I hate DPs present - what do I do?

[TrickyLittleVicky]

DP bought me an awful bracelet at christmas. It's a charm bracelet he bought off ebay for about £4. The price doesn't bother me obviously but it LOOKS cheap and tacky. The material is like a coloured metal. It's not shiny or anything.

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Same thing as in the link.

It looks like its been dug out of the mud by a child.

I know I sound an ungrateful cow but I'm just saying here what I can't say to him. It's bloody horrible. The charms are really childish and tacky too like high heel shoes and teddy bears. I'm a converse and guitar type of girl!! Even if you didn't know me, you'd recognise immediately that I wasn't into girly shoes and teddy bears so surely he should know that??

Anyway, I can hide it away and never look at it easy enough but whenever we go out, he insists I wear it. It's embarrassing. I feel really self conscious wearing it but how on earth can I tell him that when he thinks I love it? He thinks he did a really good thing buying me it. I recently bought myself this whilst again, not expensive, just looks "pretty" on an evening. However, we're due to go out this weekend and it's a big deal and he's insisting I wear the metal monstrosity he bought me rather than the one I bought myself.

What do I do here without upsetting him? or should I just bloody wear the thing?

I repeat - four quid! I've bought more expensive drinks out. Was tht all he got you????

Are you 100% that it isnt some sort of wind up? Is he the sort of person that might buy a really rubbish present and take great pleasure in waiting to see how long it takes for you to say you hate it? A woman I worked with had a DH is like this and he found (note found) it hilarious. Problem is, even his non-joke presents were crap, so he got a real shock when his wife said that his Xmas present was shite , oh har har what a laugh, where is my proper present? and that was her proper present :o

If not then you need to bite the bullet, say that you really appreciate the gift but that it isnt your thing.

I'm starting to wonder if this isn't some reverse stealth publicity for the OP who may be the Ebay seller in the link?

Cynical? Me? Worra fucking liberty!

oooh good call worra.

This isnt the first time the OP (or someone) has posted about a hated bracelet that he insists she wears, and she didnt take the same advice last time.....

I can see no other reason for posting such a benign thread twice

I actually have a Pandora bracelet and have worn it twice in over a year. I am surprised to hear it is "worth" something. Not my thing anyway. But at least I am not forced to wear it.

Saying that though, the only jewellery I do wear all the time is my engagement ring. I never wear anything else. Not even a watch. Even if I love it. But thankfully, people have noticed this and have started buying me things I do use. You need to make it known. No point in moaning about it when you can fix it, but refuse not to.

WorraLiberty bet you're right, though somehow I doubt sales will have rocketed since this thread :o

Trestle exactly! They havent been to marketing school if they are expecting to post "its horrible" and then expect sales to go through the roof!

OP, You're right, it is foul, I wouldnt wear it for a pile of cash!

Ahh but I think we're supposed to click on the other shitty items for sale in the seller's shop!

Personally I'd rather set alight to my own head and out the fire with a fork than buy anything from that ebay shop.

Guess you should have said so from the start but it's clearly too late... Another tack - wear several bracelets including the one you do not like. It will not be so obvious. You will satisfy DP (although, like HipHop I cannot understand why he is so bothered about something that cost £4) and maybe you will feel less :-( about wearing it. Then plot how it can be badly damaged or lost.

Is your DP a control freak?

Oh dear, it is rather nasty isnt it?!

I'm with Molesworthiscool: armful of cheap (but otherwise nice) bracelets, & lose the monstrosity amongst them.

& then, when he chunters, act terribly surprised that he's making a fuss about what is quite obviously a 'fun' piece of jewellery.

Then bin it a few days later, & if/when he asks, be very very vague 'oh...that. No, actually I haven't seen it for a while...hmm...might be in my drawer at work, I did chuck a few bracelets in there the other day because the jangling was getting on my nerves...I can't wear that one for long anyway, it turns my arm green.' etc etc.

Tell him you've changed your mind and you've gone off it now.

He does sound a bit controlling. Is he always like this?

They havent been to marketing school if they are expecting to post "its horrible" and then expect sales to go through the roof!

Oh I dunno...Gerald Ratner tried it.

The other one looks lika a Panodra rip off. The one you got in Next, I like as is feminine and pretty.
I'm with the lose it brigade. Look upset, then 'oh well, at least it wasn't expensive!' Type comment. I'm sure he'll get over it. At least you have the other one now

:o true!

I've heard it said that the key to a successful relationship is honest communication.

OP, I think you actually have a bigger problem than a naff bracelet.

If you are unable to communicate with your partner to this extent, you need to sort it out. I say this as someone who has been slogging away at communication in my own relationship for 15+ years. It's not easy, but it has to be done.

Otherwise we're all going to be here at Christmas when he gets you the matching necklace and earrings...

Just say it is uncomfy so you'll wear the other one. I used to grin and bear it when hubby bought kelley that wasn't my taste, but after a while it seemed stupid, pretending to like all the modern style things he chooses when I prefer traditional styles and so I point out things I like. He still gets it wrong so this year I just asked for slippers and pjs... At least I don't have to wear those in public.