Would you be offended by a father accompanying his small daughters into the ladies toilet?

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I have two dds aged 4 and 2. My dh often takes them out and about in town on his own and inevitably needs to take them into public toilets. The thing is that male public toilets are often extremely dirty and unsanitary and I'd much rather he took them into the ladies. My question is would you be offended by a man coming into the ladies toilet when he is obviously accompanying a small girl? I don't personally know anyone who would have a problem with this but would be interesting to see if lots of people disagree with me.

It wouldn't make me particularly uncomfortable but he will get lots of tuts and stares, judging by how many I get when I took my 8 yo into the ladies with me.

Erm, sorry to go against the group here but yes I would. I don't think its acceptable when there is a blinkin great sign of a female on the door! To be honest I have less of a problem with men in ladies toilets as realistically there is no chance of any surprise flashing of bits, but after having very nearly exposed myself entirely to a well meaning grandfather who took his gds into the ladies changing room at our school swimming pool, I have less patience with the whole issue. If you're a man, you go in the mens and take baby wipes with you (if you're bothered) I would be just as if a woman went into the mens to change/toilet their dss but strangely enough that never seems to happen!!!

wouldn't bother me at all although i could easily imagine some people getting their knickers in a twist (grin] sorry) about it because some people just like to feel offended.

I wouldn't care but plenty would. But there should be other options for him such as family toilets and baby change with toilet that mean he doesn't have to do this. It really depends how big the town is. For example my nearest town centre is Inverness and there is a baby change with toilet in morrisons and one in the men's toilets in the shopping centre and a family toilet in debenhams. I'm sure there are other places too such as in cafes that I haven't mentioned that are suitable. I don't see why he would use the ladies and am pretty sure he would get in trouble for it too.

people don't change sanitary towels outside the cubicles

If it was an individual toilet, then I wouldn't have a problem with it.

However, if it's one of those ones where there are multiple cubicles then I don't think it's appropriate. Whilst other parents with young children might be ok about it, I know plenty of older people who would be incredibly uncomfortable with it.

people suggesting the disabled toilets in case someone is changing a sanitary towel inside the cubicle are being extremely entitled IMO

Sorry, I really wouldn't like it. I understand why he would want to do this, but would personally hate it

Wouldn't bother me at all, sounds perfectly reasonable

If I had DDs I wouldn't be keen on them going into the dirty smelly mens toilets with their open urinals

Seriously people are reccommending the disabled toilets?

Iambooyhoo - "because some people just like to feel offended"

I think that is such a rude and dismissive thing to say. The OP is genuinely asking if people would mind. Women here are allowed to say yes if thats how they feel

Wouldn't bother me. Men's Loos are sometimes the most vile stinking of places and I would totally understand why a father wouldn't want ti take his children in there.

Apart from the fact that I think it's totally unnecessary, I personally wouldn't be bothered.

But I could well imagine teenage girls/elderly ladies would be.

I've just asked my DH would he do this and got a resounding WTAF??... No!

Yes ti would bother me actually.

And while a salute a man taking his children to the toilet, I think the lead should be taken by fathers of sons tbh.

(still seething after waiting 20 mins at posh restaurant to use the one toilet that was being occupied by a mum's two young sons who each went individually to use it veeeerrry sloooowwwllyyyyyy. While Dad was sat downstairs)

I fail to see the relevence of the teenage girls changing sanitary towels.

no not at all

i find it odd that anyone would. last time i used a public toilet there were doors so i was able to pee in private so no worries about flashing my bits to anyone

yes sirzy, why is it ok for young boys to have to use dirty men's toilets but not for young girls (with their fathers)

I think he should take them into the mens. Otherwise use the disabled or baby cahnge with toilet.
Not the ladies.

Wouldn´t bother me either.

Sometimes here(Germany) if ladies loos are very busy they screen off the urinals in the men´s so that women can walk by & use the mens cubicles.

No they don't change outside the toilets, but perhaps a teenage girl might be embarrassed about the sound of changing a sanitary towel when she can hear a man's voice or bumps into him outside the cubical...some people are painfully shy and easily embarrassed...just saying this is a possibility.

i wouldnt be happy with it

There's nothing wrong with popping into a disabled toilet as long as disabled people are given first priority!

If men taking their DD's into the Ladies toilets became the norm, then surely they'd end up just as disgusting as the Men's sometimes are?

I'd sooner see regular cleaning of the Men's to be honest.

would rather he did that than use a disabled toilet unless they have a disability

He can't take them into the ladies. I personally wouldn't be that bothered but there will be a lot of people who would be. I have a 2 year old and a 4 year old and would never expect DH to take them into a ladies loo.