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To be annoyed DH wants to go on a Stag do to Thailand

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FedupwithDisney · 24/04/2012 20:45

My DH has just announced that one of his best mates (was DH's Best Man) is having his Stag do in Thailand for a week later this year and he will be going.

I am pretty annoyed. Every time I ask him to book time off work to do something as a family I get "it's not a good time at work" "I'm too busy" etc. We do have some family holiday time booked, but it's been a battle to get him to do it. He hasn't even taken all his Paternity leave that he is entitled to as work is "so busy" (DD2 is 12 weeks old). He does have a good job and I understand the pressures but how come he can suddenly take off a week for this?

If he goes I will be at home with a 3yo and a 8 mo. Guess I'll cope, I don't see him much in the week as it is, but I'm annoyed that he'll be away having a ball and I'll be dealing with the kids on my own for a week.

I'm also annoyed about the money. Surely it will cost loads. We're comfortable, but certainly not rolling in it. He gets a bonus in August which he's probably planning on using but I can think of much better things we could spend this money on like trips for the DC's and stuff for the house.

AIBU to be annoyed? He knows I'm pissed off and is sucking up to me big time, making the dinner and tidying up!

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AThingInYourLife · 27/04/2012 13:03

It might not only be you who thinks bitching about your wife to people you know and who are likely to meet her is the same as asking a question on anonymous forum, but that doesn't make it any less dumb.

HipHopOpotomus · 27/04/2012 13:29

Since when were relationships a sealed tin? At least when he did discuss it "outside of home" he was quickly brought to realise that he was being a cock. Peer pressure can be a powerful force, for good and evil :)

People often need to discuss things though with others to get a clear picture, whether with colleagues (might be the only people he has to discuss with, or perhaps it was about timing) or on MN. Either way it helped him "get it" without his wife needing to bang on & on about it so win - win isn't it?

AThingInYourLife · 27/04/2012 13:45

Yeah, people who don't bitch about their spouses to anyone who will listen are living in a "sealed tin". Hmm

What happened is only win-win if you consider being married to a disloyal chauvinist a win.

Xales · 27/04/2012 14:24

I think while you have your H 'shocked' by work colleagues that he not you was being unreasonable you should get a baby sitter, go out for the evening and lay out all your cards from your initial post about how far down the list of priorities you feel you and your children are and agree a holiday for all of you!

Otherwise nothing will change he will still claim work is too busy for time off with the family when clearly it isn't.

MarthasHarbour · 27/04/2012 21:03

i'm with you thefurryone Grin

MarthasHarbour · 27/04/2012 21:03

but YY to xales idea

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