for wanting people to follow the rules

[ScarlettAlexandra]

i am really annoyed with this. i moved from my last home for my neighbours parking their vehicles in our spaces and it got really nasty. we have since moved to a new development where there are set rules about what you can and cant do re: parking and vehicke types its ones of the reasons i bought the house. My new neighbours are basically flouting them even though they have been warned by the developer.

aibu to expect for people follow the rules that are set, and not take the piss.

its been handed to the solicitors now i hope this can be resolved ir ill be moving again.

What are they doing Scarlett sounds vair annoying anyhoo...

Depends on how seriously it affects you.

I don't think rules should necessarily be stuck to just because they're rules.

But I do think people should be thoughtful towards their neighbours and try not to piss them off.

Unless they're the mortally offended by everything types and then you can't help but piss them off.

YANBU - it is bloody annoying - but I don't know that moving again will help you, since you tried your damnedest to sort it this time and it still went wrong!
Unless you move into the country where you have lots of acreage...

So, do you mean your parking space is taken because they park there? Or what?

If they take your parking space, I would park right behind them so they can't get out and go knock on their door to ask why, so they knew to move. Or do they ignore that?

It's bloody annoying is the misuse of parking but how much does this actually prevent you getting access to your property? Only while rules are rules, it is usually best to pick your battles carefully with neighbours. The fact that you've rushed off to a solicitor suggests that this also get "really nasty".

I'm not saying that you should excuse bad behaviour I'm afraid you do come across as rather obsessed about parking.

I absolutely understand. Our previous neighbours always parked in front of our house. In spite of having a drive and parking space in front of their own house. It infuriated me. I never said anything but hardly spoke as they weren't very friendly anyway. Other neighbours said they were strange because they were really strict Christians. (Can't see how that explain car parking!!) Was really pleased when they moved.

Annoying yes, but not worth getting so wound up about!

you are not allowed to have large vans, work vehicles, over a certain size. my front room window faces a car park for some some part buy part rent affordable homes. which has two large volkswagon transporters, parked on it. the one has only been there a week if that so it coukd be that they are just moving in but the other has permenant residence. (the owner spend all yesterday polishing and cleaning the bloody thing the same home also has a sky dish pointed at us into the street. another rule which they have knowingly broke gggrrr.

i did check as their home purchase is different to ours do the same rules apply and i have been told yes.

This is exactly why a driveway is very near the top of my priorities list when I'm house hunting.

YANBU to expect others to adhere to their allocated spaces (I presume this is the set up?)

Depends what they're doing. If they're parking in your space, YANBU. If they're parking the wrong type of vehicle in their own space, YABU.

God, you sound like a nightmare neighbour.

Why does it matter to you if they have a large van parked in the carpark and why do you care if they have a sky dish. This has an impact on your life because???

You have got a solicitor about someone parking a van in a car park?

Ah x-posts.

So the vehicles that people are using is pissing you off? Really?

the developer solicitor and ours are working together to sort it out, they sre not happy either.

i havent spoken to the house involved, better that way, i coukd jepordise a resolution with my big mouth.

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In which case I think YABU and overreacting. Seriously, you're involving solicitors and thinking of moving because someone's satellite dish is pointed the wrong way

betty i face this awfullness daily. i cant miss it. their own lounge is at the back of their property so they dont see the hideous van that should not be there.

Oh dear. I think you might be set to constantly live out of boxes if you are this pedantic about everything.
They are doing nothing offensive or intrusive. They have a van and a sky dish.

I think you need to get over it.

So it's the rule breaking that is annoying you, not really the parking or the satellite dish?

Ignore me, of course it is, that's the title of your OP.

It's a little extreme.

i coukd jepordise a resolution with my big mouth.

Having interpreted this as "I could fuck things up big style if I don't wind my neck in", I'd agree. And politely suggest that you leave things alone all the while they remain none of your business. Especially as, from what you have told us, none of this parking directly affects your access to your property.

"awfulness"? Really?

the deeds clearly state they should not do this.

why can't they follow the rules? like everyone else?

You buy a house overlooking a car park then you will see vehicles parked in it. Perhaps you need to be looking for something with no neighbours for miles if your so easily annoyed!

Scarlett - find a nice detached freehold house in the middle of nowhere. Life will be better for you that way.