for being pissed off for being told shush by a friend with a sleeping baby...

[fran28]

was outside a supermarket today with a friend and her child when another friend came up with her 5 month old boy...i said hello and started talking and she told me to shush cos her baby was asleep? we were outside a supermarket? is this not a bit precious?

oh and i have my own toddler and know how tired it can make you but still...i would hardly expect to be able to shush people out in the supermarket!

Do babies not just sleep when they feel like it?

Yes Public and everyone knows that newborns sleep 20 hours out of 24 so no need for sleep deprivation. It says so in the birth to 5 book.

Oh bugger off you two

YANBU. She approached you in a public place. How on earth did she expect you to communicate with her? Gesture and mime?

Yes, she is probably half-dead with exhaustion, and it may have been a reflexive "shush." I have sympathy for her situation. However, if anyone should proffer an apology, it should be her. She was rude, not you.

I'll bet it's her first baby. People like this are so annoying. Entitled parents - zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

That was a bit rude of your friend, I agree OP. I actually think it's rude for any adult to shush another adult!

I recently went on a long train journey with my mum, and almost every time I spoke she put her fingers to her lips and went "Shhhhhh". Ok there were other people on the train but they were ALL chatting, either to the person with them or on their phones. In contrast I could hardly hear my mum at all, she drops her voice to barely a whisper when out in public, equally annoying!

I don't think I'm that loud anyway, as I help out twice a week in a junior youth group and I'm often being told I need to shout louder to get the kids to hear me and take notice. So I can't see why my mum has a problem really!

Yeah, first time parents are sooo boring... :o

I bet OP has a gob like a foghorn

i have just asked? no...i dont have a gob like a foghorn...haha..he could be lying though..no ur right i dont like her very much but i have some very good reasons...but we do talk etc..personally when i needed my daughter to sleep cos i was wrecked..i would bring her for a short walk around my estate so i could catch up get some sleep when she had gone to sleep in the buggy....most of the time though..turning the hoover on worked though...maybe i was lucky

YY to barking dogs, noisy motorbikes, fecking announcers in Asda. When I was out with the pram, I expected standard background noise, but anything above that was SIMPLY UNACCEPTABLE.

A thoughtful friend delivered homemade soup to me not long after DC2 was born. He was asleep in the lounge while I was upstairs drying my hair. She let herself in and shouted up the stairs. Her reward for her kindness was me running to the top of the stairs and responding in an aggressive stage whisper "be quiet, DS is asleep!".

I did text her a grovelling apology, even though I secretly believed I was in the right. Luckily she was gracious enough to accept the apology with no hard feelings...

Do babies not just sleep when they feel like it?

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You haven't met my two DCs

Can you all keep it down just a little bit, please?

Can't hear myself think here.

Just to be clear iggly I was joking!

YABU ... you don't know what kind of day she'd had.

I feel like murdering anyone who, even inadvertently, wakes my sleeping baby. Particularly didn't appreciate the low flying jet over my house yesterday. Or how about those automated telephone calls to tell me to make a PPI claim, conveniently always during nap times. Or anyone texting me after 10pm. Or even when my MIL dropped a fork in the kitchen just as DD was dropping off. Gah!

well she came up smiling and waving?

I have discovered due to this thread, that I am entitled to lots of indignation over being shushed! Can I claim it retroactively?

Poor me had just assumed I was a bit loud and they were being reasonable! [Grin]