to want my children to be with me at my sisters wedding.

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My sister is getting married 2moro and is being VERY bridezilla. She has just told me that there is no room for children during the sit down meal. They will be with a childrens entertainer in a separate room!!

This doesnt sit well with me at all. Ive not met this entertainer, so they are a stranger to me and my children. plus being in another room where I wont be able to even see them. My youngest is only 22months and very clingy.
She will scream. Ive told my sister this and she said its not debateable.

Am I unreasonable for hating this idea. My older two will be ok as they are 7 and 5 and it can be explained to them, but the baby just wont understand...

I'm glad it worked out ok.

I have to say a big part of my wedding was having a fun, enjoyable day. No drama, no fallings out.

I get it's the bride and grooms day but if you are inviting guests then you have to accommodate them too.

I am presuming that she doesn't have children yet , when she does I hope the tabels are turned on her so she can see how silly she has been. I agree the wedding is her special day but you have to try to accomodate to the needs of the guests you wish to invite..

"Yes I would leave my kids crying-I dont do clingon kids Im afraid-kids get over it very quickly and if they come back at 18 and tell me how I have damaged themhmm....oh well"

holidaysarenice, I stand by what I said. Most of us do our very best for our children and if we get it wrong and make a bad choice, then then that is deeply upsetting and a cause of much regret. To take an "oh well" attitude to the idea of doing something which turns out to be damaging to her dc, is abhorrent, to me.

karma-words on a screen my dear....

Id go and eat with the children. You will probably have a better time with them. At my wedding the children were the only thing that kept me entertained. We were on the dancefloor all night, me, my 18 month old and her 13 month old friend. I really dont get this 'no kids at weddings' thing.

Read the thread 2012-op has updated. I dont mind kids at weddings-we had a few at ours. As long as there parents look after them and ensure they bheave themselves. Plus I dont like small kids being allowed to evening do's when many people will be getting pissed-this is why the next wedding I am going to my kids are staying at home

"I really dont get this 'no kids at weddings' thing."

Neither do I. I have never been invited to a child free wedding, and if I was I wouldn't go.

It's no wonder so many people from other countries think we hate children in the UK.

"I really dont get this 'no kids at weddings' thing."

Same here.

I get it. If you have 50 friends (couples) and they have 2 children each. Thats a LOT of children (erm 50?). Some people LIKE children but you have to pay for meals and the like when they get to a certain age.

If your on a budget that can be a problem.

I got no problem with going to a no children wedding as long as I have plenty of notice.

I don't think child free should apply to close relatives. And I would never have been able to leave my kids at 22 months with some kids entertainer without me. 22 months is still a baby. And somehow my "cling-on" children are growing up into independent little beings regardless of my clinging

I never took my kids to friends weddings, always left them with the grandparents for the weekend from a few months onwards, stayed overnight. I enjoyed the break and they always had a wonderful time as by parents were brilliant with kids.

I don't get the not getting

It really is an each to their own thing, surely. I don't expect my child to be invited to every do to which I am. Ditto weddings. As long as the B&G don't get pissy if some people can't come through lack of babysitters, I fail to see the issue.

Besides, the op's sister's wedding wasn't childfree.

I don't get it if it's immediate/close family. I understand not inviting friend's children,because a line has to be drawn somewhere.

Close family is usually a bit of a given. As all potential babysitters will also be there as well!

"I don't get it if it's immediate/close family. I understand not inviting friend's children,because a line has to be drawn somewhere."

I meant close family as well.

I haven't been to very many weddings, and any friends' weddings we went to were way before children anyway. Also OH and I don't have a wide circle of friends so there weren't huge numbers involved anyway.

I ended up having a long chat with my sister and she thought she was doing what was best for all involved, children were invited but just not to the sit down meal bit as she thought they would enjoy an entertainer more and would be less boring for them. She had managed to forget about my dd (as I think she may have had a lot on her mind lol).

When she saw the other children were in and how unhappy I was getting she changed her mind. I left the older two where they were as they were very happy. when the entertainer finished and the children came back in everyone seemed happier.

thankyou for all your replies. I haddnt realized the children and weddings topic would turn into such a debate. xx

"I haddnt realized the children and weddings topic would turn into such a debate."

This is MN! Do you not know us at all?