 3 days in (whatever)

I work full time

sorry, its not rocket science is it

cos a housewife sometimes doesn't have kids sm

fair point
just say you're a mum?

Housewife! I would never say that. Firstly mothers are not all married. And you can be a housewife even if you have no kids, so it doesn't explain what you do. I'd find that term demeaning.

I haven't heard anyone say housewife since 1952

YABU and too sensitive. I work pt and dont really care if other people think I mother part time

True though that only women get worked up about this. If someone asked dh what he did he would say his occupation. Not i am a dad and a .......

when I'm asked what I do,I answer my job

Just asked dh what he would say if someone asked him what i did. He looked scared, then confused and after much umming and ahhing came up with a diplomatic 'houseperson'; probably one up from a house elf though so should be grateful.

I've never met anyone in RL who says "Full-time mother". I think it's a bit taboo now, isn't it? We're all full-time mothers when we leave the delivery suite.

FWIW I'm a SAHM and I loathe the term SAHM. I prefer Neverhomemaker or "Lady of Leisure".

i'd rather run down sauchiehall st naked than say homemaker or lady of leisure

cringe cringe and double cringe

angelicstar, thanks for understanding me. I think sometimes people deliberately misintrepret posts and pretend they mean something else entirely.

When I was a SAHm I and asked what I did I would say 'I look after my kids' because that at the time was my 'job' and what I did.