AIBU advice needed about HORRIBLE teacher?

[MrsShitty]

on behalf of my sister who is very upset. Her son is a very good year three child...very well behaved and has been excelling at school, on the g&t register and loves school...his reports are always that he is a good and kind boy, often voted as class rep etc.

This term his class have been taught by 2 teachers both of whom teach year 4...they were sort of tasters for nexyt year to get the DC used to their new teachers.

Yesterday my nephew came home and was very upset. He said that Miss T had screamed in his face...my nephew is almost deaf in one ear due to problems from birth and has had both eardrums burst in the past and this woman screamed so loud his ear was hurt...he cried in pain.

She screamed because my nephew had been going for a pencil and had tripped over another childs leg....she accused my nephew of kicking the other boy and would not listen when my nephew AND the other boy tried to explain he had tripped. INstead she yelled repeatedly as loud as she could in his face that she would not be talked back to and then she told him to sit on the carpet and removed his golden time...she threw his book at him.

My hephew says she has also shouted at him for other minor things such as dropping his book once. She also banged the chair of a little girl up and down with the child still sitting in it....whilst shouting "Go to the toilet then!" and the little girl was crying.

My sister says her normally happy boy has been in tears and could not sleep for three nights until all this came out last night. He is afraid of this woman and his poor ear is still hurting.

My sister has made an appointment to see the HT tonight she does not want to speak to the teacher....she feels she has nothing to say to the woman. I must add that her son is very sensible and very truthful he would not lie....the teacher is new and this is her first job.

What measures should my sister ask to take place? What should the outcome be? And who should she write to in the event that she is still not happy after the meeting? The LEA or board of governers? Thank you. I am very upset about my nephew who has had multiple operations on his ears and only has 30% hearing in the one this woman hurt.

I don't think that it's a matter of disbelieving either the child or the teacher. It's a case of listening to both, and finding out what actually happened, and moving on from there. Nothing wrong with a parent believing what their child said, but it's important to qualify that a bit "i I completely believe that's how it felt to you" or words like that. Acknowledge that the emotions were real and understandable, even if th is some uncertwintly about the actual events.

But the trouble is that the op has said some things which are a hit questionable too. Leaving aside the eardrums being perforated by wind blowing on them.

She said that HT asked her sister to write a letter to be passed on to the governors. This is not how the procedure for investigating a teacher goes. The HT should also not have told the OP' s sister about any other parental complaints at this stage. If she did she was very wrong- and this could cause problems if there is a tribunal at some time in the future.

That was spot on Seeker. It really shouldn't be a case of taking either party's side here, until both parties plus any witnesses have been spoken to. Which is exactly what most of us have been saying from the beginning.

Any chance of an update, OP?

You could infer from the OP's report of the meeting with the HT that this is not a particularly well-managed school equally as much as you could question the veracity of the OP's account.

Sometimes 'when the cat's away the mice will play' is an adage that can be applied to the behaviour of staff in schools where there is a bit of a vacuum in place of professionalism and leadership in the HT role.

Whatever. But writing to the governors is not the way forward, and the op's sister needs to know that.