Would you be offended by a father accompanying his small daughters into the ladies toilet?

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I have two dds aged 4 and 2. My dh often takes them out and about in town on his own and inevitably needs to take them into public toilets. The thing is that male public toilets are often extremely dirty and unsanitary and I'd much rather he took them into the ladies. My question is would you be offended by a man coming into the ladies toilet when he is obviously accompanying a small girl? I don't personally know anyone who would have a problem with this but would be interesting to see if lots of people disagree with me.

What is the person in the toilet has a nice ham and a bag of pom bears?

Ohhhhh insancerre there is not enough mind bleach in the world to remove that image from my mind....not ever

is this person the psycho or the 'beater upper'?

oh jeez incinsere..i will never look at another butty in the same way what a dirty bastard

You can't go beating people up for using the wrong toilet, I mean how far do you go? just a slap of do you have to kick the crap out of them?

thing is if you imagine the scene....
teen girl goes in to ladies whilst out with her family.
is un nerved by a man coming in, goes out and tells her dad/brother/boyfriend or who ever, it could kick off.

You can't go beating people up for using the wrong toilet, I mean how far do you go? just a slap of do you have to kick the crap out of them?

And what's the etiquette?

Are you supposed to wipe their arse after you've kicked the crap out of it?

A taser could be the answer.

surely the teen would notice the man who a small dd with him? and if not a simple what were you doing in the ladies toilets? him 'just taking my dd to the toilet' of course that woudl assume the relatives on the teen were reasonable human beings and not nutters out for a fight

Remember EX BIL going in to the gents and sitting for a poop seeing a shadow and looking up to see some bloke watching him over the top of the cubical.

Perverts tend to stick to their own toilets

Personally, thinking back to when I was a teenager, even if I had seen the small girl with the man, I would still have been mortified at a man seeing me in the ladies. With the life-experience I have now, I can see how illogical this is, but I'm not sure that, as a teenager, logic would have overridden the mortification/upset. Though I doubt I would have come out and complained to my parents (they didn't have much of a history of actually dealing with things that upset me).

Saw this in Disney the other day - can't see the issue - it was fine - man walks in hand in ashamed with dd - enters cubicle - dd wees (I assume) man and dd wash hands - they leave.

What's the problem exactly?

hand in ashamedhand with dd

It would bother me to see a man in a female public toilet, it's just not right regardless of the situation... From about the age of 4 my dad would wait right outside the door tell me to go in, pee, wash hands and come straight back out.

Dd2 is nearly 4 and she wouldn't be able to reach the sink in a lot of toilets.

Many Disabled loos have a radar keys which means only a disabled person can use them.
and if if they haven if a child has set wet themselves you will be a long time thus not really on using a loo that is for a disabled person

Better a man come in with smalls girls to the ladies were every ine is in a cubical than take them into the men's were every one has their willys out espically when any one who has ver taken a samll child the loo will no you have to hold the door a jar so both you and them can get in

scubastevie unless these fictional teenage girls are changing their tapax with the doors wide open then yubu

blondie,that's ok in naice loos but I've been in others with dodgy items on the floor.

I always check a cubicle before the kids go in.

Mosman Mon 07-May-12 13:31:46
I don't use the disabled loo when I'm on my own.
I did quite clearly state that I or DH had the DC's with us.
When I'm on my own I just piss on the floor and walk off or better still park an disabled person over the wee so it looks like they've done. Obviously.

I assume that was meant as a joke, but what a vile one. shows what idiots there are around

I have never seen a man in the ladies toilets with his young daughter(s) so presumably men either take them into disabled/parenting rooms or they use the men's.

blondiedollface really my oh took my neice to the loo last week in matlan she is 5 she manged to lock her self in she was mucking about while He was waiting out side so embarrassed to take her in because of silly views like on here

He should have taken her in

Not all children are at the same place development wise not all children can just be left to their own devices in busy block of loos

Just spoke to DD (15) and she said she would hate it. Haven't had time to read the whole thread, but agree with poster who said you often see people changing clothes, putting on make-up, etc in the areas outside the cubicles in our local shopping centre.

It wouldn't particularly bother me so much, but I think, on balance, no, men should not go into ladies' toilets with their DDs. I don't mind at all if, as in M&S, there are just separate cubicles.

Growing up there was no lock on the family bathroom door when I was aged 13-18 and my stepdad would often walk in. The thought of a male in the ladies, even with separate cubicles, even if they are a father makes my stomach turn over.

A lot of shops in our area have the disabled toilet also functioning as a baby change - and Ive seen this in other areas Ive visited and believe its quite common? Would prefer a man to take his DC there if possible or Debenhams now have a family toilet. But yes, I would feel uncomfortable, there's something unerving about the thought of a man being within earshot of changing sanitary towels etc.

No, not all children can be left unsupervised so the parent should supervise them in the toilet appropriate for the adult's gender.
I didn't get the 'joke' 2shoes

I reckon the long and short of it is that if there's a unisex loo available it should be used.

If the gents are ok and cubicles it should be used.

But if these options aren't there,and in a lot of cases hopefully they will be,then its in the children's best interests at this age if Dad comes in.He may not like it.Some women may not like it. But I can't really see there's much of a sensible alternative.

If for some reason the ladies was out of service,I would feel most uncomfortable at needing to use the gents with young DD's. But I would ( I think) if there was no choice - and with as much sensitivity and discretion as I could.