for wanting people to follow the rules

[ScarlettAlexandra]

i am really annoyed with this. i moved from my last home for my neighbours parking their vehicles in our spaces and it got really nasty. we have since moved to a new development where there are set rules about what you can and cant do re: parking and vehicke types its ones of the reasons i bought the house. My new neighbours are basically flouting them even though they have been warned by the developer.

aibu to expect for people follow the rules that are set, and not take the piss.

its been handed to the solicitors now i hope this can be resolved ir ill be moving again.

Someone finally got my Jesus reference from last night!

I still think the bright lights are relevant. But as I'm thoroughly enjoying myself, I'm staying schtum.

We were working round to it slowly

OP, I remember you from the last couple of P&C space threads. You seem very rigid in your thinking about rules.

The thing about rules is that they are there to make life nicer for everyone who is living in busy and full communities. That only works if people recognise when to let the rules bend a little and when to make exceptions. Rules can't suit everyone and if they are always rigidly enforced you finish up with some people with very nice lives and others with difficulties.

It is probably more important that someone can park their work vehicle than it is for you to look at one type of vehicle rather than another.

In every flat or community I lived in when I was in London, there was someone like you. In one small flat block (10 flats and a small carpark) there was an elderly lady who policed the carpark like a guard dog and reported every minor, irrelevant infringement to the management company and hassled them to take action. There was one assigned place for each flat and about 10 visitor spaces for general use. We had one car between three of us but the single night that my flatmate borrowed a car and parked it in a visitor's space she was reported by this woman. She also reported me for declaring my car offoad for 6 weeks when the tax was due but I couldn't use the car due to working arrangements - she hassled the management company until they made me tax it. She challenged anyone who parked there and raised merry hell if you were in the wrong place, even for loading or unloading. And she didn't even have a car!

Everyone loathed her and she made life really unpleasant. Have a really good think about whether you want to be that woman, OP.

The Voice of Complete Reason from kungfupanda.

After reading this i need a medal surely its all about how people view the space they live in seperating work from home.

Plus i don't get the jesus light thing either.

Op, I'm actually going to say YmightNBU. Is the van actually blocking your light, etc, or is it's mere presence driving you mad?

A neighbor at my old house had a big work van and used to park it out front--unfortunately, (tall van, low ceilings) it blocked the front window and plunged our front room into darkness. There was no rule against it, but my DH did ask him not to park it there. Eventually, someone slashed his tires, and we assumed it was one of the neighbors who was fed up with it. A couple of nights later, DH's car windows were smashed in. No one was ever caught, but I always suspected van man thought we had slashed his tires (because DH complained) and retaliated. It all got very ugly and sad.

So I do understand how a van can piss people off, and why one might involve a solicitor instead of speaking directly to the individual.

Did OP ever return to this thread?

Oh and a second vote for kungfupanda's brilliant post

Well said Kungfupanda.

kungfupanda

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