I hate DPs present - what do I do?

[TrickyLittleVicky]

DP bought me an awful bracelet at christmas. It's a charm bracelet he bought off ebay for about £4. The price doesn't bother me obviously but it LOOKS cheap and tacky. The material is like a coloured metal. It's not shiny or anything.

bracelet

Same thing as in the link.

It looks like its been dug out of the mud by a child.

I know I sound an ungrateful cow but I'm just saying here what I can't say to him. It's bloody horrible. The charms are really childish and tacky too like high heel shoes and teddy bears. I'm a converse and guitar type of girl!! Even if you didn't know me, you'd recognise immediately that I wasn't into girly shoes and teddy bears so surely he should know that??

Anyway, I can hide it away and never look at it easy enough but whenever we go out, he insists I wear it. It's embarrassing. I feel really self conscious wearing it but how on earth can I tell him that when he thinks I love it? He thinks he did a really good thing buying me it. I recently bought myself this whilst again, not expensive, just looks "pretty" on an evening. However, we're due to go out this weekend and it's a big deal and he's insisting I wear the metal monstrosity he bought me rather than the one I bought myself.

What do I do here without upsetting him? or should I just bloody wear the thing?

No its the kind of material as in the first link and the same seller but this has a million and one tasteless charms on it from guinea pigs, teddy bears, shoes, elephants - it weighs a ton when it's on and looks ridiculous.

I think you may be losing a leeeetle bit of proportion to imagine that the rest of the world will be looking at your braceletted wrist and then fainting dead away by the sheer horror of it. But I would be very bothered if I had a dp who started insisting what had to be worn yet giving me no choice in the choosing of it.

For sure, it'd give me a rash, regardless of how tasteless because I genuinely can't wear anything that's not silver or gold so can you not play the allergy game?

Otherwise, you've got the choice of being honest - which would have been easier if such a long time hadn't elapsed since getting the bracelet - or wearing the bloody thing and losing it.

I might just tell him I was mugged by a 5 year old.

I don't know why he's so obsessed with it. Personally I wouldn't have been able to give it to anyone as a present, nevermind sitting there obsessing about it afterwards as if I'd just bought them a goldmine.

Don't know what goes through his head sometimes.

It stinks like money too (like copper)

I would break it, OP, preferably over a drain where the beads would disappear nevertobeseenagain.

Just don't wear it - when he asks just say you didn't feel like wearing it. If he makes a fuss then you need to address why he is making such a fuss.

Don't know what goes through his head sometimes.

To be fair OP, I don't know what's going through yours. You keep saying you're a 31 year-old woman, yet your husband 'insists' you wear something and you can't turn around and say 'No'.

Why not?

Feel guilty :(

I'm not getting what's going though your head either OP?

you feel guilty over a £4 piece of cheap tat?
really?

There's no reason to feel guilty over a present that you genuinely don't like. However, you do seem to have got yourself in unnecessarily deep by lying about liking it in the first place. That was your big mistake, imho.

do you think P feels guilty for forcing you to wear stuff?

Kids don't count,we were all sorts of tat that our kids make us. Husbands on the other hand should be adult enough not to sulk when you don't like something.

Why on earth do you feel guilty for not liking something?

Did he tell you it was expensive then???

Is this the DP who insists on buying you much cheap, nasty versions of things you've specifically said you want to save up for?

I quite like it

Was the other thread a cheap watch? Or are there lots of Mumsnetters with dhs who insist they wear stuff?

Say a friend's baby grabbed it, bit it, and broke it. You were heartbroken but bought yourself the 15 quid bracelet to replace it as it looked so similar. Then he has no need to replace it as you already have, and the monstrosity is gone with no one to blame, because who can blame a baby?

This all falls down if you don't know any babies/toddlers of course!

Yes do what sofa suggested and then ask yourself why you have to lie to your husband.

Dear Lord!!