to feel so desperately sad because I will never have a daugher?

[fullofregrets]

I know I should be grateful for DS and I am. Really. My longing for a daughter doesn't mean I don't love ny DS. They are two separate things.

My friend has just had a gorgeous little girl and I cannot shake off this desperately desperately sad feeling. I feel like I've lost something which is stupid because I never had it. I suppose what I'm having to say goodbye to is the dream of having a little girl which I've always had.

And I know it can't be anything as feeling as sad as people who can't have any children. I do know that logically, but my heart still hurts.

Grown up before you know it, yes, 3 years old already. Zombie thread.

Why resurrect a 3 yr old thread- especially to spout nonsense about a 'woman without a daughter being a cruelest fate' - from someone lucky enough to have 4 children!
That is way down the list of cruelty!
I don't have a daughter but I now have a wonderful DIL and the possibility of granddaughters in the future. But any grandchild is a gift- as is any child.

Sorry - don't know where my 4 came from but there seems to be more than one.

Interesting first goady post mumofsons

Complete shite mumofsons.

Cruellest fate my arse

I know it is an old thread but I commented because it irritated me so much!
A woman is blessed with children and thinks it is cruel that she got the wrong sort! ( when it was 50/50 in the first place )
Not only that- but the ' cruellest fate' when millions of women all over the world have the most dreadful lives.
Had you had a DD they would most likely be the wrong sort- i.e. not growing up to be 'mother's best friend'.
I think that you need a new definition of cruelty. Having children that were not the ones you would have ordered is not cruelty.

No, you're not being unreasonable...I love my boys to distraction, but there'll always be a place in my life for the daughter I didn't have. You can't help your feelings.

I feel for mumofsons's poor boys. Now that is a cruel fate - never being quite what your MOTHER wanted.

I hope that they don't know they were not wanted or 'second best'.

value your sons and show them how to value others.
Reject them for not being girls and surely you are setting them up for a life of failure from birth

I understand this.

I have a ds who is 4. He's wonderful. Smart, chatty and kind. He's everything I ever wanted in a child.

My dp has 3 dc. 2 ds and 1 dd who is 7. She's amazing too (as are the boys) but I admit I get a special buzz from being around his dd, I love colouring with her, looking at her flower fairies books, playing with her hair. I do occasionally get sad I will never have this with a dd. (with 4 dc between us we decided no more and dp had a vasectomy last year)

I just tell myself that we can't have it all, and we are lucky to have happy, healthy dc.

Yeah I know it's a zombie thread but bloody hell, mumofsons, you need some therapy or something