to get arsey right back when dh was arsey with me for being uncontactable by phone for 90 minutes?

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I am fecking livid and feeling extraordinarily sorry for myself all at the same time.

Basically, I sahm, and dh is self employed, works all over the place, random hours, goes away, no two days are the same sort of gig.

The dc are at primary school.

Anyway, nice day here, sun is out and I thought I'd make the most of it because there has been so much rain, with more to come, so I'd go out and do some gardening.

Meanwhile, school phoned here on the landline and on my mobile to say ds was feeling poorly and could I bring him home.

Well - I didn't hear those calls.

So they phoned dh and when he couldn't get hold of me either, he decided to leave work, come home on the bus (45 minutes) and collect ds from school.

When it started to rain and I came in from the garden, I picked up a call from school and said yes I'll come and get ds (we live 5 minutes walk away).

Met dh bringing ds home while I was on my way down to school!

Dh was very arsey with me for not having my mobile out in the garden.

I said fuxake, do I have to be at everyone's beck and call every minute of the chuffing day?

If I am not there to pick up the slack re. childcare then suddenly everyone is terribly inconvenienced, but does he appreciate me for being there to take care of this sort of thing normally? Does he my arse.

I really truly feel like fucking off on my own for a couple of weeks .

Everlong, re the hospital I know that there was no signal at all when I had to take DD. I don't know if the hosp has managed to do this on purpose or it was just a vodaphone issue but my phone died immediately. Plus there were a lot of signs up saying to switch off mobiles.

As for swimming, well in a pool for an hour, half hour drying, changing, faffing about - well that's the same amount of time OP was in the garden for, so I don't see the difference really.

Diddle

I don´t have a problem.

Like many of us you have had children in school & not been instantly available-& it´s no big deal.

Some of us are still not instantly available even though it´s a possibility.

Do you have a problem with that?

Hope you never inadvertently go out of reach of your phone for an hour and a half then everlong.

The thing is that before mobiles, it probably never occurred to a parent that they needed to be "on hand" "just in case".

I think they can bring up unnecessary anxieties.

I am partly deaf. I cannot hear the house phone in the bathroom (from any of 3 handsets). I DON'T carry my mobile into the bathroom for what may be a period of up to half an hour (depending on what I'm doing). I'll check the answer phone when done.

I carry my mobile around with me when out of the house. I can't always hear it ring, even on the loudest setting, and don't always feel the vibration either. I check it regularly, but it can be maybe 90 mins between checks sometimes. I am NOT going to obsessively check my phone every 2 mins just in case, especially since I've only been called about twice in 7 years.

In fact yesterday, either of my DCs would have had to wait a minimum of half an hour for an adult to collect them, as I was at a shopping centre 15 miles away, DP at work 15 miles away and my dad, as 3rd contact, at a hospital appointment about 15-20 miles away. And no, the shopping centre could not have waited as I needed to get DD some last minute things for her school trip to France ( she left at 5pm today).

If DCs needed an adult, it would have to have waited....

And I should have added that I REFUSE to answer my mobile when driving, even hands free. My voicemail message explicitly states this.

Sorry Everlong, that was in reply to you saying you wouldn't turn your phone off in a hospital. Not sure you'd have a choice is all.

Oh, maybe it's different in A&E then?

Hello,

I read the thread earlier but wasn't able to post. My first thought was your DH might have been angry because he was worried about you?

I'm not explaining this very well but that feeling of a mixture of relief that everything is ok alongside annoyance that you were worrying unnecessarily.

Anyway -that's my tuppence worth!

The midwives probably said nothing, because they are fed up of abuse when they ask people not to use them.

They shouldn't be used in areas such as theatres/ITU etc.

They really shouldn't be use on the ward - but mainly because patients can be TERRIBLY rude and don't get off them when you go to speak to them and provide care....

Detective, do you know if hospitals can 'block' a mobile signal? Was just wondering. When I was there with DD no-one was using a phone inside (from what I could see) but quite a few were going outside, and round the corner, before using them. My phone went crazy with messages when we left (after 6 hours gaah!) but had absolutely no signal when we were there

Why couldn't you put your mobile phone in your pocket? That's the whole point of them - they are mobile.
If my DH had to leave work to go and collect our DC from school, and came home to find me pottering around in the garden, (and from the sounds of your posts, not really giving a shit) he would be really pissed off. And quite rightly so.
YABU

LtEve, no, I don't think they block them. I know where I work, and where I have worked in the past - signals are notoriously bad with in the wards. It seems better on the corridors. Not sure why.

Our labour ward is directly above postnatal ward. It is a well known fact you can get a signal on LW, but not on PN.

I suspect the thickness of the walls, and perhaps mobile phone masts aren't allowed to be placed with in a certain distance of hospitals? I'm making that bit up, but it might be right? Will google!

I was wrong !

I work and dp is the sahp, I would have been cross if I couldn't contact him for 90 minutes to pick up a sick child but I am very impatient and easily irritated!

Update: dh and I are separating.