for being pissed off for being told shush by a friend with a sleeping baby...

[fran28]

was outside a supermarket today with a friend and her child when another friend came up with her 5 month old boy...i said hello and started talking and she told me to shush cos her baby was asleep? we were outside a supermarket? is this not a bit precious?

oh and i have my own toddler and know how tired it can make you but still...i would hardly expect to be able to shush people out in the supermarket!

YABU. I shushed all sorts of things when mine were little. No doubt I'll be shushing things next month when DC3 comes.

XH had to stop me going to shout at the bin men once after DS2 had finally got to sleep at 6am after being awake since 1am. I could have killed them.

You don't sound much like a friend.

Oh fgs
Maybe she had just got him to sleep
Maybe it's loud voices that are likely to wake him up

You are being mean

YABU - have some sympathy.

She was over reacting but agree sleep deprivation is a nightmare.
Yesterday I spent all afternoon trying to get ds2 to sleep, so I could have some time to myself while the older two were at nursery. I only managed it ten minutes before pick up time, and when we got to nursery a mum came in and slammed the door, making my D's start awake. Then she said 'Ha ha - made your baby jump!'

I could forgive her for accidentally waking him, but making such a horrible remark really upset me, because I have had unsleeping babies for five years and can take no more. I am not normally so precious about my DC but I just really needed a break!

You and your friend have a regular weekly meet-up outside a supermarket? Have you heard of these new-fangled things called coffee-shops?

Kungfu

YABU. She is tired tired tired...give her a break.

YABU - It took me an hour of walking to get my dd to sleep. I used to hate seeing someone I knew in case they started talking and waking her up. If she was just dropping off, my talking woke her up. I think unless you have a baby that doesn't sleep well, you have no idea how hard it is and the relief when they finally drop off to sleep.

It could have just been a difficult day and she's just got teething crying whiny baby to sleep at long last. This is the only time I've shushed - just to raise awareness there is a delicate ongoing situation.

Some people shout when they talk or talk much louder than they are aware of (me included) and she may have been shushing to get you to simply lower your voice a little.

Knee-jerk, not thinking reaction because she's in her own little world, fine. Deliberate reaction, bloody rude and PFB and she would have been told of it.

YANBU but my DD1 was a nightmare and would wake up at a sniff...all that talk of "Oh you've just got to carry on as normal and they'll sleep through th hoover" was nonsense....my DD was always getting woken up!

Her first child I take it :)

Yabu. DS can sleep through general background noise but not when someone is standing talking loudly to me.

UABU
Never, ever wake a sleeping baby!!!!

YABU YHTMOAG!*

*You have the memory of a goldfish!

Look, stop feeling "like a fool" because I bet she's forgotten by now. You should just have said, "gosh, I'm sorry. Has it been a bad day?" sympathetically at the time, though, instead of silently seething about it and resenting her for making you feel guilty.

Well you can hold on to being pissed off, or you can accept she may be having a tough time and have a bit of compassion.

I see on your profile you say you're finding things difficult lately. I am sure it wasn't personal, she probably would've done it to Antone.

Anyone!!!

(up to and including Antone obviously! )

YABU. After 2 DCs who did the sleep through anything thing, I have DD2 who can hear a gnat fart at 40 paces. Shushing becomes an uncontrollable instinct, I can tell you, and nothing to do with pfb. We have had bin lorries coming late in the evening recently (10.30pm!!). Shush was not the sound I emitted when they woke her.

Friendship is all about empathy.
And not getting riled over tiny little things that are really of no importance.
And perhaps understanding that sometimes people act differently than we would, and that's nobody is perfect.
Because it's better to be supportive and let things go than moan and bitch about friends to other people behind their back.

Oh, anyone. I was wondering if Antone was a celebrity, or a mythological figure. I was this^ close to putting "googling Antone" on my to-do list!

I would have just said 'Oh ok, see you another time then' and walked off

Lol are you quite gobby? My oldest dc ( who was an awful sleeper) had the loudest voice in the world and he is regularly shushed as he wakes mindees. He gets huffy too

Poor Antoine He is always so quiet.