is he up to no good?

[mummytogorguztwinsxx]

Hi im new on here and really need some advice. Ive been with my husband for 3.5yrs and married for 1 was our anniversary may 11th. We have gorguz twin boys that are 2.5yrs. Up until the 28th april everything was great with our family, we were even trying for another baby.

The 28th april changed my life forever. My husbands ex partner from 5years ago showed up with his son!! Which he never knew about, his son is 4 in august. Which obviously shows this did not happen whilst we have been together but she did choose to keep his son from him n basically played god with his life.

Anyway since he has found out about him 3 weeks ago he has been spending hours and hours with them n no time at all with his twins, he's been coming home at midnight and even 2am once, they are also constantly txting eaxh other, i understand that he wants to be a dad and do the right thing and i support that, but its the secretive texts n the coming home late, also when he is out with them he wont answer the phone or my txts. They went to bkackpool last sat and he txt me a 9pm to say they were staying over and no matter how much i pleaded with him not to he still did it. The folliwing day he came home and after an hour or so he had a bath, when i asked for his washing there was no boxers, he says he left them at the hotel because they were full of sand from the beach which could be believable, but he h ad them in when he came home.

To top it all off we fouund out i was preg on 8/5 he imnediately told me i had to abort it as it isnt the right. time or situation to bring a baby up, this really really hurt me as it is something we have both wanted for over a year, we decided on monday to keep the baby but unfortunately i had a musscarriage on tuesday but my husband has not been here for me at all, i went to the hospital on my own and got home past midnight on tues, then weds he went straight out from work at 5.30pm with them and returned at midnight, as i am writing this he is out with them he went at 4 and has said he will be back by 12, i dont understand why u would have a 3yr old out that late.

Please could somebody help me am i over reacting? Is he just excited about this new son or is it more about spending more time with her????

Have reported it too.

Ignore. Obviously someone with nothing better to do.

Night.

Anyway, it's 'you're' Bella, not your. Get it right.

Yeah probably. Thank you. Night x

mummy - stay strong hunny. Good luck with everything! and ignore the nasty poster! x

I reported it as well. Was just having a read through the day's developments.

Love and strength xx

Shut up.

Hope your getting some sleep op. Please let us no how you r on the morning.

Bella get a life lol you sound 12

bella I thought you were going?

Wow ut scary. Come on a cone doesn't even make sence u idiot. If u mean cum on a cone then thats not even funny. Altho mow I think ut a 12 year old boy not girl

Hope you managed to get some rest. Have you heard from him this morning.
I've been following this thread and really feel for you.
His behaviour is terrible and staying out until gone midnight is unjustified and stupid.
Fwiw, it may be that he's not cheating on you. He might be talking about his DS's first years with her and losing track of time. But, that said, he needs to wake up and realise that "getting lost in conversation" (if that's what's happening) can no longer be excused. Set visits must be organised.
For your sake (and the twins) I hope that's all it's been and you can work through this.

Failing that, if I'm wrong, then at least you know what a prat he is and you can start taking action.

We are all behind you, supporting you. You are a very brave lady. Take care of yourself and your gorgeous twins xx

Morning. He came home this morning after spending the night on his mates sofa (which i checked) to find his clothes in the back garden, this seemed to really affect him he tried to be apologetic etc but i did and have not backed down, i have told him how horredously he has treated myself and his children and a few other home truths.

To cut a long story he has been told that she is allowing him to have his son today on his own so from today that is how it will be everytime. I have said we all go to soft play nxt sat so we can see the boys ate fine together and i get to meet her n vice versa, and that as adults we will sort set days and times when we will have his son, i have said if he is not prepared to do this he needs to collect his stuff later and leave for good.

Am i stupid for kind of giving him another chance??

I thought he HAD to have the son today from 9am as she was running a charity race?

You are not stupid, no. But I would be very surprised if it pans out the way it is meant to. Only time will tell.

Good luck.

Yeah he has she picked him up at 8.45 she is driving to manchester to do the race and then he is looking after there son until she is done.

How did he manage all that if you have the car key?

I'm sorry I think I'm a little confused.

Ill be surprised also just hope he realises now and then we can all get on with our lives without the drama

BTW fwiw you have backed down.

You've taken him back and given him a chance.

Which you were so sure you weren't going to do last night.

She took him to his mates last night he txt me at 6am saying hes walking home its approx 3 miles from ours, he also rang me when he was walking so i know he was walking. I hid the car key there was no way he was getting that

I don't think you are being stupid at all. You are doing what's right for you and your family.
I'm glad he's aware of how close he came to not having you & the twins. Hopefully a massive wake up call.
You are a fantastic wife & mummy. You have shown more dignity than I could.

Keep us updated with how today goes xx

And I'm worried about your twins.

Where were they when you and him were having such a difficult conversation about whether or not he could come back?

Because at 2.5 they are capable of understanding a lot more than you would think.