is he up to no good?

[mummytogorguztwinsxx]

Hi im new on here and really need some advice. Ive been with my husband for 3.5yrs and married for 1 was our anniversary may 11th. We have gorguz twin boys that are 2.5yrs. Up until the 28th april everything was great with our family, we were even trying for another baby.

The 28th april changed my life forever. My husbands ex partner from 5years ago showed up with his son!! Which he never knew about, his son is 4 in august. Which obviously shows this did not happen whilst we have been together but she did choose to keep his son from him n basically played god with his life.

Anyway since he has found out about him 3 weeks ago he has been spending hours and hours with them n no time at all with his twins, he's been coming home at midnight and even 2am once, they are also constantly txting eaxh other, i understand that he wants to be a dad and do the right thing and i support that, but its the secretive texts n the coming home late, also when he is out with them he wont answer the phone or my txts. They went to bkackpool last sat and he txt me a 9pm to say they were staying over and no matter how much i pleaded with him not to he still did it. The folliwing day he came home and after an hour or so he had a bath, when i asked for his washing there was no boxers, he says he left them at the hotel because they were full of sand from the beach which could be believable, but he h ad them in when he came home.

To top it all off we fouund out i was preg on 8/5 he imnediately told me i had to abort it as it isnt the right. time or situation to bring a baby up, this really really hurt me as it is something we have both wanted for over a year, we decided on monday to keep the baby but unfortunately i had a musscarriage on tuesday but my husband has not been here for me at all, i went to the hospital on my own and got home past midnight on tues, then weds he went straight out from work at 5.30pm with them and returned at midnight, as i am writing this he is out with them he went at 4 and has said he will be back by 12, i dont understand why u would have a 3yr old out that late.

Please could somebody help me am i over reacting? Is he just excited about this new son or is it more about spending more time with her????

Anyway he has txt saying he doesnt want to talk to me now because he's had enough!!!! He's had enough what a cheek

Wish he thought like that i really do but obv me and the boys arent that important to him

It's his loss.

Can you go sleep? The boys will be up tomorrow and you need rest,

Don't txt him back op let him realize how badly he's fucked up. Try get some sleep

I'm off to bed now but wanted to wish you strength and courage. You'll find someone who deserves you and you'll look back at your time with him and shudder :) Take care of yourself and the twins xx

Fuck him OP. Is his stuff still on the front?

No chance of sleep havnt slept proper since m/c on tuesday my mun is coming in the morning so she will help me out

Yeah his stuff is and itll be staying there

Oohhyees thank u so much night take care x

You now need to distract yourself or else you'll just end up winding yourself up. Don't text him. Go have a hot bath, read a book, bake a cake if you can't sleep, anything, just don't think of him. Then try get some rest. Glad your mum is coming over. Lean on her a little. You're her baby girl. You're going through a lot and you're doing really well.

I'm off to bed, though I'd like to show my support.

I would either A) fight or give in to the urge of burning it or B) bring it in. Last thing you need is neighbours seeing it and starting to curtain twitch. If your mother is coming, that is even better. As and when he comes, send her out to greet him with his stuff.

Or is there a side passage where you can leave it for him?

Leave it put, hopefully a fox comes and pisses on it.

Let them curtai twitch you have don't nothing wrong!

Ive put it infront of the car now so it cant be seen, im not bringing it in no way like i said hope it rains

Ha ha hopefully

i agree with you op, sod the neighbours. doesnt sound like he cares about anything except what he wants to do anyway. Your his wife, he should've put your feelings first especially with mc.

Definitely but he only cares about himself but im sure in the end ill come out on top i hope so anyway

You will do. At the very least you're letting him know that his behaviour is not something your going to put up with.

You will do.

And yes, good point. I think I just worry too much about others at times lol.

I know what u mean i constantly worry about others and put myself last, maybe its time to change that

You're right. It is time to stop.

For me, I just hate anyone knowing anything about my business unless I want them to.

Anyhoo, loads of luck. I really need to go get some sleep. But I will be back on tomorrow to offer anymore support you may need. Try to get some sleep yourself as no doubt tomorrow will turn out to be a long, emotionally drained day for you. Try tiring yourself out in some way.

Remember, we are here for you.

My little man has woke up goin to put him in bef with me now. Just wanted to say thank you to you all for your support and advice. Ill let you know what happens tomoz night all xx

You what?

Thank you