AIBU to think that parents of twins do not have it harder

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I have 3 DC including 2 less than 2 years apart.

Twice in the last 2 days I have had parents of twins moaning about how hard it is to parent them and the financial cost. ones set are same as dd1 and the other are same as ds1.

Surely I have the same costs albeit not in the same financial year and surely dd2 and ds1 have similar needs at 7 and 5 as twins 2.

YABU you have 3 entitlements to maternity leave/pay if you work they have 1 entitlement for 2 babies. Ditto tax credits etc you get an additional allowance for having a child under 1 you have been entitled to it on 3 separate occasions, they will have had it 1x for 2 children.

Nobody is saying you don't have it tough, but they do to just in different ways. You can't understand there position they cant understand yours. Walk a mile in each other shoes

I have twins .. And my daughter who Is 11 months older than twins!!

So I have both and would defenetly say twins are harder .. Like people have said you need 2 of everything .. Milk x2 nappies etc!! And sleepless nights with twins is very hard .. Trying to get out on your own!! My older baby is brilliant and potters around whilst I'm feeding and feeds her self, holds her own bottle, doesn't need picking up!! All these things make a big diffrence.

Wondering why people are bothering with the sensible and informative replies when the OP is either too pigheaded or dim to be educated by them...

OP, why are you so determined to try and prove that you have it harder than Mothers with twins? Really, what's that about?

It has been said plenty of times but I'll say it again Its not a competition

So you are finding it hard, that's just the way it is. But what difference does it make how hard you have it compared to how hard other people have it? Other peoples experiences bear no relation to yours, it's not going to change your perception of how difficult you are finding having young children.

Or are you hoping to win a gold star for martyrdom?

YABU.
The financial hit is at the same time with twins and you need two of everything rather than using hand me downs.

There less than 18mths between mine and I was able to use just one set of nursery furniture, one high chair, infant carrier car seat etc. My only nod to having two under twos was a double buggy.

I get annoyed when people say 'Oh you/they have it easier because...' Raising children is hard work however your family is made up.

Op - In what way do you think you're life would be easier if yours were twins?

Mine are primary school age and I thought it was getting easier. I'd forgotten about double GCSE's.

YABU to a point I cannot even write my reasons.
Nothing any of us twin mums say will change your mind so whats the point of trying to point out where you are so wrong?
You keep thinking you have it harder if it makes you feel better but as far as I am concerned every parent has it hard as you have a small person with wants and needs that cannot communicate with you no matter how many you have or how close together they are.

Good post Hecate.

OP if this is important to you, then I wonder if you are feeling very down

OP you chose to have 2 together you cant plan a multiple birth and everybody is entitled to a moan are they not , I know somebody who had a 18 month then twins and the poor woman went about in a daze for about a year she was so exhausted didnt know her arse from her elbow , she and her H had the feeds at the same time the nappy changes the expense , I dont think we can judge how hard having children , It isnt a competion ,If somebody is struggiling they are struggiling you get no medals for coping IMO ,

When I was little I wanted to have twins. Then I had my dd and thought I never would've coped with 2!

I had it harder than ALL OF YOU.
I win.

OP are you of the attention twin parents get do you feel ignored im just wondering because you seem really pissed off that you are not being heard about how hard you have it ,

OP are you of the attention twin parents get do you feel ignored im just wondering because you seem really pissed off that you are not being heard about how hard you have it ,

Yabu, I had 3 under 3, there was 15 months between the first 2, 19 months between 2 and 3. I would imagine it would be harder having twins as 2 newborns at the same time, feeding all the time. 2 babies to carry e.g in car seats etc, 2 x the cost of everything(we just got to re-use everything), 2 weaning together, potty training together, etc etc!! Oh god thinking about it makes me exhausted!

If you feel the need to compete with others about how hard your life is, why not stop looking at each others and sort yourself out?

How juvenile and depressing.

I detect Münchausen syndrome.

FFS it's not a flaming competition get over yourself.

OP you are utterly deluded. My dc1 and dc2 were 15 months apart, so I carried them both a lot, got no 'break' during the day etc, etc and yet as 100% of other posters on this thread have said I still think it was easier than having twins. Now I have dc3 I skip along with joy at the simplicity of it despite having school runs etc.

I do think you need to get some support from somewhere if you feel so resentful about raising your children.

I have 10mth twins and a four year old, piece of piss OP, you are right.

Here is your cape, your medal and your

I have twins and I think it is harder in the early days. Financially it definitely is with needing two of everything.

However as they get older it is easier than two of diff ages. Me and DH have a lot of time to ourselves as the DDs have same sleepovers, school trips away etc. they are now 11 and have gone away for the weekend with guides. Mums with other kids have commented on how much free time we get! With diff sex twins though this may be diff

I have 4dcs so used to cost noise etc but I am convinced it would have been harder to managed had I had them in pairs.

OP. Get some help. Homestart, GP, something. This isn't normal.

There really isn't any point is there...

Yes OP - you have it so much harder than anyone else ever has...