to get arsey right back when dh was arsey with me for being uncontactable by phone for 90 minutes?

[bibbitybobbitybunny]

I am fecking livid and feeling extraordinarily sorry for myself all at the same time.

Basically, I sahm, and dh is self employed, works all over the place, random hours, goes away, no two days are the same sort of gig.

The dc are at primary school.

Anyway, nice day here, sun is out and I thought I'd make the most of it because there has been so much rain, with more to come, so I'd go out and do some gardening.

Meanwhile, school phoned here on the landline and on my mobile to say ds was feeling poorly and could I bring him home.

Well - I didn't hear those calls.

So they phoned dh and when he couldn't get hold of me either, he decided to leave work, come home on the bus (45 minutes) and collect ds from school.

When it started to rain and I came in from the garden, I picked up a call from school and said yes I'll come and get ds (we live 5 minutes walk away).

Met dh bringing ds home while I was on my way down to school!

Dh was very arsey with me for not having my mobile out in the garden.

I said fuxake, do I have to be at everyone's beck and call every minute of the chuffing day?

If I am not there to pick up the slack re. childcare then suddenly everyone is terribly inconvenienced, but does he appreciate me for being there to take care of this sort of thing normally? Does he my arse.

I really truly feel like fucking off on my own for a couple of weeks .

I imagine they're the people whobrecord every second of their lives on fb
if were making assumptions here

Was in response to lteve asking about Peope who have to have their phone with them at all times. But was also a slightly angry/flippant comment in response to whoever called the op a bad mother.
Not really sure I can keep it up as my phones usuallly in my hand! Rarely works as a phone tho

"We are all different some me people would hate for a dc to have to go to hospital possibly without them and others are ok for their child to wait for the parent to turn up."

But I think that you take a judgement call of chances of this happening & how contactable you are prepared/able to be.

We didn´t have a phone until I was 14-there were certainly no calls to collect me after it was installed-can´t ever remember sitting ill at school waiting for mum prior to that.

But what did schools do previously?

I also hate the expectation that everyone is instantly contactable 24/7.

Having spoken to my husband about this, his "annoyance" would be that the child had had to wait for him when I could have been there sooner.

But he has never expected that I be immediately contactable as part of being a SAHM.

Just asked DH about this, he's pointed out to me that his mum didn't have a phone until he paid for one to be installed after he left school! His mum has never owned a car AND his school was 8 miles from home.

Bloody good job he wasn't expecting her to be contactable huh, especially as most of his time at school was probably spent breaking every rule and playing every dangerous game he could get away with - not like the wrapped in cotton wool games they play today!

(sorry guys, I'm just taking the piss, but I really do think we've gone a little too far with this kind of thing )

"(sorry guys, I'm just taking the piss, but I really do think we've gone a little too far with this kind of thing)"

I think I love you

Me too. I hate the thought of him waiting upset. Maybe that gets easier as they get past reception stage. But I don't think the op did wrong.

But I am contactable-just not necessarily immediately

FFS she was uncontactable for a short time (not larking about) and school and DH got all Captain Panicky. It's ridiculous to expect a parent to be always available.

DiddlBut what did schools do previously?

They weren't so careful when we were children (see up post about me walking home looking like Freddie with concussion) I was sat ouside the HT's office until I came round. I don't know if they even phoned.

Really everlong? Do you never go swimming? Would you not visit a relative in hospital?

"i always find it incomprehensible that some people resent their kids so much that they feel put out when they have to care for them" I agree with you Joanna2012 although what your comment has to do with anything on this thread I am not quite grasping ... perhaps you could spell that out for me?

Erm, OP, have you actually asked your DH why he left work and collected DS when the voicemail from the school didnt ask him to and that they would keep calling you?

I´d missed that post, helpyourself

So pre-mobiles, would you have sat outside the school/stayed by the phone/given the phone numbers of all the places that you might be during school hours, everlong?

What has not wanting to be contactable got to do with anything?

"That is different to not wanting to be contactable."

Has anyone said that they don´t want to be contactable?

I need sometime away from my mobile - runing, gardening, walking, to let my mind wander. Or else I'm forever on call and being pinged and it would drive me insane. I can't think anyone can be on the end of the phone all the time and NEVER have solitude.

"But I do have a mobile now"

Has there been a time that you haven´t had a mobile since your child/ren has been at school?

Everlong, can we just get this clear. Are you saying that because my mobile was inside and I was outside for an hour and a half that that means I do not want to be contactable by mobile phone? And that therefore I am a bad parent? That I do not care if my dc are ill and I am taking the piss out of my dh who earns all the money for the family?

But when you didn´t have one & they were at school-you didn´t feel that you should get one purely to be instantly contactable by the school?

Well if that´s the case bibbity, I´m in the clear as I don´t have a mobile.

Or maybe my not having a mobile means I shouldn´t leave the house during school hours.