AIBU to think that breastfeeding mums of older toddlers

[helloclitty]

should stick to their principles and ideas and do whatever they think is right. However, I don't think it's particularly healthy to tell their children to keep it a secret.

I just read an article where the women had their own reasons to still be breast feeding after 2, however, one said she only fed the younger one in public and the older one was told it was something just between them and not for public. Another bilingual child was told to ask for feed in their non English language so that people wouldn't understand what he said.

I understand why they might do this but I can't think it's particularly good to ask young children to keep secrets like this and wondered whether they should be bolder with their choice rather than secretive.

only because you define secrecy and deception differently to me, that is fine it IS subjective

it still doesn't make me anti EBF because I would still see the line crossed if EBF were removed and any other subject inserted in its place.

DS is only 13 months, but I am very proud of myself and him that we're still bfing so I am happy to tell everyone

I do wonder if at some point this will change, but I can't see it. Don't think that we'll get to him being three and still feeding though as I really don't want to tandem feed and hopefully we'll have DC2 at some point in the next couple of years.

Sorry Mavis your posts not countess - got my poster name wrong.

Do you really think that MavisG has done half the work for a groomer??? Really?

Mavis again, you don't see that as crossing the secret Vs surprise line, I do, the line is subjective. I wouldn't do it. This we can argue/discuss.

it still doesn't make me anti EBF

monkey I have come to the conclusion you just don't like to be wrong about anything tbh.

Does it cross that line?

When he's witnessed me, countless times, explaining to people that 'mama' is our word for breastfeeding?

yes rainbow I think that is what it is about. I think the secrets Vs surprizes issue is very very very important and not to be comprimised on any topic

however i have REPEATEDLY, till blue in the face, acknowledged that WHERE the line is crossed is subjective and not everyone sees it at the same point

and it STILL DOESN'T MAKE ME ANTI EBF

But Mavis - you were just covering up that you make him keep feeding a secret - honest :)

because whatnamethistime you like to completely ignore the parts of my posts that don't suit you, like how I've said over and over and over and over that where the point is crossed is subjective and i am open to being corrected on that, hell I would much rather be proven wrong on that point and corrected than GET it wrong with DS as it is SOOOO important

but no matter, all you see in the above text is EBF IS BAD Y'ALL!

Y'know, I did start the whole nickname for it thing because I was daunted, because I was ff and most of my friends mix- or ff'd. It's really helped me.

I'm far more confident now, but I wasn't when he first started talking.

Then it is difficult to discuss this with you rationally as it is ludicrous to believe children are easy targets for grooming just because they have alternative names for bf. Mine called bf "mummyyummy". Nothing you can say will convince me that this meant I was inadvertently doing half the job of a groomer.

I have seen you twist another posters words, insinuate that poster is lying, try to make out that some ebf make their DCs keep it secret - all to prove your point.

Perhaps Mavis could clarify if she feels you true to twist her words and I
Imply she was lying?

*tried to twist her words and imply she is lying

rainbow in that case you are also ignoring what doesn't suit your arguement because i've SAID there's nothing wrong with children choosing pet names for it. I had a pet name for it.
I've said that TELLING them to adjust their name for the specific reason of keeping it from other adults is different to children naturally making up nonsense names for BFing, as they do!

I'm still BFing my DD 20 months once a day & missed it off when a student at her nursery just asked me to write down her daily routine. Honestly, I didn't want all the nursery staff debated my choice. Which IMHO isn't so much mine as DD's who gets very upset if it is withheld.