I hate DPs present - what do I do?

[TrickyLittleVicky]

DP bought me an awful bracelet at christmas. It's a charm bracelet he bought off ebay for about £4. The price doesn't bother me obviously but it LOOKS cheap and tacky. The material is like a coloured metal. It's not shiny or anything.

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Same thing as in the link.

It looks like its been dug out of the mud by a child.

I know I sound an ungrateful cow but I'm just saying here what I can't say to him. It's bloody horrible. The charms are really childish and tacky too like high heel shoes and teddy bears. I'm a converse and guitar type of girl!! Even if you didn't know me, you'd recognise immediately that I wasn't into girly shoes and teddy bears so surely he should know that??

Anyway, I can hide it away and never look at it easy enough but whenever we go out, he insists I wear it. It's embarrassing. I feel really self conscious wearing it but how on earth can I tell him that when he thinks I love it? He thinks he did a really good thing buying me it. I recently bought myself this whilst again, not expensive, just looks "pretty" on an evening. However, we're due to go out this weekend and it's a big deal and he's insisting I wear the metal monstrosity he bought me rather than the one I bought myself.

What do I do here without upsetting him? or should I just bloody wear the thing?

I wouldnt wear it if I hated it. Why does he think you love it?

Where's the thread when you posted about this ages ago? You had masses of great advice

I remembered he was pretending it cost loads. And that he was a twat.

You could lose it?
Or just be honest (gently) and say it's really lovely, but not your style. Tough one... I've been told I'm hard to buy for, but I just think everyone else has rubbish taste!

Is there no way you can loose the bracelet he bought you? Whilst out shopping perhaps? Or if you have a toddler they could flush it down the loo (DD actuall ydid this with a watch I loved)

Wear it. Then 'lose' it while you are out

Just tell him it turns your hand green and say it's not wearable.

Because I didn't have the balls to tell him initially that I didn't Hive.

Can't he take a hint?!

Jewellery is such a personal thing. It doesn't matter how much it costs, it says something about you and if the one he got you is saying the wrong thing about you, I don't see how you could wear it.

Would any of you wear it? I'm not being fussy am I?

FGS just tell him (nicely) that you won't be wearing it because it's not the sort of thing you like. And he can choose to be huffy and upset, or he can stop and think "fair enough - I misjudged that".

I think you've left it too long to say you didn't like it. If you'd said straight away maybe it'd be fine but as you've left it and he thinks he did well might it come across almost as if you've lied to him?

He saw it, he thought of you, he tried. I'd wear it personally. (I'm not keen on it I mean if it were me in your shoes). YANBU but maybe it's not about unreasonable but about feelings and consideration?

can't you just say it's not really your taste?

for four quid he can't be that put out can he?

Then lose it. I think that's the best advice you're going to get.

Unless he's likely to replace it, in which case you might just have to tell him the truth!

Haven't you posted before about this? Why does he 'insist' you wear it? Don't you get to choose what you wear? Tell him, no thanks, I'll wear what I want. If he pushes it then you really need to say actually I don't really like it that much, it's not really me. He may sulk, but maybe next time he'll get you something you actually like.

Did you at some point say that you like it?

you need to put him straight otherwise he's likely to either buy you charms for it or similar things in the future. LaurieFC's post suggest that there is a back history which I'm not aware of - otherwise I would suggest gently telling him that sorry, it's not to your taste.

I prefer the one you got yourself. The other one is okay but a bit 'chavvy'

Tbh I don't have this problem as dp has very similar taste to me.

Could you at least 'lose' some of the more offensive charms and make it more plain?

Tell him you don't like it - he knows it's cheap crap anyway!!! Or as pancake says develop an allergy.

What's all this bout him insisting you wear it??? Does he usually try and control what you wear?

can u say that u are allergic to the metal and that it makes u itch. either that or be honest and tell him its not to your taste.

Break it. But don't be so upset that he buys you another one.

Tell him it gives you a rash or grin and bare it

Run over it in the car. Tell him you didn't realise - it must have fallen off as you were getting in.

and why is he getting upset about something that cost £4??? Seriously, he needs to own that one himself. Leave him to be distraught about it - really

Snap it.